I don't hate skinny people-

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mirandamayhem
mirandamayhem Posts: 772
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~some of my best friends are skinny!

Actually, in ALL seriousness (as serious as anything can get), do you think your peers influence your size overall?
I remember a study out a few years ago, that suggested that if you hang around with bigger friends, you won't worry about your size so much and may actually be bigger as a result?

For me I think there is some truth. If you're hanging around with people who eat and drink big, you either need to stay focused on your health goals, or just give in and go with the flow a bit.
I know I put on a bit of weight when I was with people who weren't watching their weight. With a sort of, well if they're happy with themselves, why can't I be, sort of mentality.
Now my focus has changed, and my desire for health outshines any short term food bonuses.

I haven't dropped any friends, but I have changed the amount of time I socialise with them, because of my goals changing. Maybe on the outside looking in it could look like I think I'm better than people because I'm losing weight? (I know my friends don't think that, I'm just wondering why there is so much hate surrounding people who do lose weight).

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  • vancoolie
    vancoolie Posts: 25
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    It's funny, when I lost quite a bit of weight a few years ago, one of my skinny friends said I had gone far enough and that it wouldn't suit me if I lost any more. I reasoned that she weighed more than a stone less than me so what was the difference, she replied 'I'm taller than you' (she isn't). Try and work that one out!

    So I feel that people have a warped view on body size no matter what you do. It's envy, competition, and it may take away some self esteem they may have developed from being slimmer than you perhaps.

    The perception of you completely changes. It's almost 'keep up with the Joneses' sort of mentality. That's my initial thoughts. But I'm sure there are people that will completely disagree. Being an honest sort, I would feel envious of a friend that managed to lose lots of weight and look fabulous, BUT, I would tell her exactly that. I'm jealous but you look utterly fab!

    I have two friends with serious eating disorders, who will never have a decent relationship with food. They are both skinny, but still look lovely. My only issue with them is their health as they get older, I no longer try and discuss it with them as we are all in our 40s and I don't feel it's my place to try and change them. They just need to know they have good friends around them.
  • mirandamayhem
    mirandamayhem Posts: 772
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    :laugh: I always confess when I'm jealous too! In a nice way. It takes a lot of hard work, why would anyone want to knock it?
  • BeingAwesome247
    BeingAwesome247 Posts: 1,171 Member
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    I noticed when I hung out with a particular group of g/f's, I'd eat more b/c they ate and drank more lol
    The one would complain about her weight especially and I didn't know what to say except: "If you aren't comfortable or don't like it, change it"

    Long story short, had a bit of a falling out and now besides my best friend, most the time I'm hanging out with guys....and I don't like eating in front of them LOL

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