Lack of motivation from MFP friends

I don't have a lot of friends, but I usually pick them up from interesting threads or through direct messaging first. I often get comments and make them back.

For me, little things like, "Good Job!" on everything I post isn't encouraging. I try ask questions and have discussions with my friends on what they are doing, why, how it's working, and that sort of thing.

I agree with littlemermaid though, delete them. That doesn't mean go private though, just keep trying.

I don't have a lot of friends, but I usually pick them up from interesting threads or through direct messaging first. I often get comments and make them back.

For me, little things like, "Good Job!" on everything I post isn't encouraging. I try ask questions and have discussions with my friends on what they are doing, why, how it's working, and that sort of thing.

right! seems like the cookie cutter response to everything. I have friends who are doing the same workout as me and we talk about what day we are on, how we felt doing it, how we are doing it differently, etc.

A few thoughts, please don't kill the thinker.

With the exception of one person, all my MFP friends are complete strangers, we don't even live in the same time zone. I don't have the same expectations, if that's the right word, for strangers as I would with someone I know in the non-virtual world. I also don't expect them to spend their time posting long responses or questions to what I post. Many people have dozens of friends on here, it would be a full time job to respond to every single person's post, let alone if they post more than one thing a day. I have limited time to read long comments and posts. However when I, or one of my friends sees something that they think requires a longer response/question. If we want to know more about something that someone has mentioned we ask/comment. Or if someone really needs encouragement, then we jump in. In my opinion, that someone even took the time to look at my posts and comment, even if only generic, is something I appreciate.

Also, I'm not losing weight for someone else; I'm losing it for me. If I'm relying on comments from others (mostly strangers) on MFP as my support system, I am doomed to failure - the motivation has to come from within (and from friends out in the real world who really know you). How can you really be accountable or get genuine encouragement from someone you don't know and whom you can delete or be deleted by at any time?

Just my thoughts.

I am in need of some motivational pals! Need some people to chat with daily! Add me if you would like! Thanks

I admit that sometimes I don't always comment. I tend to go through phases where I comment more or less. However, I have noticed that I tend to comment more on the status things that people write over the completed diary posts/exercise posts unless I have some type of question.

add me add me add me hehehehe

I will try to help you and boost you up when you need it! I haven't been on MFP long, but I do enjoy it - lots more than FB. If you won't get tired of cleshay's (spell check) then, Im for you

Shell:

I know how you feel. I try to be very encouraging even if it's little comments but if I need motivation myself nobody says a word. It is disheartening. Though yesterday I posted that I had failed cause I only did 15 min of my workout and my body hurt so bad and I have arthritis in my shoulder; so I posted it on my FB and didn't care for the responses I received from my friends on there; especially when they say themselves you have to listen to your body. Nobody on MFP responded is my point. Sometimes you just need people to be encouraging or motivating at the right time. So sorry to hear that nobody is responding to your posts.

I try to add comments like way to go or good job when people lose weight, not if they are under calories or something like that. I do find it frustrating when i comment and then they never do.

I admit that sometimes I don't always comment. I tend to go through phases where I comment more or less. However, I have noticed that I tend to comment more on the status things that people write over the completed diary posts/exercise posts unless I have some type of question.

lol, same here. I never know what to say when commenting on diary completion...I hate responding with just WGT or good job. It seems so insincere.

Delete people who you'd no longer like to have as a friend, and start fresh.

A few thoughts, please don't kill the thinker.

With the exception of one person, all my MFP friends are complete strangers, we don't even live in the same time zone. I don't have the same expectations, if that's the right word, for strangers as I would with someone I know in the non-virtual world. I also don't expect them to spend their time posting long responses or questions to what I post. Many people have dozens of friends on here, it would be a full time job to respond to every single person's post, let alone if they post more than one thing a day. I have limited time to read long comments and posts. However when I, or one of my friends sees something that they think requires a longer response/question. If we want to know more about something that someone has mentioned we ask/comment. Or if someone really needs encouragement, then we jump in. In my opinion, that someone even took the time to look at my posts and comment, even if only generic, is something I appreciate.

Also, I'm not losing weight for someone else; I'm losing it for me. If I'm relying on comments from others (mostly strangers) on MFP as my support system, I am doomed to failure - the motivation has to come from within (and from friends out in the real world who really know you). How can you really be accountable or get genuine encouragement from someone you don't know and whom you can delete or be deleted by at any time?

Just my thoughts.

Totally agree with this.

I totally agree with this. Honestly, I recently decided to fly solo because I felt like I was starting to come on here more for my friends rather than focusing on me. My motivation comes from the actual people in my life and from within. I think when you start to get caught up in whether your friends commented on your day or workout, etc, its time to re-shift your focus. If you thrive off of the group spirit, than maybe organize some walks with friends or family members, or healthy recipe sharing, something that can give you the social connection you are looking for.

A few thoughts, please don't kill the thinker.

With the exception of one person, all my MFP friends are complete strangers, we don't even live in the same time zone. I don't have the same expectations, if that's the right word, for strangers as I would with someone I know in the non-virtual world. I also don't expect them to spend their time posting long responses or questions to what I post. Many people have dozens of friends on here, it would be a full time job to respond to every single person's post, let alone if they post more than one thing a day. I have limited time to read long comments and posts. However when I, or one of my friends sees something that they think requires a longer response/question. If we want to know more about something that someone has mentioned we ask/comment. Or if someone really needs encouragement, then we jump in. In my opinion, that someone even took the time to look at my posts and comment, even if only generic, is something I appreciate.

Also, I'm not losing weight for someone else; I'm losing it for me. If I'm relying on comments from others (mostly strangers) on MFP as my support system, I am doomed to failure - the motivation has to come from within (and from friends out in the real world who really know you). How can you really be accountable or get genuine encouragement from someone you don't know and whom you can delete or be deleted by at any time?

Just my thoughts.

exactly.

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