need some motivation/advice/encouragement

amber_marie1113
amber_marie1113 Posts: 1
edited December 2024 in Health and Weight Loss
I have tried to lose weight and get in shape more times than I can count. Every time I start, I think "This is the time I'm going to stick with it." And obviously because I'm here asking for help, I haven't stuck with it. I make excuses such as: I work at a fast food restaurant, I work crazy hours that don't offer a consistent time to exercise or eat, and the fact that I love food. I've self-diagnosed myself with a binge eating disorder due to me eating to the point of being physically and mentally sick. I sneak foods when my boyfriend goes to work. I lie about what I have eaten for the day. I also lie when I see a friend while picking up fast food to go that it's not all for me when in actuality it is all for me and then some. I've tracked my calorie intake on a day I thought I did well and it was 3200. I need help before I get into some serious health issues and I know if I continue this path, it will be just that. Any suggestions would be very helpful. Thanks for reading.

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  • DMRun
    DMRun Posts: 25
  • LisaGore1
    LisaGore1 Posts: 41
    you got to look at it as a lifestyle change and not depriving yourself like a diet. Only you can help you. no one is going to do it for you. take baby steps one step at a time start by drinking more water less soda. Also lying to others about what you did or did not eat is only cheating your self no one really cares what you eat only you should. its hard work at first but will get easier the more you eat healthier. I would suggest trying the exchange some not so good foods with better foods and slowly work on it. Like I said one step at a time.
  • japruzze
    japruzze Posts: 453 Member
    Only you can make it happen. There is nothing I can say that you don't already know. At my all time high I weighed 310 lbs. I have lost over 150 lbs ( at my lowest it was 170 lbs). There was nothing anyone could say or do that made me lose the weight. One day after visiting my doctor light dawned. Not sure what was said but I suddenly realized that that I needed to make a choice between food and life. The way I was going both weren't going to be possible. It wasn't easy. It didn't happen over night. But I lost the weight, got off all the meds, started exercising and changed my life. It meant not making excuses for myself. Being honest with myself. And putting myself first. I was worth the time, energy and effort required to get healthy. It's about taking your life back from food. So find your muse and make it happen. As only YOU can! Good luck!
  • asugar
    asugar Posts: 178 Member
    Hey, I would suggest you seek out a professional counselor or therapist. You gotta get to the bottom of why you are self-sabatoging. I wish the best for you.
  • ninerbuff
    ninerbuff Posts: 49,043 Member
    First and foremost........................you have to make the COMMITMENT.

    Here's how you define commitment:

    Bacon, Eggs and Toast breakfast. The toast in the breakfast had many people "involved" in making it. The baker, the trucker, the stocker who put it on the shelves all had a hand in it. The eggs also had "involved" people and a chicken in it. The chicken laid it, the farmer gathered it, the trucker trucked it, the stocker stocked. But the bacon.................the pig was committed.

    Be the pig. Then the rest will be easy.

    A.C.E. Certified Personal/Group FitnessTrainer
    IDEA Fitness member
    Kickboxing Certified Instructor
    Been in fitness for 28+ years and have studied kinesiology and nutrition
  • LisaGore1
    LisaGore1 Posts: 41
    Only you can make it happen. There is nothing I can say that you don't already know. At my all time high I weighed 310 lbs. I have lost over 150 lbs ( at my lowest it was 170 lbs). There was nothing anyone could say or do that made me lose the weight. One day after visiting my doctor light dawned. Not sure what was said but I suddenly realized that that I needed to make a choice between food and life. The way I was going both weren't going to be possible. It wasn't easy. It didn't happen over night. But I lost the weight, got off all the meds, started exercising and changed my life. It meant not making excuses for myself. Being honest with myself. And putting myself first. I was worth the time, energy and effort required to get healthy. It's about taking your life back from food. So find your muse and make it happen. As only YOU can! Good luck!
    well said!
  • DMRun
    DMRun Posts: 25
    I feel for you...I am having some issues with sticking with the plan myself. I read your post -- and it sounds like you do have good intentions. I'm not a therapist or a doctor...but I think that you should approach your doctor with these issues and get some direction. Again, I'm not an expert, but I think because you are lying about food, and sneaking food there may be other issues that you need to address to come to terms with why you do that. I think you are incredibly brave and strong to be so honest about what your going through...and you obviously want motivation to be healthy! :flowerforyou: THAT is a great first step. Would it help if you talked to your boyfriend or a close friend and explain what you are going through? You are stronger than food, and you are stronger than whatever it is that takes you to the point of binging, lying and sneaking food! You can do this!!
  • elyelyse
    elyelyse Posts: 1,454 Member
    I really think that tracking your eating every day as the day goes on (instead of just a day here and there) makes a huge difference. It lets you see what everything you are eating is "worth" in relation to an appropriate intake for the day. I feel it's easier to resist multiple and/or high calorie meals and snacks when I can look at my food diary for the day and see that I am already approaching a healthy limit for that day. If you don't know that you have overeaten for that day until the day is over, it's already too late to fix that day.

    I have been a compulsive overeater my entire life. I've done all those things you mention: binging till I feel sick, hiding my food from others. For me, being able to look at the list, every day, and think about what I have eaten, and what I will eat to get the most out of the calories I am "allowed" is the biggest help for getting things under control.

    May I suggest even keeping track on those days that you feel most out of control. Don't ignore them. Own it, then change it. As another person replied, the changes can be a little at a time, not everyone can go "cold turkey"! When you really keep track, and you can see even the small changes as successes, it may help motivate you towards more change.

    good luck!
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