I was feeling so good about my progess until........
dyannajoy
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I went to a family reunion this weekend all dressed up in my first new sundress all summer. I have been walking alot and have lost almost 20 lbs. I felt sooooo good about going to this reunion as most of my family is on the thinner side. UNTIL I saw the picture of me posted on facebook today by my sister (who is thin and who clearly does not like me). It was the most unflattering pose ever and I look like a whale! No really I do. I have aot of pics of me that are unflattering....but nothing like this. I do not think she could have gotten a worse pic if she had tried. I really am feeling very very down. How do I deal with this. ugh......
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First of all, congratulations on losing those 20lbs!
I'd deal with this by using it as a fresh source of motivation. You can see how far you've come, which is good, but I'd personally feel like I couldn't stop there and the photo would be a reminder of the journey you are on. Don't undo all the hard work you've already done. I don't mean this in an offensive way but imagine what you COULD have looked like had you not already shifted the weight?
Pick yourself up, use it to your benefit and keep on going with the spectacular job you're already doing!0 -
Congratulation on your loss don't let this get you down, and try not to take it personally...My husband who supposedly loves me CANNOT ever take a flattering pic of me.....ever.. And there have deff been times when I have let it get me down, and let it bother me more than it should, but then I have to remind myself that no, that is not me, its just a crappy pic. So just put it out of mind and keep up the good work!!0
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Grats on the 20 pounds, that is SO great!!
My suggestions, next weekend, take that sundress and get yourself outside. Go to a beautiful place that you enjoy and get your husband, friend, daughter, whomever, to take some flattering pictures of yourself. Enjoy the day!
Ask your sister (frenemy) to take the picture down, in a nice way, let her know you don't like it and would feel better it not being shown. Also, on Facebook you can untag yourself, that way none of your non-mutual friends will be able to see it tagged as you.
Lastly, take said NEW and improved pictures and post THOSE bad boys on Facebook and let everyone see how beautiful you look in that sundress.
Smile, enjoy life, she is a hater and always will be, done join her crowd.
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Just remember, that in what you think is your 'worse picture ever', your family can only see the beauty in you. Plus anyone who missed being at the picnic will be bowled over when they see your fantastic Thanksgiving/Winter Holiday pictures.0
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I haven't seen my counselor in like 7 months and she says I don't look like I've lost weight. I'd lost like 10-12 pounds at the time.
I brushed it off and have lost even more weight since then.
Your sister could have taken a worse picture, roughly 20 pounds heavier. Be proud. Don't let little things derail you.0 -
That's pretty normal, in my experience. When I'm looking at myself in a mirror, I tend to suck in my gut, etc. Every once in a while I see a "candid photo" that someone has taken at a holiday or event, and think... holy ****, I'm really THAT fat?
I just use those pictures as motivation.
When I get down to my goal, I won't look anything like them. 0 -
Congrats on losing the 20lbs!!!! so sorry you are feeling bad, but i always say we can't pick our family.
remember you are losing weight for YOURSELF! ... use that picture as motivation and inspiration to keep going on this journey of weight loss.. your body will change and you WILL LOSE the weight , but the UGLY that your sister demonstrates will always be there.0 -
Certain angles are horrible no matter what you weigh. I'm sure you looked great!
For now, remove the tag from the picture. She won't be able to tag you in it again. Also, I think the previous poster's idea to take pictures in your sundress, post them, and tag them is a really good idea! Then everyone can see how well you're doing. 0 -
I feel your pain. (Well except for the sister issue)
I couldn't wait to go on vacation and have pictures taken of me to post on FB. So all my friends/family would see I lost weight.
(As the only pics taken of me over the last month or so are the self taken ones in the mirror.. I can't really post those w/o looking silly.. I can get away with one maybe)
In some of the vacation pics, I can see a difference.. but others nope.I don't show any difference at all. I don't look like I've lost a single pound.
(I did receive two comments from friends about looking good, but both of them know I'm trying to lose weight.. )
And on a side note- when I take a self portrait in a mirror, I look pretty darn good. But I can take a picture immediately after that w/ a timer on my 'real' camera, and I look 10-20 lbs heavier :noway: (ie, doesn't look like I've lost a pound) :grumble:
I must have some magically slimming mirrors!!!0 -
Grats on the 20 pounds, that is SO great!!
My suggestions, next weekend, take that sundress and get yourself outside. Go to a beautiful place that you enjoy and get your husband, friend, daughter, whomever, to take some flattering pictures of yourself. Enjoy the day!
Ask your sister (frenemy) to take the picture down, in a nice way, let her know you don't like it and would feel better it not being shown. Also, on Facebook you can untag yourself, that way none of your non-mutual friends will be able to see it tagged as you.
Lastly, take said NEW and improved pictures and post THOSE bad boys on Facebook and let everyone see how beautiful you look in that sundress.
Smile, enjoy life, she is a hater and always will be, done join her crowd.
Best!
thank you so so so much for this advice to take another picture and post on facebook. I will do that this weekend. Also I do not know untag
. And yes she is a very angry and passive aggressive person........I will try really really hard not to try to find revenge at the next picture taking session LOL. Thank you for your kindness and caring. It means so very much to me. 0 -
Congrats on losing the 20lbs!!!! so sorry you are feeling bad, but i always say we can't pick our family.
remember you are losing weight for YOURSELF! ... use that picture as motivation and inspiration to keep going on this journey of weight loss.. your body will change and you WILL LOSE the weight , but the UGLY that your sister demonstrates will always be there.
so true......yes and thank you!0 -
Grats on the 20 pounds, that is SO great!!
My suggestions, next weekend, take that sundress and get yourself outside. Go to a beautiful place that you enjoy and get your husband, friend, daughter, whomever, to take some flattering pictures of yourself. Enjoy the day!
Ask your sister (frenemy) to take the picture down, in a nice way, let her know you don't like it and would feel better it not being shown. Also, on Facebook you can untag yourself, that way none of your non-mutual friends will be able to see it tagged as you.
Lastly, take said NEW and improved pictures and post THOSE bad boys on Facebook and let everyone see how beautiful you look in that sundress.
Smile, enjoy life, she is a hater and always will be, done join her crowd.
Best!
Good advice!
I would use the picture of further motivation. Good work loosing the 20 lbs. I'm not there yet, but I know it takes hard work!0 -
Thank you ALL so very much for your kindness and support. It has helped me more than you can know.. I will take all your wise advice and use it to continue on!:flowerforyou:0
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I agree 100%Grats on the 20 pounds, that is SO great!!
My suggestions, next weekend, take that sundress and get yourself outside. Go to a beautiful place that you enjoy and get your husband, friend, daughter, whomever, to take some flattering pictures of yourself. Enjoy the day!
Ask your sister (frenemy) to take the picture down, in a nice way, let her know you don't like it and would feel better it not being shown. Also, on Facebook you can untag yourself, that way none of your non-mutual friends will be able to see it tagged as you.
Lastly, take said NEW and improved pictures and post THOSE bad boys on Facebook and let everyone see how beautiful you look in that sundress.
Smile, enjoy life, she is a hater and always will be, done join her crowd.
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Hello to another Minnesota Girl!
I am from Duluth, just so's ya knows!
And as for the picture? I can feel your pain.....and I think that MOST of us hate our pictures, most of the time. I always see every flaw, every bulge, every bad thing.............but I'll bet the people who SEE this pic are thinking "wow, Dyannyjoy sure looks good"!!!
Try to let it go...................and, as others have said, use this for motivation to be EVEN BETTER for the next family event!
Much success to you,
Polly
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Dyanna...........just remember..chubby chick or not YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL.....yes YOU ARE GORGEOUS in your own right. Your sister on the other hand...well...even if she were to swallow a bottle of makeup she wouldnt be near as GORGEOUS inside as YOU ARE OUTSIDE. I have a sister like that. Dont sweat it huni...she isnt worth feeling bad over. Ya wanna feel bad........feel bad over those people involved in that shooting near the Texas A&M campus!!
But you? You're gorgeous ...and growing more so daily as you drop another 20. Just think Dyanna......You've already lost 20 pounds!! Can your sister say that? No....because you got her beat INside AND out.....0 -
Congratulations on your weight loss!! But I wouldn't fret over the photo. First, my friend is a photographer, and she said it is an absolute fact that cameras add weight to the photo because it is catching a still image with the lighting and stuff. Second, lighting is a huge factor... I know in some mirrors I feel like I look better in than others (; So, I really wouldn't fret over it! You've accomplished so much already (:0
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Anyone can have a bad photo taken of them, and we all do at some point. Don't focus too much on this, just keep pushing to get to where you want to be and stay determined that you are going to change the part of you that calls yourself a 'whale'. :P You've lost 20 pounds!!! That's more weight than my entire dog! Lol. That's a great accomplishment and something wonderful that you've done for yourself.
I have a suggestion... Get a camera ready, doll yourself up and take some photos of yourself looking great! Have you taken before and after photos? Twenty pounds is probably a bigger difference then you think, and I know seeing photos of myself as I lost the weight was by far one of the coolest things I've seen in my life. We live in our bodies and see them all day long, it's really hard to notice the change as it happens so gradually. Make sure you take before, during and after photos!!! 0 -
Dyanna...........just remember..chubby chick or not YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL.....yes YOU ARE GORGEOUS in your own right. Your sister on the other hand...well...even if she were to swallow a bottle of makeup she wouldnt be near as GORGEOUS inside as YOU ARE OUTSIDE. I have a sister like that. Dont sweat it huni...she isnt worth feeling bad over. Ya wanna feel bad........feel bad over those people involved in that shooting near the Texas A&M campus!!
But you? You're gorgeous ...and growing more so daily as you drop another 20. Just think Dyanna......You've already lost 20 pounds!! Can your sister say that? No....because you got her beat INside AND out.....
oh I think this is just the sweetest thing anyone could say.......thank you precious!0
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