Please help feeling so fat don't want to see my friends.

Absolutly I have felt that way before…. try to remember that after 8 years,your friend and family has probably changed as well and they want to see you. If you are visiting for a short time just remember that you never know if your friends will be on this earth the next time you get a chance to be together in person. They wouldn't have maintained contact with you if it was only your physical appearance. everyone can use a hug!

and .. make it goal to get back into shape (or not, maybe you are the right size and you were too far under when you first arrived in the UK) at the RIGHT size for you for just enjoying life more.

Hugs!

GURL! I have been there! make sure you buy a new outfit, something that makes you feel good in a pretty color and fake it till you make it! If you don't feel confident, smile and act like the most confident person in the room. Seems silly, but trust me, confidence and a big smile are contagious, and if you act confident soon you WILL BE confident and the people around you will not notice your weight or anything like that, but how incredibly happy you seem and how wonderful they feel around you. Good luck and no matter what your size, know that you are gorgeous inside and out!

Hello, you need to face your friends. They may be able to give you the support you are seeking instead of judging you. It may be them who gives you the motivation to get out there and feel better about yourself. You NEED to get out and see people. Staying in the house can lead to further depression. I

Well first let me say, you really aren't all that bad off. Quite a few of my friends are even shorter than you and in the same weight range and still know how to rock their curves. It's really all about the way you carry yourself.
That being said, I can understand how you are feeling. I went through a period of deep depression when I was at my heaviest weight (much more than your current weight) and I basically became a recluse. I didn't leave my house for months. I would do my shopping in the middle of the night at walmart so I didn't run into anyone I knew. I avoided friends and didn't return their calls. Looking back at that time in my life I regret it, because it's a year of my life I wasted being unhappy. Because, even though I was overweight I still had my health and lots of other great things in my life, but just couldn't see it. I also lost a lot of friends, because when I finally woke up and realized how silly I was being, they didn't wanna know me.
My best advice is just enjoy your time with your friends and make the most out of it. If they are your friends they won't care about your weight, and will just be happy to spend some time with you.

I hope you have a brilliant night!

GURL! I have been there! make sure you buy a new outfit, something that makes you feel good in a pretty color and fake it till you make it! If you don't feel confident, smile and act like the most confident person in the room. Seems silly, but trust me, confidence and a big smile are contagious, and if you act confident soon you WILL BE confident and the people around you will not notice your weight or anything like that, but how incredibly happy you seem and how wonderful they feel around you. Good luck and no matter what your size, know that you are gorgeous inside and out!

THIS!!!!!!
FAKE IT TO YOU MAKE IT is keeey!!! if you act confident and happy people won't even notice and might even say...wow something about you looks really good!

also speaking from experience after spending a long time away from home it's soo good to catch up and be back in an old comfort zone that within 20 min you'll forget all about self consciousness and enjoy being around old friends

Good luck and have a great time

Whoa deep breath!!!! Life is short, go see your friends!!! You are on MFP now....so make a commitment to a healthy lifestyle! Feel good about that commitment and move forward and make plans with your friends! Also......a new pretty top or new hairdo, or mani pedi can go a long way to making a girl feel pretty (lol works for me)!!! Accept where you are in life, commit to making a change, and go out and enjoy life :flowerforyou:

The worst thing you can do is to hide away. You are on track now, by being part of MFP. Just keep eating sensibly and for goodness sake when you're out with your friends for a meal or coffee - do not deny yourself. I tend to go for a healthy salad, remove stuff like most of the mayonnaise etc., and if I want desert I go for the light option. Also, wear sensible clothes - tight T shirts and trousers don't do our fuller figure justice. Easy fitting tops, covering the hips and matching the trousers/skirts can be very slimming.

You've put on weight, you're dealing with it, you'll get there.

Best of luck.

Hi yes and i have spent many years hiding from soc iety because of those very same feelings. I have just conquered these feelings for the first time in many years. I reached a point in january where i had to die or change the way i was feeling I started on the plant based diet at that time and a short time later i joined my fitness pal. Since that time i work very hard to not let any bad feelings enter my head. Its a 24 hr a day job for me. I have lost 80 lbs and cured myself of being insulin dependent diabetic and am taking half of the blood pressure meds i used to be on. Yes i still feel fat at times but i keep working at it I want to lose 50 more and sometimes i fall off the wagon but i remember where i started from and i dont want to go back to that again. You can do it Just set your mind to it and refuse to let anything distract you from your goals