So how long until "divorced" becomes "single"?

ferrytrip
ferrytrip Posts: 497 Member
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So in two months, I will be divorced a year. When does "divorced" become "single"?

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  • Grinb
    Grinb Posts: 123 Member
    LOL I often wonder that when filling out surveys and stuff.
  • LovingMe19
    LovingMe19 Posts: 380 Member
    Whenever you want it to be. But you will still always be considered "divorced"
  • ScarlettIsSpiffing
    ScarlettIsSpiffing Posts: 121 Member
    I guess as soon as you feel ready to move on & get back on the dating game ;)
  • taralc1
    taralc1 Posts: 98 Member
    Whenever you are "ready"
  • scottg1024
    scottg1024 Posts: 224
    When she doesn't haunt you (or your paycheck) anymore...
  • Capekj51
    Capekj51 Posts: 17 Member
    Never.
  • MsNewBooty83
    MsNewBooty83 Posts: 985 Member
    divored is forever, but single starts the day after the papers r signed :)
  • EricNCSU
    EricNCSU Posts: 699 Member
    For me ... as soon as I sign the damn papers. (I've already waited a year to even file... Thanks North Carolina!!)....
  • CalJur
    CalJur Posts: 627 Member
    As soon as the Court issues the judgment declaring you no longer married in my book. Hello!!!!!!
  • ChelSleeve
    ChelSleeve Posts: 144 Member
    Well.. the people i work with make it before the divorce is finalized.. lol
  • EDesq
    EDesq Posts: 1,527 Member
    So in two months, I will be divorced a year. When does "divorced" become "single"?


    There are too many legal and political implications behind it. If it is not some important legal doc, just put single. But think of it as a women going to the doctor and completing the History form...A question asks: Have you ever had any children? She knows she has had an abortion 5 yrs ago...what do you put down? BIG difference between your doctor asking and say, filling out a Credit Card application. ALSO, WOMEN tend to want to know if you have been married before, and if they are young, so do their parents!
  • kprizzl87
    kprizzl87 Posts: 3
    I think its all about your perspective. . .

    For example, When I hear "divorced", there seems to be baggage that comes with that word. But with the word "single", there seems to be a more adventerous tone. Almost like a blank slate?? But thats just how I see it.

    But my goodness, divorced or single, go out there and live life!! :) Its just a silly label, it doesn't change who you are and what you have to give!!!
  • _Calvin_
    _Calvin_ Posts: 122 Member
    According to my attorney I became single the minute the papers for divorce where filed.
  • ferrytrip
    ferrytrip Posts: 497 Member
    When she doesn't haunt you (or your paycheck) anymore...

    So 11 years then. (he laughs)
  • SoDamnHungry
    SoDamnHungry Posts: 6,998 Member
    You're always divorced.
  • scottg1024
    scottg1024 Posts: 224
    When she doesn't haunt you (or your paycheck) anymore...

    So 11 years then. (he laughs)


    No, SHE laughs...I paid support on 3 boys for 18 years (until the youngest finished college.
  • ferrytrip
    ferrytrip Posts: 497 Member
    When she doesn't haunt you (or your paycheck) anymore...

    So 11 years then. (he laughs)


    No, SHE laughs...I paid support on 3 boys for 18 years (until the youngest finished college.

    Ouch.......
  • magj0y
    magj0y Posts: 1,911 Member
    because kids all of a sudden don't need any parental help at 18?? Yeah, don't think so. My Ex got that wake up text a few days ago. Honestly, it was pretty damned funny to me. because dependency ends the day they turn 18. wtf ever.


    You're single, you got divorced almost a year ago. It's an action, not a state of living.
    I'd see it as "single dad" and nothing wrong with that, except there aren't a lot of women who want the extra baggage.
  • WifeNMama
    WifeNMama Posts: 2,876 Member
    When she doesn't haunt you (or your paycheck) anymore...

    So 11 years then. (he laughs)


    No, SHE laughs...I paid support on 3 boys for 18 years (until the youngest finished college.


    Ouch.......

    Child support and alimony are different pay outs. Technically she isn't laughing unless the kids aren't yours.

    As for the question, I'd say the "divorced" status will always be a part of reality, because it is important information in dating, and not a detail that can be omitted. It's not something you have to be ashamed of so I think the distinction between divorced and single shouldn't matter. What does matter is whether you feel you have learned about yourself, the good and bad, and what steps have you taken to grow so that if you choose to pursue a relationship in the future, it will be a mutually beneficial one. Most of all, have you embraced who you have become as an individual, beyond the role of husband.
  • caraiselite
    caraiselite Posts: 2,631 Member
    im still legally married to my childrens father but we have been separated since 2002.

    ive been single since 2003.
  • MandaPaigeSparkles88
    MandaPaigeSparkles88 Posts: 1,289 Member
    As soon as I signed the paper saying I was divorced from that *kitten*!!!! Now he's someone else's problem not mine I washed my hands clean of him the day we signed our divorce papers on May 28, 2010.
  • bekkaL85
    bekkaL85 Posts: 133 Member
    My mom got divorced when I was 7. I'm 27 now and she still calls herself divorced. She also never wants to get married again, so she is happy with the title.

    I think that it's whatever you are comfortable saying. If you are past all of the emotional parts that come with divorced and the papers are signed...call yourself whatever you want. If you're NOT ready to have that part of your life to be over I think that divorced works best.
  • EDesq
    EDesq Posts: 1,527 Member
    When she doesn't haunt you (or your paycheck) anymore...

    So 11 years then. (he laughs)


    No, SHE laughs...I paid support on 3 boys for 18 years (until the youngest finished college.

    Ouch.......


    SOOOOO, SUPPORTING YOUR Kids are a burden...If that's the case for YOU (and men usually make more money than women) imagine how she feels. After all, YOU helped make them and made the SAME promises/vows when you got married! Anyone remember when men were responsible for ALL of the support for THEIR kids!
  • DakotaKeogh
    DakotaKeogh Posts: 693 Member
    Take the time you were together and divide by 2. That's how long it takes to get over all the bad feelings anyway.
  • Rosa1213
    Rosa1213 Posts: 456 Member
    I always thought "divorced" was "single". "Single" is an umbrella term... it can mean lots of different things.
    And, as long as you don't have any children, it's not that big of a difference.
  • loseweightjames
    loseweightjames Posts: 360 Member
    So in two months, I will be divorced a year. When does "divorced" become "single"?

    why would you want it to?

    divorced means someone wanted you at some point enough to marry you.

    single means no one liked you enough to ever marry you.
  • loseweightjames
    loseweightjames Posts: 360 Member
    So in two months, I will be divorced a year. When does "divorced" become "single"?

    why would you want it to?

    divorced means someone wanted you at some point enough to marry you.

    single means no one liked you enough to ever marry you.

    the only situation where "divorced" is bad is if you're under 25 and you date other under 25 yr olds, because they're going to look at you mighty strange being their age and already divorced when they haven't even been married yet.

    But once you're over 30 I think divorced is great. In fact anyone over 30 and never married are kind of... looked at suspiciously, wondering what's wrong with them that they never got married, at least here in the Midwest it's like that

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