Non-Supportive Family & Friends

xPocahontas
xPocahontas Posts: 40
in Motivation and Support
Wow. I can't believe it. Today has been terrible.

At dance I'm in the back, a girl who is also in the back said all the girls except herself are fat cows.

I admit it, I am kinda big but not that big.

I was also on the phone with my support team (for recovery) trying not to purge and all of a sudden my mom drops the F bomb, it goes dead silent of course my sensitive self thinks that the support team agrees and I bust out crying and she says I looked better when I was starving myself, wows just wow. I know she loves me but, wow. (I really am 18 I stay at home during college)

My question is, why aren't people supportive when we are trying to become healthy and fit? It's terrible, and makes me want to give up.

Have you expirienced this kind of abuse, whether it's fat jokes or someone telling you you need to stop loosing?

What keeps you going?

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  • gimpy117
    gimpy117 Posts: 75 Member
    kinda, my parents say stuff like that. One visit it was "ohh you still look great...really kept the weight off on college" and next is "well you kinda got chubby from all that booze"

    I mean there is truth to that in a sense...we don't weigh what we used to and well, It sucks. She could have been less blunt...but maybe it's good motivation
  • Pimpmonkey
    Pimpmonkey Posts: 566
    I know it's not easy, but I just ignore everybody else. I've had support issues my whole life, about weight and just about anything else you could think of. Basically if I did it, it wasn't good enough. My mother used to "remember" that my sister gave her a gift so she could use it, because if she rememebered that I gave it to her she wouldn't use it let alone keep it.
  • ricebarbiee
    ricebarbiee Posts: 58
    I'm so sorry, but I completely understand what you're going through. When my dad was cheating on my mom, he told me it was because I was "fat" and he was "embarrassed" to have to call me his daughter.

    When he left I gained even more weight and my mom said I should start eating more carefully because I was prettier when I was skinny, I told her about my eating disorders when I was in high school when he told me I could only be a cheerleader if I was a size 0, she said, "Well at least you were pretty."

    Some people just come at it the wronggg way.
  • LewisMrsType
    LewisMrsType Posts: 10
    Some people just don't want to take you seriously, and it's either because they can't feel the insides of your shoes, or they have a personal complex that inhibits them from being able to be truly happy for your goals and your efforts to reach them. Try to be bull-headed about it. These are your goals, this is your body, and there isn't a soul that can keep you from working hard for your happiness! If they want to try to shut you down, be sad for them that they need to do that. Keep chugging along and leave the doubters in your dust.

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