Almost cried at work today...

Hi, I'm new here, so I don't walk to talk out of turn...

But forget them! I know it's easier said than done. Don't let these people interfere with your evening...heck your job. Just flush them. Every time that sad thought gets into your head, acknowledge it and then tell yourself one good thing that can come of this.

I am the flip side of that coin. I posted a few days ago that my motivation was I realized I preferred people to think I was pregnant. I'd rather them think that than that I'm fat! Find a way to laugh about it. If you just can't, ask your dh to find the humor for you. My dh is great for finding the funny side... good luck on your presentation. I would bring it up as an icebreaker!!! Haha can you sey their faces if you started that way? "Hello... welcome to the presentation on ___. To answer the most common question you all have, no I'm not pregnant. But if you want to start an office pool to guess the delivery date, go ahead. I most definitely will win that money. Don't make me pee on a stick to prove it!!! You will be embarassed more than I."

It sounds as though work is getting very stressful, and it seems that your well-being is not taken into consideration by your co-workers and superiors. Have you ever considered that you might be better than a position where you are being under appreciated? The only way to make a positive change 100% in your life is to only surround yourself with opportunities to be appreciated and show your full potential. If your self-esteem is taking blows at work that will not be able to happen.

first, unless that profile pic is ancient, I can't imagine someone would say something like that, You look fine, great in fact! It always baffles me how people feel the need to say things like that. I mean, seriously, have a tiny bit of control people!

Anyway, I feel your pain. What you described at your work is what happens to me on almost a weekly basis. I run a production (which means clients actively use our website) IT environment for a very complex business to business applications/hardware suite.
The powers above me love to make deals with customer for hundreds of thousands of dollars, without consulting me or the other people who actually build the stuff. Which means they promise dates, set expectations, and say yes to things before they know whether we can deliver them or not. Needless to say, we spend a lot of time saying: "YOU TOLD THEM WHAT??? By Friday? That's impossible, we don't even have the equipment to do that!" so I hear ya on the presentation thing. In fact, I suspect in my 11:00 am meeting today, my boss will ask me to present to our whole team, without asking me before hand. I'm kind of used to it now, so I already have things in my head, but it's frustrating and stressful. Just remember, a job is a job, life comes first. Set their expectations that, yes you will do the presentations, but remind them that with the amount of prep time you have, it won't be as good as it otherwise would be, and it's unreasonable for them to require this type of work in the future.

I've found that bosses tend to not realize that things take time, research and development (even of a presentation) take time, and it takes more time than just slapping together a powerpoint and a bunch of slides!.

anyway, best of luck to you. (sorry for the length, you've touched a sore point for me. )

-Banks

I know what you mean - for a while there, my job also felt like I was performing at the Improv!! Ya gotta laugh about it and just keep going!

As to the pregnancy thing - I just can't believe what a lack of tact and common sense that woman has! Even if she did wonder if you were pregnant, she should have never, ever said anything. Blow her off as a one-time brainless annoyance. Your profile photo looks great, so just keep on going:flowerforyou: and know that we're all here behind you!!

Oh gosh, I can relate. My son is 2 but I still have a post baby paunch and believe you me, more than once I've been congratulated on my second pregnancy. Instead of going home and eating ten Oreos, I am now using it as motivation to get myself in shape. Don't let it get you down!

Sorry but you dont look anywhere near anyone mistaken you for being pregnant. The only thought that comes to my mind is she's not a very nice person and maybe isnt very fond of you and did it on purpose. Sorry...but she didnt have to continue on and rub in the OTHERS that thought the same thing. I bet you SHE started the conversation off with the others by saying.."dont she look pregnant?" and she probably kept going on and on about it and probably they said..Yeah I guess she does. Could also be what ever you had on..but I just cant imagine YOU being mistaken for pregnant. She just sounds like a very unhappy person and she did it on purpose. I could be wrong and it just could be the outfit you had on but again, once you said you werent she didnt have to tell you of all the others that thought so too. Im sure she convinced them.

Oops.. double post!