Weight holding you back?

violavi
violavi Posts: 21
edited December 2024 in Motivation and Support
Hey everyone.

I hope I've put this thread in the right place, I think it would fall under the support part!

But my question is this: Has your weight held you back. From really massive things.?

My problem is I'm going to Uni in Sept. I deferred it last year due to my anxiety reaching crazy level, but a big part of that was due to my weight. I'm doing a fashion marketing course, and I feel too fat to go.

Anyone else had stories like this?

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  • healthymewannabe
    healthymewannabe Posts: 30
    I definitely can understand how you feel. As of July I switched positions in the company I work for. I was in the credit department but now am in sales. I actually have interactions with customers now. Every other person in my department is slim, trim, and in shape. I am the token fat chick and hate that. Once I lose this weight I won't be the elephant in the room when we have meetings and such. It is frustrating that everyone else is healthy and I am not, but I am definitely working on it.
  • violavi
    violavi Posts: 21
    I hate being the token fat chick, that's a great way to describe how I feel. I mean, I am trying to work on it, but it sometimes gets you down a bit.
  • wtfusernameisnttaken
    wtfusernameisnttaken Posts: 192
    Hey everyone.

    I hope I've put this thread in the right place, I think it would fall under the support part!

    But my question is this: Has your weight held you back. From really massive things.?

    My problem is I'm going to Uni in Sept. I deferred it last year due to my anxiety reaching crazy level, but a big part of that was due to my weight. I'm doing a fashion marketing course, and I feel too fat to go.

    Anyone else had stories like this?
    I've put off opening my bridal salon until I'm healthy again. :/
  • Miss_dannii
    Miss_dannii Posts: 1,351 Member
    Definitely. My problem is that I still have fat girl issues.. I'm still the same size in my head as I was before.. I suppose it takes a while to build confidence back up again but yeah what's in my head is holding me back from certain things at the moment..
  • thoshowski
    thoshowski Posts: 135 Member
    I think just enjoying myself is holding me back. I can go out for dinner with friends, and I know it is my cheat day or that what I am eating will fit in my calories, but when I reach for that bun, or order pasta, I think people are looking at me wondering why I didn't just order a lettuce with no dressing. It's sad, but sometimes I will only eat half of my meal, even though I am starving, and take it home. When I get home I will eat it so people aren't judging.
  • designnewme
    designnewme Posts: 9
    I definitely have a confidence issue and a large part of it has to do with my weight. I am not happy with the way I look and feel as though people judge me for the way I look, not who I am inside. I have struggled with weight my entire life and am ready to make changes. I want to be a happy me that is not worried about what people think about my looks. I want to buy cute clothes instead of clothes that will work with my fat body. I feel as though I am being held back by my weight in many areas, it is time to make changes.
  • Debbe2
    Debbe2 Posts: 2,071 Member
    Yes, weight held me back in the past but I am much more comfortable in my own skin now and I believe it doesn't hold me back any longer. Keep going for your goals... It will be very worthwhile and it's achievable!
  • jerbear1962
    jerbear1962 Posts: 1,157 Member
    I have walked in for interviews and had that feeling they aren't going to hire the fat man for the job...so yeah I've been held back because of my size
  • jaybird951
    jaybird951 Posts: 53 Member
    not anymore..it used to when I weighed 215-220 but now its a blast being in the low 180s when mountainbiking.
  • m60kaf
    m60kaf Posts: 421 Member
    Chicken and egg

    is one overweight because of a lack of confidence

    and the reality is it is lack of confidence that stops one doing stuff
  • Tis27
    Tis27 Posts: 16
    Definately....
    I have always struggled with my weight and have never been the skinny girl so many strive to be, not that I want to be, I still want to have curves, boobs and a butt!! But until recently my weight was never the reason I just couldn't do something!
    At work there was recently a staff R&R day. A few months prior during a department meeting when we were discussing things to do for R&R day I suggested a place that had many cool outdoor options, one of which was treetop climbing/ziplining.........something I would love to do. Well apparently I wasn't the only one, this is the place that ended up being chosen. So all the plans come through via email and I go to the website to discover that there is a weight limit for the treetop climbing/ziplining.......and I am well over the limit. I was so heartbroken and embarassed, of course now not going everyone will know why!
    I don't want to be this person trapped in a body that doesn't/can't do what I want it to.......but I am having a hard time changing, why is that when I really need to change? I keep asking myself why
  • ellie319
    ellie319 Posts: 139 Member
    i have the opposite problem...i still feel like im the thinner version of myself and when i look in the mirror i get depressed.i jump out of the shower and everyday all my old clothes hang there unused bc i cant even dream of fitting into them
  • TeachTheGirl
    TeachTheGirl Posts: 2,091 Member
    'I won't join a gym until I lose some weight'.

    Yep. That was my mentality before. I was always worried about peoples perceptions of me and it was a catch 22; couldn't lose weight until I hit the gym! Now I joined a gym even though I had to put aside my insecurities and I'm well on my way to my goal.
  • brighteyesxluv
    brighteyesxluv Posts: 334 Member
    I've had so many call backs from modeling agencies,
    letters in the mail for modeling competitions/ try outs/acting
    I was even asked to participate in miss teen illinois before...
    I never went to any, due to money and most of all fear to be torn apart because i'm a size 7, not 00. I'm trying to lose weight but be super fit. not going to be a rail like they want them anyways
  • richx83
    richx83 Posts: 334 Member
    yep, pretty much from living my entire life and i am still waiting for my love life to begin, I have fairly strong beliefs that because of the way I look no girl would even want to talk to me let alone anything more
  • HelenDootson
    HelenDootson Posts: 443 Member
    I once spent a week in Greece watching my husband, two kids, and close friends sail dinghies - I desperately wanted to learn and play but I was too scared - the boat would sink, even if it didn't sink I was not going to fit under the boom, everyone would laugh at the fat woman capsizing.
    My reward for attaining goal (which I will) is Sailing lessons - Then I am going to buy me a dinghy!
    Don't get sad - Get fitter :wink:
  • AliDarling
    AliDarling Posts: 373
    my whole life. I got to 200 when I was 12. missed out on loads of fun stuff. Camping, swimming, amusement parks. At my first job, (230) (resutrant) having to squeeze past the waiters, and by squeeze, they had to walk into the kitchen or dining room to let me by.
    Finally, lost 24 lbs and 40 inches, got into the parting spirit at 20, then got married and pregnant.

    250, and looking for a job. I know most employers will hire thinner people, so thats holding me back now.
  • KyleB65
    KyleB65 Posts: 1,196 Member
    Sounds like it is a lack of confidence and consuming emotions that are holding people back from what they want to achieve rather than any problems with health and weight?

    I know how this feels. I have lost a lot (for me) of weight over the past 18 months. But, I still see the "fat" guy in the mirror every morning. I had thought and hoped that if/when I lost weight and got healthy my insecurities would disappear along with the weight. In the end, I am the same person inside today as I was 2 years ago. It is just that today I can run 10k!

    The loss of weight has helped in that my exercise choices put me in contact with some really nice people who have been encouraging, supportive and become good friends. Through these new friendships I am slowly coming to terms with my insecurities. I am hopeful that I will continue to build my self confidence. Especially since, I believe that coping with my insecurities with food is what made me fat in the first place. I do not want to repeat!
  • manda_rae_k
    manda_rae_k Posts: 17
    I believe that being overweight a majority of my teenage and young adult life has really crippled my social skills. I'm a mess when talking with strangers. I get overly anxious, start worrying what that person is thinking of me, and begin to stumble with my words... I'm blessed that I have the friends and amazing fiance I have today, but I'm worried that I'll never be able to change this socially awkward person I have become.
  • Paul_Hodge
    Paul_Hodge Posts: 15
    I had a job interview once, for a dispatching position at a police department. When I got the final interview with the Chief of Police, he looked me up and down and actually laughed. Seriously. I got the job and lasted only 6 weeks. I think that it had to do with my weight, but I can't prove it.

    Also, what finally motivated me to lose weight was that I couldn't stand looking at myself in the mirror. I hadn't let anyone take a picture of me in 10 years and decided that I wanted to be in the family pictures with my Son before he gets older.

    So, yeah, I'd say my weight has held me back. I would always think that people were talking about me, and my weight, behind my back. The good news, at least for me, was that my Wife is extremely supportive and a friend introduced me to MFP. The weight has started coming off and I feel that my confidence is coming back.

    I do admit that I still struggle in the gym. Where I go most of the people look like they just walked out of the pages of a magazine. You know the types. I finally decided that it didn't matter. I wear an underarmour sweatband and look like a total dork when working out, but I don't care anymore. I suggest that when you are at the gym just remember that you are there for you, not for what others think about you.
  • violavi
    violavi Posts: 21
    Oh man, I want to give you all a big hug! Thank you for sharing your stories! I didn't expect this response.
    I went to the doctor today and she was saying what I'd achieved over the year. Then it got to the point where she said 'the only achievement you'll see is weight loss'. Which is pretty much the truth. I've been conditioned to believe small numbers = worth.
    *sigh*.
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