New here, and in big trouble...

Hi, everyone. I'm a 53-year old retired firefighter who has let himself go to hell in the food department. I'm six feet tall and went from 229 lbs. on the job, and inflated to 360 lbs. after only 21/2 years of retirement!!! My doctor has me on all kinds of medication for high blood pressure, high cholesterol, depression, gout, anxiety, and diabetes. He had sent me to have a sonigram to check for a possible fatty liver.

Yesterday, the doctor not only found a fatty liver, but also an aortic anyeurism, which, in time, could burst and - poof! - gone in an instant! I'm trying to lose weight on my own, but it's tougher than any fire I've ever faced! The doc wantrs me to have my stomach stapled, but I have no faith in that. (My 50-year old uncle had it done and died two years later...didn't do HIM any good, did it?)

Please help me. I want to see my grandchildren someday.
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  • juicemoogan
    juicemoogan Posts: 994 Member
    I'd say try and get back into doing some of the physical fitness stuff you used to do as a firefighter,

    See if your old buddies will let you join them for some training. that will give you a great kick start.

    Make sure to watch your sodium and Sugar intakes on here, and try to cut out some of the high fat high calorie foods you may be eating and replace them with leaner meats and veggies.


    Start small, baby steps. You didn't get this way in a day, and its not gonna come off in a day. But first of all.. get that keester moving! :)

    Good luck!
  • barmum
    barmum Posts: 73
    Hi ebazz, we're in a similar boat , I've got three hernias and been told to lose 7 + stone before they are prepared to do anything about them , I also get seasonal affective disorder which has on occasion tripped over into depression so you're not alone, I'm not sure how much help I can be except to say , I'll kick your rear if you'll kick mine ;) Good luck and heres to the journey x
  • Thanks for your advice, juice and barmum. I'm sure that I'll get through this with your help!
  • My Dad was a firefighter too here in Vegas.went through the same thing after he retired.Best thing you can do is this site I would say I'm pretty new to it and exercise but seeing peoples success stories really helps so just stay on top of what your doing and keep at it!!Just do it..But you don't have to have Nike's..
  • Working on making it as a career firefighter. I would go back to cardio if at all possible to shed some of the weight you want.. Stay with it sir ;)
  • jennalor
    jennalor Posts: 84 Member
    Hi there! Did your doctor clear you for exercising? I would start with diet and get moving, it doesn't haven' to be dramatic, just going for a walk, or a swim. And incorporating healthier foods, has you doctor given you any special diet or restrictions? I would start with him and make a plan. You can totally do this!
  • kioli
    kioli Posts: 5
    This is actually my first post. Welcome, I have been on MFP for over a year, I have started and stopped several times.
    I am 5' 3' and weigh 225 and have not been under 200# in years. I know surgery is not an option for me. The friends that have had it have had some trouble not only physically but mentally as well.

    Why do you eat? I am an emotional eater, I eat when I am lonely, bored, happy, sad you name it! I love a good opportunity to overeat and drink things that are comforting and delicious. Find out why you are eating and then you can build your strategy for how you are gonna win this battle. My strategy is simple, I have to move more and eat less with consistency!

    The tools on this site have been my saving grace. Make sure you track all your food and exercise. I have found being able to see what my daily numbers are has helped me to see exactly where I am at at all times. Which directs me and helps me make better choices throughout the day. Sometimes my struggle is honestly hour to hour. I look forward to seeing you progress...
  • laura2501
    laura2501 Posts: 107 Member
    yeyyy for u you have made the first step by looking for a place to learn about weight loss and get support from others if you have a question you just type it in and get loads of advice and help from others soo once again WELL DONE just start of small get yourself a pedometer (stepcounter) and see how many steps you do a day then the next day try a few steps more, thats how i started and i lost 4 stone and was doing 30,000 steps a day at the start i was doing 7,000
  • kzcortes
    kzcortes Posts: 208 Member
    First off - thank you for your career of service.

    Definitely use the calorie counter, BMR calculator, etc. on MFP...weight gain comes from consuming more calories than you burn. Start with 15 min of cardio a day (about a week) then 30 min a day (~ 2 weeks) 45 min a day (~1 week) until you can reach 1 hour a day.

    I'm not a nutritionist or physical trainer but I find that gradual - but firm - steps make a difference in the long run. Best of luck!
  • simplydelish2
    simplydelish2 Posts: 726 Member
    Congrats on taking the first step to a healthier life! You can do this...one day at a time. You'll love MFP and the friendships you'll make here. We all face our food demons in our own way, but with the encouragement of others you'll come out the winner!

    Best of luck to you!!!
  • 1Kristine1
    1Kristine1 Posts: 697 Member
    Hi there,
    You have taken a great first step by joining MFP, I know wieghtloss may seem impossible now but just take things one lb at a time. Small changes are key.
    Walking is a really good start.
  • jhoyett
    jhoyett Posts: 92 Member
    Welcome to MFP and congratulations for taking the initiative to do something on your own!

    I recommended starting with the book Eat to Live by Joel Fuhrman. Most of his patients come to him in what sounds like the same situation as yours. His plan produces amazing results in the first few weeks.

    In the meantime, invite LOTS of people to be your friend here because the encouragement will go a long way.

    Good Luck!
  • ohmariposa
    ohmariposa Posts: 372 Member
    welcome to the rest of your life! You are just 53, lots to live for. Start off slow, cut some sugar, take a 10 min walk. You can do this and you owe it to yourself to be the best version of you!!
  • Hello there My name is Charles I have been on my weight loss journey since Jan of this year I started out at 345 lbs and now I weight at 238 lbs will out surgery i consume about 1500 to 2100 calories a day and go to the gym three days a week and I feel great you can do this if you put your mind to it i did so if you feel the need for some advice send me a message and i will do my best to help you good luck to you.
  • scottg1024
    scottg1024 Posts: 224
    Get out and walk. You don't have to do anything heroic to get immediate results. I was 320 lbs when I started, and just had back surgery. Walking each day, starting out at about a half-hour and working up to an hour, has been the majority of my cardio workout (I later added swimming and elliptical). I lost almost 70 lbs my first half-year on here, only to go back to the sedentary lifestyle and eating habits. Friend me if you'd like - we can support each other. It's all about accountability. You can do it!
  • First and foremost.....thank you for all your years of service as a firefighter. My husband is a volunteer on the local dept. here and it's amazing to see what this group of guys has done for him and what he has done for others as well.

    Secondly, start walking.....Walking is about the best exercise and you will see pounds melt ...I promise. I have only been doing this since March 1st and I am down 40 lbs.

    Thirdly, eat lots of fruits and veggies and healthy (Un-processed meats and foods)....I am also learning to eat better. It's not easy at first but stick with it and continue surrounding yourself with the support of others on here. Feel free to add me if you like.


    and whatever you do

    DON'T EVER...NOT EVER....GIVE UP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
  • I just joined yesterday. Realized i need to start making some changes....

    I'd love some 'buddies' to help with motivation and keeping me from cheating... :)

    Good luck !
    Ariana
  • astrampe
    astrampe Posts: 2,169 Member
    Clear any form of exercise with your doctor first, and take it slowly - it will come off....Don't do the firefighter thing and overdo it because you only have one speed (ex-cop talking - it kills you when you want to jump in and go all out - and your body does not want to play....)
    Keep in constant touch with your doctor but stay away from the surgery - this is just as hard and less dangerous.... Good luck!
  • Are they going to repair the aneurysm? My father had the same thing and they successfully remove it and replaced the injured portion of the aorta.

    I would make sure and talk to your doctor, cardiologist etc before starting ANY exercise....you don't want that to rupture....... but you could start focusing on healthier eating....just a little bit each day. Small changes. We will be here to support you! Congrats on the hardest parts....seeing the problem and asking for help.
  • cindybowcut
    cindybowcut Posts: 250 Member
    You've come to the right place. Don't look at the big picture as it will seem too overwhelming. Take it one day at a time, baby steps. Get lots of friends it helps to have the encouragment and motivation they give. Good luck you can do this. You took the first big step already.
  • cmriverside
    cmriverside Posts: 34,422 Member
    A couple psychological things I immediately thought of reading your post.

    As a firefighter, you had a routine. Every day you were required to do your Fitness Program, right? And every day you had jobs to do around the fire house regardless of your calls, right?

    Maybe set yourself a schedule like the one you had at work. Exercise, chores, chat with friends, give back to the community.

    Find a rec center and join. You'll get exercise and fellowship. Then volunteer somewhere. You are still useful, and people still need you.
  • kadins_momma07
    kadins_momma07 Posts: 328 Member
    I'd say try and get back into doing some of the physical fitness stuff you used to do as a firefighter,

    See if your old buddies will let you join them for some training. that will give you a great kick start.

    Make sure to watch your sodium and Sugar intakes on here, and try to cut out some of the high fat high calorie foods you may be eating and replace them with leaner meats and veggies.


    Start small, baby steps. You didn't get this way in a day, and its not gonna come off in a day. But first of all.. get that keester moving! :)

    Good luck!

    ^^ This!
    Wow, sorry to hear all of the rough news from the doctor. I hope you get your health on the right track soon!! Good luck here on MFP!
  • The best thing you can do is just START. If you mess up, forget it and just carry on. It's a daunting prospect having so much work to do so don't think of it like that. Think of it as starting a new phase in your life, a healthier phase. You want to change what you've been doing because what you've been doing has got you where you don't want to be.

    Have a read of the boards, ask for advice, help, motivation. Log what you're doing now (food, drink and exercise) so you can see where the changes need to be made.

    And always remember, this isn't a quick fix, there aren't any that are permanent. These are changes for life that you need to make for a healthier future.
  • sarah6336
    sarah6336 Posts: 108 Member
    I just want to say your situation sounds tough. That is a lot of bad news. Diet and exercise would help you a lot... But, I think you need to take it slow. Personally, I eat mostly fruits and vegetables. That is how I've gotten my weight back on track. Also, I have started to really work out three times at the gym per week, and the rest of the time walk and do yoga at home. I feel a lot better, and for me it has been almost two months. I know you can do it too. Do you live in an area where you can walk? Do you have access to getting a good supply of fruit and vegetables? Try using mfp to meal plan what you are going to eat the day before, and to make a plan for exercise. If you try to make a plan for what you do, you'll feel like you've acomplished something. It will take a while to lose the weight, but I know you can do it!
  • AEC50
    AEC50 Posts: 124 Member
    You can do it! Take it one day at a time and make conscious decisions - for me, joining MFP was the first step in a HUGE lifestyle change.
  • sunshinesquared
    sunshinesquared Posts: 2,733 Member
    Baby steps! Drink lots of water, gradual amounts of exercise (walking) and log EVERYTHING that you eat. You tons of support here on these boards and tons of people, just like you, who have been there done that!!! :-)

    YOU CAN DO THIS!!!!! One day at a time!
  • blondie0942
    blondie0942 Posts: 146 Member
    Hey there :) I sent you a friend request. My advice for you: start small. Go out for a brisk walk in the mornings, start to cut out junk food from your diet and replace them with more fruit, veggies, lean meats, and nuts. Another thing: drink lots of water! I shoot for 64 oz a day. Just by drinking more water, people have kickstarted their weight loss and shed a few pounds.Realize that losing weight is a lifestyle change, and that you can't go back to your unhealthy eating and exercise habits!

    Getting used to eating healthier is the hardest part, but once you get back in the swing of things you'll notice how much better your body feels just by feeding it with good, healthy food and staying hydrated. Possibly the most important thing is to LISTEN TO WHAT YOUR BODY IS SAYING. If you're hungry, eat. If you're tired, go to bed. If you're really sore, don't exercise. Just try to make the best choices you can :)
  • Jbarbo01
    Jbarbo01 Posts: 240 Member
    I applaud your honesty and thank you for years as a fireman. You're right though, you're in big trouble but hope is not lost. If you don't want your stomach stapled, you're going to have to get really serious about your diet. Exercise is so minimal as far as weight loss goes, its 80% diet 20% exercise so never use the fact you cant go running as an excuse. I would get cleared by your doctor what exercise you can do with your current health problems. I assume itll be walking or light water aerobics for now.

    With that out of the way, the focus needs to be on what you're eating. If youre serious about getting healthy, there will be some great changes but you can do it! Nothing that is not a whole food should pass your lips. You should follow The Eat Clean diet by Tosca Reno. Make sure your diet consists of non starchy vegetables, fruit, WHOLE grains which means quinoa, buckwheat, sweet potatoes, sprouted grains, lean cuts of meat (organic if possible), and nuts and seeds. Whole wheat bread is not whole grain by the way. I'd recommend a nutritionist to be your cheerleader and give you advice if you can afford one as well.

    I've lost 20 lbs and conquered an eating disorder, so I know A LOT about dieting and how to do this right if you ever want to message me with questions.

    Good luck!!!!
  • jcstanton
    jcstanton Posts: 1,849 Member
    Hi, everyone. I'm a 53-year old retired firefighter who has let himself go to hell in the food department. I'm six feet tall and went from 229 lbs. on the job, and inflated to 360 lbs. after only 21/2 years of retirement!!! My doctor has me on all kinds of medication for high blood pressure, high cholesterol, depression, gout, anxiety, and diabetes. He had sent me to have a sonigram to check for a possible fatty liver.

    Yesterday, the doctor not only found a fatty liver, but also an aortic anyeurism, which, in time, could burst and - poof! - gone in an instant! I'm trying to lose weight on my own, but it's tougher than any fire I've ever faced! The doc wantrs me to have my stomach stapled, but I have no faith in that. (My 50-year old uncle had it done and died two years later...didn't do HIM any good, did it?)

    Please help me. I want to see my grandchildren someday.

    Did he tell you what the dangers of exercise were with the AA? Are there any? Seems like getting your heart rate up too high could cause it to rupture, but I'm not a medical professional, so...

    It's going to be tough, but I would suggest:

    1. Cut out anything that's boxed, bagged, or canned, as well as all fast food. The first three days are the worst because your body will begin going through withdrawal from all the chemicals and sugars found in processed foods.

    2. Also, watch your sodium, and increase your water consumption. Buy a 32oz. sport bottle and keep refilling it through out the day.

    3. When you go grocery shopping, avoid the center aisles unless there is something specific you need (i.e. whole grain cereal, raw almonds, etc...).

    4. Some frozen veggies are okay, but avoid the ones with sauces and such (stick to the plain veggies) and buy fresh when possible.

    5. Get rid of red meat and stick to lean poultry and fish.

    6. Also eliminate all oils except for olive oil, flax oil, and other sources of omega 3's (this will help increase your good cholesterol and reduce your bad cholesterol).

    7. Limit your dairy and buy lowfat or fat free.

    I am 35 years old and have had high cholesterol, high blood pressure, high triglycerides, fatty liver, and a host of other ailments since I was in my early to mid twenties. I've found that following these guidelines has helped me tremendously in my effort to regain my health. My doctor was astounded at the progress I had made in only three months by doing these things. Feel free to send me a friend request.
  • LoriBeMe
    LoriBeMe Posts: 165 Member
    Hello & welcome!

    You've made your first huge step by joining this forum! So much helpful advice & support from so many people (with a similar goal). After clearing it with your doctors, I would try to start a walking routine, treadmill or wherever works for you.

    Log your food religiously and visit these message boards often for motivation and support!

    The best of luck to you! :)