What I've noticed since losing my weight...
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People can be downright shallow. All of a sudden women who I've known for years are interested. I mean, I understand that they weren't attracted to the 370 pound me, but hey I'm still the same person I was back then. Guys are no different. They all of a sudden wanna hang out around me, as if I'm "worthy" of being in their presence. Hmm, maybe it's just me who has this issue.
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I totally agree man. I get what you are saying. Now that Im smaller guys have been complimenting me and hitting on me. Which, guys never payed attention to me before. They have been treating me totally different honestly. Even my male friends, not hitting on me necessarily, just, treating me differently.
I suppose we can consider them all shallow, but there might be another side to it.
Since I have lost weight I've been wearing more form fitting clothes, painting my nails and wearing make up, just taking more of an interest in my appearance and my femininity. I am also more outgoing. Maybe you have been doing something similar to that. Or just carrying yourself with more confidence and dignity. Perhapse people are drawn to that. Possibility?0 -
Yeah, I can totally see that. I do walk around with more of a..dare I say "swagger". Hmm, well that gives me something to think about.0
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Would you want to date a walking heart attack, no matter how nice they may be, being aware of the eventual, inevitable, emotional suffering of you and such a partner?0
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Yes, I would deff consider your swag lol.
ironanimal, that is fair but it kinda hurts anyway.0 -
People can be downright shallow. All of a sudden women who I've known for years are interested. I mean, I understand that they weren't attracted to the 370 pound me, but hey I'm still the same person I was back then. Guys are no different. They all of a sudden wanna hang out around me, as if I'm "worthy" of being in their presence. Hmm, maybe it's just me who has this issue.
Women can suck just as much as men do...that's for sure! I hope you don't give them the time of day.
As for the men....were your male friends more active and in better shape than you when you were 370? I'm making a huge assumption here but it could be you just have more in common with your male friends now and that's whats making them wanting to hang with you more. Or they could just be total a holes and you need to get out there and make better friends who value you as a person.
In any case, I'm sorry you're dealing with this. Us women sometimes forget that men have struggles too!0 -
I totally agree man. I get what you are saying. Now that Im smaller guys have been complimenting me and hitting on me. Which, guys never payed attention to me before. They have been treating me totally different honestly. Even my male friends, not hitting on me necessarily, just, treating me differently.
I suppose we can consider them all shallow, but there might be another side to it.
Since I have lost weight I've been wearing more form fitting clothes, painting my nails and wearing make up, just taking more of an interest in my appearance and my femininity. I am also more outgoing. Maybe you have been doing something similar to that. Or just carrying yourself with more confidence and dignity. Perhapse people are drawn to that. Possibility?
i agree...when you like yourself more people do respond.0 -
Yeah, I can totally see that. I do walk around with more of a..dare I say "swagger". Hmm, well that gives me something to think about.
I was going to say something similar. Yes, in many ways you are the same person, but I find as I lost the weight I became much more confident, and that confidence is very attractive to many people. So while being the same, you are not really completely the same.0 -
Would you want to date a walking heart attack, no matter how nice they may be, being aware of the eventual, inevitable, emotional suffering of you and such a partner?0
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This brings me back to something I learned in college. When you are more comfortable and confident in yourself, you become more approachable. I used to think that I needed to "dress up" to go out to the bars (it was the mid to late 90's, so everyone was wearing tight flared leg black pants and skimpy tank tops. Anyhow, EVERY time I went out like that with make up on and hair done nicely no one would talk to me. Then, on the nights I went straight from class to go out, wearing jeans and a hoodie I would end up getting a handful of phone numbers and all kinds of attention...comfort in your own skin goes a LONG way!0
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