What's wrong with me?

danielle8473
danielle8473 Posts: 7
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Alright... I'm a 19 year old college student and have never had a boyfriend or even been asked out on a date! :( Any other girls had this problem? I am pretty friendly, have a good personality, and I'm not hideous looking. What's wrong with me?? What do I do?? I feel unloved and left out! :(

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  • ChasingSweatandTears
    ChasingSweatandTears Posts: 504 Member
    First of all you are adorable :)
    Second of all I lived in Eureka Springs for a very long time and consider the area "home", So I love your shirt!

    I'm sure there is nothing wrong with you. I bet the opportunities have just been limited and as you experience life more, plenty of men will ask you out!
  • themichaelf
    themichaelf Posts: 94
    keep showing off that pretty smile :)
  • mockchoc
    mockchoc Posts: 6,573 Member
    You are gorgeous! The guys there must be blind. I'm sure your luck will change soon.
  • obrendao
    obrendao Posts: 318
    I was like this. It took me until I was about 19 to even consider going out with a guy. Guess you could say I was a late-bloomer. I just started widening my social circle, going out with my friends, meeting people, hanging out with people that had similar interests, etc. I would be patient if I were you. Just go out with friends and let your personality shine, and it'll happen! And you don't have to WAIT for a guy to ask you on a date, if a guy interests you, ask HIM! :)
  • MizzouChick1985
    MizzouChick1985 Posts: 10
    I too was a "late bloomer" as the previous person said. But I do have to ask....are u taller than "average height"? I'm 6'1 so a lot of guys were intimidated by that, but regardless you are a beautiful young lady and definitely go out with your friends and just do what you do. I used to be so afraid of "omg what will ppl think if i do this or that" now I don't really care what they think. I'm not a wild crazy party girl, but I do like to go out and have fun with the girls. Keep your head up. He's out there :)
  • danielle8473
    danielle8473 Posts: 7
    Thank you guys! This is reassuring! :)
  • smtillman2
    smtillman2 Posts: 756 Member
    When I was your age I was completely oblivious to the fact that guys were hitting on me. I just didn't get it. Is out possible that maybe your just not picking up on it?

    You're so pretty so I can't imagine guys wouldn't be interested.
  • heytherestephy
    heytherestephy Posts: 356 Member
    I had a boyfriend when I was 16, but it wasn't serious and up until last year was never in a serious relationship, so I feel you. I'm taller, 6'0" and have a pretty outspoken/opinionated nature which I guess was intimidating. Someone perfect for you will come along :)
  • RedBullLiz
    RedBullLiz Posts: 469 Member
    Stupid guys.
    Or you aren't making yourself available ?:
    I feel like this now!!
  • Saucyroseanne
    Saucyroseanne Posts: 1
    I just want to encourage you to not be anxious about this. I know it's hard not to be... I used to wonder the same thing about myself. I was 24 and had never had a boyfriend or gone on a date when I met my future husband. We got married when I was 25 and just had our 2 year anniversary awhile back. Sometimes when I talk to my single friends I'm afraid they will think I don't understand now that I'm married, but please believe that I have definately been there! Like other people have mentioned, just be yourself and someday some guy will notice you and be so glad that you haven't been snatched up yet : )
  • shadowama
    shadowama Posts: 1
    You obviously know that you are a beautiful woman, so that's not the issue, you have a smart head on your shoulders,. It could be the confidence level and the vibes that you send out. Go out with the girls, just to have fun. Not to meet a guy. When they notice that you are enjoying yourself, they will want to know more about you. Then comes the offers to buy you drinks and dancing and such. BUT if send out vibes like "I need a boyfriend" they will close up. Be happy that they aren't completely standing you up like they do to me
  • danielle8473
    danielle8473 Posts: 7
    I just want to encourage you to not be anxious about this. I know it's hard not to be... I used to wonder the same thing about myself. I was 24 and had never had a boyfriend or gone on a date when I met my future husband. We got married when I was 25 and just had our 2 year anniversary awhile back. Sometimes when I talk to my single friends I'm afraid they will think I don't understand now that I'm married, but please believe that I have definately been there! Like other people have mentioned, just be yourself and someday some guy will notice you and be so glad that you haven't been snatched up yet : )

    Congrats on your anniversary! This is so encouraging, hopefully I'll find my prince charming like you did!
  • jfan175
    jfan175 Posts: 812 Member
    Do you have bad BO or something? jk You're an attractive young lady and there's certainly nothing in that picture or the way you communicate that would be a reason guys aren't asking you out. I think the floodgates are going to open very soon for you.
  • RainHoward
    RainHoward Posts: 1,599 Member
    boys are stupid, that is all you need to know.
  • cole_carter
    cole_carter Posts: 174 Member
    I completely agree with everyone here. You are sweet and attractive.

    I think you are over thinking it and psyching yourself out. I know you are discouraged but I guarantee you will find what you want.

    You are valuable and there will definitely be a guy to come along to appreciate that. Please don't settle for less than a guy that really appreciates you. You deserve it.

    Best wishes and please relax about this.
  • UncleMac
    UncleMac Posts: 13,837 Member
    Alright... I'm a 19 year old college student and have never had a boyfriend or even been asked out on a date! :( Any other girls had this problem? I am pretty friendly, have a good personality, and I'm not hideous looking. What's wrong with me?? What do I do?? I feel unloved and left out! :(
    This might not have occurred to you but guys might just be intimidated. If your profile picture is accurate, you are rather attractive. Growing up, I have three good looking sisters so I wasn't intimidated by women but many of my friends were like Koothrappalli on Big Bang Theory... lots to say but as soon as a pretty girl showed up, they were mute. I used to chat the girls up while they looked on in awe...

    I'm gonna throw it out there... is there a reason why you're waiting for someone else to initiate? Have you considered asking a young man out? If you're not comfortable setting up a date, invite someone you've got your eye on to join you and a group of friends for a movie and munchies afterward.
  • RainHoward
    RainHoward Posts: 1,599 Member
    Oh, I forgot the most important thing. They one thing to never, ever forget. There is NOTHING wrong with you. Don't change who you are so other people will "like" you. Be the best you you can be and everything else will happen. It always does.
  • annabellj
    annabellj Posts: 1,337 Member
    i didnt have my first bf until I was 21! dont worry! just be yourself, make sure to get out and do different things you might think are interested in, and dont be in a hurry! I was engaged twice between 21 and 24! and married now 21 yrs!
    forget about guys and then, bam! the right one will come along when you arent even looking!
  • cmcollins001
    cmcollins001 Posts: 3,472 Member
    boys are stupid, that is all you need to know.

    ^^^ This.
  • gimpy117
    gimpy117 Posts: 75 Member
    Alright... I'm a 19 year old college student and have never had a boyfriend or even been asked out on a date! :( Any other girls had this problem? I am pretty friendly, have a good personality, and I'm not hideous looking. What's wrong with me?? What do I do?? I feel unloved and left out! :(

    thats weird, I'd ask you on a date from just your looks alone..and I'm sure you are a nice girl too
  • cmcollins001
    cmcollins001 Posts: 3,472 Member
    Oh, I forgot the most important thing. They one thing to never, ever forget. There is NOTHING wrong with you. Don't change who you are so other people will "like" you. Be the best you you can be and everything else will happen. It always does.

    ^^^ AND This.
  • TravisBurns
    TravisBurns Posts: 353 Member
    It might not mean much coming from me. But you definitely got my seal of approval. You are a pretty girl. Don't let anyone tell you different or make you think different.
  • AmyFett
    AmyFett Posts: 1,607 Member
    confidence girly!! love yourself, and others will love you too!
  • foxyforce
    foxyforce Posts: 3,078 Member
    put yourself out there more. expand your crowd that you hang out in. i find that i get hit on a lot more when i meet new people.

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