Father not helping.

I'm sorry you're feeling discouraged. It can be difficult trying to make lifestyle changes while living with someone who isn't fully on board with your efforts. It's great that both you and your sister are using MFP, but it sounds like your father may not be ready to accept the changes that need to be made for his own health. As much as you love him, you can't make him change, and he has to get to a place where he wants it for himself.

That said, maybe you can have a conversation with him about some of the issues you mention. It can be hard to say no to food that someone makes for you. For many people, food has very close emotional ties--we can associate it with family gatherings and the love of the person who prepared it for us. Perhaps you can explain to him that you very much appreciate when he cooks for you, but you are limiting the amount (and possibly type) of food you are eating in order to become a healthier and happier version of yourself. Regarding the waste issue--look at it this way. You can waste food by not eating it, or you can waste it by eating too much and carrying it around on your body. Suggest your dad store leftovers for meals the following day, or simply cut down on the quantity he prepares. Either way should ultimately help cut down the household cost of food--remember, the less you're consuming, the less he has to buy!

Lastly, you are absolutely allowed to feel hurt by your dad's joke. It sounds a little mean-spirited and definitely taken too far. Again, a frank (and hopefully calm) conversation with him might be the best answer. Something along the lines of, "Dad, I know you were just joking around, but it really hurt my feelings when you wrote my name on the cake. I know I've had issues with food for a long time, but I'm trying to change that. It makes it harder to keep going when I feel like you're not supportive." Hopefully he's receptive to this, but remember--this is ultimately your choice and your responsibility to yourself. Letting others undermine your efforts at weight loss only hurts you. You cannot control your dad's actions; you can only control how you react to them.

Losing nine pounds in a month is great progress, and you should be so proud of yourself! With or without your dad's support, you can do this--MFP has a great community and plenty of people who are here to help you on your way. Feel free to friend me if you need another cheerleader. Good luck! :flowerforyou:

Perhaps you could take over more of the cooking or at least step in and say "you've done all the work cooking it, I'll plate it". And if you can't do that, I say eat as much of your plate as will make you satisfied and then take your plate out to the kitchen and put the rest in a leftover container. If he questions you, just say "I don't want to waste what I can't eat so I'll just set that aside for lunch tomorrow".

Sounds to me that you and Dad are eating buddies so he may not be consious of it but he knows you'll eat as much as he will and that makes he feel less bad about his choices and portions. You're just going to have to keep talking to him about it and keep reminding him, as annoying as it may be. And once he sees how well the program is working for you, maybe he'll decide to join in. Right now he may be thinking "yeah, this is just another one of those diets my girls try" and doesn't think it'll work long term. Be patient and give it time and who knows, maybe he'll come around.