if my family is not on board, then whats the point?
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That's a good point about the kids pitching in. Even my 11-year-old can make quesadillas and "fancy" sandwiches. My 13-year-old makes pizza and bakes goodies from scratch, and the 20-year-old makes good casseroles and pasta dishes. They all work together to make pancakes. It's a life skill they need, and it can really help you on the busiest days.11
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My mother always told us that if we didn't like what was set in front of us then we could go hungry. I never went hungry but I did learn to eat some things that I didn't care for.16
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kristie8351 wrote: »So sick of trying so hard to please others, and get no support back.
Cooking 3 different meals each night is draining, I cook mine last, but then can't be bothered. So I snack or under eat?!
Feeling sad atm.. I've lost weight, and I'm craving for encouragement from my family aswell... Yet no one says anything or helps in anyway
I am SOOOO with you on this!!! I've lost a little bit of weight, by cutting down on portion control, not eating past 7pm, increasing water intake.... My wife continues to eat carbs.. the bad ones... excess pastas, potatoes... after dinner she'll have a bowl of ice cream, then she'll crave salt so she will grab potato chips... and yet complain that is overweight... I try to encourage her... but she tells me don't start with me. ... can you say FRUSTRATION8 -
I don't know? What is the point for You?
Maybe you think your health is less important than your husband and kids desire not to do kitchen chores. Maybe you think kids growing up knowing how to be polite and thankful at whatever they are served even if not there favoriteis not a good thing. Maybe you are worried about the future of the restaurant industry and think kids and husband don'tneed to learn to cook to keep future short order cooks employed.
No really time for everyone eats the same meal different portions cooks choice and everyone over 10 cooks once a week at least
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kristie8351 wrote: »So sick of trying so hard to please others, and get no support back.
Cooking 3 different meals each night is draining, I cook mine last, but then can't be bothered. So I snack or under eat?!
Feeling sad atm.. I've lost weight, and I'm craving for encouragement from my family aswell... Yet no one says anything or helps in anyway
I am SOOOO with you on this!!! I've lost a little bit of weight, by cutting down on portion control, not eating past 7pm, increasing water intake.... My wife continues to eat carbs.. the bad ones... excess pastas, potatoes... after dinner she'll have a bowl of ice cream, then she'll crave salt so she will grab potato chips... and yet complain that is overweight... I try to encourage her... but she tells me don't start with me. ... can you say FRUSTRATION
Carbs aren't bad... unless your bagel is mouldy?11 -
You cook ONE meal and they have two options; take it or leave it. That's it.16
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Love all the ideas coming in..... but when I work 8-10 hours a day.. and she is the one cooking dinner.... what do you do? I make request for certain foods.... and I get it about once a week maybe twice.2
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@RandJ6280
1) You eat what she cooks, just less of it. This would require you being less restrictive in your eating plan. Easiest option.
2) You negotiate with her to always include things you want. Meat and veg for you, add a starch and sweet for them.
3) You switch household roles and start cooking for the family.
4) You just cook for yourself.10 -
@RandJ6280 what you do is weigh your portion.1
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Love all the ideas coming in..... but when I work 8-10 hours a day.. and she is the one cooking dinner.... what do you do? I make request for certain foods.... and I get it about once a week maybe twice.Love all the ideas coming in..... but when I work 8-10 hours a day.. and she is the one cooking dinner.... what do you do? I make request for certain foods.... and I get it about once a week maybe twice.
Then eat less or not at all at work.3 -
Love all the ideas coming in..... but when I work 8-10 hours a day.. and she is the one cooking dinner.... what do you do? I make request for certain foods.... and I get it about once a week maybe twice.
Man up and cook your own dinner if you don't like what someone else made. You are an adult, right?14 -
@RandJ6280 You keep a bag of salad in the fridge or frozen veg in the freezer, and add that.
My fiance and I swap weeks of meal planning/grocery shopping, so every other week I have no control over what we make for dinner. Fiance isn't trying to lose weight, so I am not about to ask him to make his weeks harder by making special food for me. I'm the one who'd like to drop five vanity pounds, so I'm the one responsible for what I eat - not him.
I drink extra water while we cook, add salad, and take smaller portions.7 -
kristie8351 wrote: »I have one big kid, my partner lol, and 5 children between the ages of 15 months to 18 years, I always put them first. Now I've decided to think about me for a change, I get complaints
Meal prep is your friend. You can cook up to a week's worth of food for you, freeze or store in the fridge, and you won't have to cook your meals every day. I also invested in a vacuum sealer just for this reason. I can not only meal prep everything but I can freeze in individual portions if I want. Just cook theirs, then eat what you prepped for yourself. You can't force someone else to eat healthy just because you want to, you'll be spinning your wheels. My family has, over time, begun to eat better (and thankfully my wife is now on board for the most part), but for the longest time I either made things differently for myself and them or made my meals separate or differently, or prepped them ahead of time. There are still times the family wants stuff like spaghetti.. I now just eat it anyway and try to plan ahead and eat less the rest of the day to keep the calories under control, but I've already lost my weight and it's now easier to maintain.3 -
Then eat less or not at all at work. [/quote]
Well I am trying I/F and if I don't eat breakfast and lunch....1 -
Stop making 3 dinners every night.
You have a lot of humans in your household who could help prepare food for themselves and others.
My policy, and the one I grew up with, was that if you didn't want the prepared dinner you could make yourself a sandwich or bowl of cereal.
Now these other humans in your home all have different needs and preferences so their plates don't need to look exactly identical to each other. It is reasonable for active growing children and men to eat higher calorie foods.
Are you planning meals? What sort of things are you making and what do they want?
You could make more things that can be customized.
Tacos- everyone can pick and choose what to add
Pasta- cheese or sauce or meat added individually.
meat, 2 side dishes, add butter or sauces individually
You could eat some of what they want and pile the rest of your plate with vegetables.5 -
My husband cooks for me a lot. He is a great cook and I am still quite the novice. He loves to add butter and oils and cheese and all sorts of delicious things. I don't complain, I just eat less of those things and always keep microwave veggies on hand for volume eating if I need to for calories. I just ask him to let me know what he used so I can log it.
@TavistockToad made an interesting point about why not make your kids eat healthier meals too. I know some kids are super picky, but exposure to a wider range of foods and healthy options seems like a reasonable thing to teach kids.
Lots of good advice to make your meals more modular, OP, among other good suggestions. Good luck.3 -
Read this:kristie8351 wrote: »So sick of trying so hard to please others, and get no support back.
Cooking 3 different meals each night is draining, I cook mine last, but then can't be bothered. So I snack or under eat?!
Feeling sad atm.. I've lost weight, and I'm craving for encouragement from my family aswell... Yet no one says anything or helps in anyway
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Why is it your OBLIGATION to be the only one to cook? Your partner should be cooking too.kristie8351 wrote: »I have a partner and kids that have different tastes, I try to get them to eat what I, well we all should, but if there's no butter, cream, bacon or cheese its a no go...
At the end of my day I just want to relax and unwind,
How do we get family members involved, without it making them feeling obligated?
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Lol, I don't think it's that. I think it has more to do with hearing less complaining.TavistockToad wrote: »kristie8351 wrote: »Yeah I try but it always turns into me giving in and cooking for everyone else.. Then I guess I should really pretty cook my meals so its not so hard, I'm in this for the long run, so I guess they have to get used to it
stop giving in, if its what you want to do.
i never understand why people don't want their kids to eat healthy food...
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