The doctor made me cry...

Doctors can be *kitten* sometimes (q: what do you call the student who graduated dead last in med school? a: "doctor") - if you want support to do the diet and exercise slog, there are a lot of really kind people here who'd love to give you support

omg don't let your doctors rude words determine your goals for you. I say get another doctor and WORK YOUR *kitten* OFF to prove that one wrong. Then go back into her office when you've lost your weight and say TOLD YA SO!

It will be hard but you can do whatever you put your mind too. The only obsticle in front of you is your mind...move your feet and your body will follow suit

I think your doc is full of ****, ....you can lose weight , it might be slow but you can do it!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Get over that doctor's ****ty opinion. You want to lose weight? Do it. Find a new doctor and/or a nutritionist. You have to be on board though.

That's kind of uncalled for... Not all doctors are rude. As a medical student myself, I can certainly say that doctor was rude to you but not all would be that mean.
You can definately do it! Don't be upset and stay strong

The weird thing is that she was very sweet(?). I think that she genuinely felt that she was coming from a place of helping. But she pretty much just scared the crap out of me.

She probably does think she knows best. Most doctors do. And, the truth is, losing weight takes dedication, and takes a lot longer if you do it the old fashioned way - diet and exercise - rather than surgery. But, the surgery isn't always the best answer, regardless. I know a lot of folks who have had it but gained all of the weight back over time. The bottom line is, unless you change your eating habits, weight loss isn't sustainable over time. I think you're looking to do this the right way. It may take you longer, but you'll be healthier for not having surgery. This is a perfect example of where a second opinion is in order.

I am so sorry that has happened to you. About the same thing happened to me, except I don't have the problems that you do. I had to go see a cardiologist, and he was the one that is so instrumental in my weight loss. He preceded to tell me over and over again throughout my appointment, that I needed gastric bypass, there was no way that I could lose enough weight that would matter. I was seeing red before that appt. was over. That very day I left there with one thing in my mind, I was going to show him! I started that day, and haven't looked back since. I had to return to him 6 months after that, I had lost 70 pounds, the nurses told me they were going to rub it into his face everyday! The worst was he didn't even really say much to me about it, he was like thats good, we will see if you can keep it off. Well, now it is 6 months later, actually it will be one year to the day I have to go back, I am hoping that by then I will have reached my 100lb mark. The point of this rather long story is, don't let anyone tell you that you can't do something, you can do it. Show them how you can, rub it in there faces. I wish you Good Luck

Get a second opinion and that will solve the problem. My daughter has pcos and is having a hard time too. I think it's common.

Yes, see a different doctor. I would have cried to so don't feel bad.

I manged my PCOS first by going vegetarian and then by going vegan. It definitely helps a lot.

Find a new Doctor and tell that one shove it. I have Insulin Resistance and have lost over 110 lbs in about 9 months. My primary is absolute shocked that I have done it. Anyone can.

I assume you are at least on Metformin for diabetes? That should help the blood sugar. Now for the hard part. Go Primal. No joking and no cheating. You have to go low carb or you just won't lose with PCOS. Because you have diabetes you will want to check with a non-idiot Doctor if adequate protein is okay for your kidneys. Unless you currently have kidney issues, it should be fine but it is something that diabetics have to watch.

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And don't let anyone tell you that you can't do something. Do what I did and show them you can.

absolutely this. you can do it sugar!

Find a new doctor who supports you wanting to do everything possible to lose weight naturally. At one time, I didn't think there was a such thing, but I have one now. Make a list of fitness and nutrition goals, do your research, and find what works for you. I absolutely believe that with the right team of doctors and other people by your side, you can lose the weight naturally if that is what you want to do.

Find a new Doctor and tell that one shove it. I have Insulin Resistance and have lost over 110 lbs in about 9 months. My primary is absolute shocked that I have done it. Anyone can.

I assume you are at least on Metformin for diabetes? That should help the blood sugar. Now for the hard part. Go Primal. No joking and no cheating. You have to go low carb or you just won't lose with PCOS. Because you have diabetes you will want to check with a non-idiot Doctor if adequate protein is okay for your kidneys. Unless you currently have kidney issues, it should be fine but it is something that diabetics have to watch.

Go here -- http://www.marksdailyapple.com/
And here -- http://www.diabetes-warrior.net/

And don't let anyone tell you that you can't do something. Do what I did and show them you can.

Wow. Awesome. I love your attitude. OP, don't let anyone tell you you can't do something. She's right.

I went to see a new doctor today and she recommended that I have the weight loss surgery since I have a metabolic disorder (PCOS) and diabetes. She said that the likelihood of me losing enough weight on my own is slim because "that biologically how my body is." I'm so upset. I've been teary all day. Does anyone know anything about this?

It might be more difficult to lose weight when you have particular medical conditions but it certainly is NOT impossible. I have more chronic conditions than I can count on both hands but I'm successfully losing weight--16 lbs. so far--by eating better and exercising more. My progress is much slower than my healthy husband (though I think guys just lose weight a lot easier), but I'm making progress.

Whenever doctors have told me I can't do something, I like to turn it right back around on them and prove them wrong. They don't know you--you know you. You're strong and you will achieve the goals you set your mind to. I'm in your corner!


ETA: I should add that I'm T1--I don't know if you're T1 or T2, but there are tons of diabetics who lose weight in a healthy way. Again, it might be a little slower than you'd like--it's difficult and dangerous to stay on the treadmill if you're having a low--but it can be done and you will do it. And find a different doctor. No matter how sweetly she put it, if she's not on your side when you're trying to get healthy, you need someone else.

I have PCOS too and I find your doctor's lack of faith disturbing but not surprising. As others have said, please go to a different doctor. I have managed to lose weight, albeit very slowly, through managing my diet and exercise. Don't give up hope, do your own research and work *with* a doctor, a doctor who understands, is open to other solutions than surgery. Once I started losing weight my PCOS symptoms started vanishing too.

Good luck! And don't lose heart!