If you could have a lover OR a FWB

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  • drivefstfighthrd
    drivefstfighthrd Posts: 5
    I already have a FWB, it works out great.
  • odusgolp
    odusgolp Posts: 10,477 Member
    I'd get a cat.
  • Jonalee1977
    Jonalee1977 Posts: 415 Member
    I've done the FWB thing. While it was fun, it wasn't meaningful.

    I definitely prefer having a lover.
  • _Calvin_
    _Calvin_ Posts: 122 Member
    I'm just getting out of a long relationship. The last part was sexless for quite some time. Give me a FWB for now.
  • krazyforyou
    krazyforyou Posts: 1,428 Member
    FWB, so much easier.
  • nikki_att84
    nikki_att84 Posts: 152 Member
    ive had the fwb and feel in love with him! pretty much such when u realize that and ur not on the same page! so im gonna say lover at least u want the same thing!
  • Carl01
    Carl01 Posts: 9,307 Member
    Since this was posted (yes I had a goofy answer then) have read through several discussions of this issue and while some bit of generalization have concluded that to many ladies the definition of FWB is what lover here was.
    In contrast the definition of FWB to a guy matches exactly how it was defined here.

    Something ladies should understand as they contemplate entering into one.
  • 9thwardchick
    9thwardchick Posts: 73 Member
    Both. Because sometimes I want to talk and other times I just want to F***!:laugh:
  • elprincipito
    elprincipito Posts: 1,200 Member
    FWB !! :D
  • AwesomeMoJo
    AwesomeMoJo Posts: 1,145 Member
    Which would it be, and why? Those are your two options only.


    A lover is a person that receives more than just sex. They receive words of affirmation, kindness, caresses, cuddling, kisses, and everything that centers on and around those feelings and acts. The ‘love’ portion of a relationship. A lover is only marginally involved in your entire life. You may discuss a few things here and there, but it’s mostly about making each other feel good.

    A FWB is a person that, while you MIGHT hang out once in a while, you will only call on for sex – the physical aspect of it. This person will not get upset if you don’t call them for days, but will always be a willing participant (as long as it works for both of you) for the physical. There is very little cuddling and no need for words of affirmation.

    edited for definitions.

    I am taking applications for both....any applicants??? lol...
  • BarbaraC47
    BarbaraC47 Posts: 175 Member
    I'd sooner have a bacon sandwich
  • monocot
    monocot Posts: 475 Member
    well, I have both.
    And maybe my fwb is doing it Wrong. Because we hang out 4 times a week, cuddle a little, talk a ton, the days we aren't together we text each other all the time.
  • slkehl
    slkehl Posts: 3,801 Member
    A non-physical fwb. I know that sounds weird, and I'm not sure if it actually exists. I'm not ready for a real relationship, but there's a guy I flirt with. He used to really like me, but now we live across the state and know it wouldn't work long distance. But the words of affirmation and encouragement are nice.
  • drivefstfighthrd
    drivefstfighthrd Posts: 5
    The idea of a lover is for those people that want to give and take, that want companionship.

    The idea of FWB is to be selfish.

    I want to live my life and do as I please, now come over and ride me harder than bucking bronco.. I know when to cum and go.. I completely love being selfish right now. I'm sure one day I'll be over it and want compainship. Until then. I'm loving this!!
  • juliecat1
    juliecat1 Posts: 3,450 Member
    well, I have both.
    And maybe my fwb is doing it Wrong. Because we hang out 4 times a week, cuddle a little, talk a ton, the days we aren't together we text each other all the time.

    That sounds more like a relationship. :flowerforyou:
  • KaidaKantri
    KaidaKantri Posts: 401
    FWB - cause i've got a husband for the lover. i could get a girl for the FWB and have all my needs met! :smooched:

    I totally agree with this! :)
  • PilotX
    PilotX Posts: 233 Member
    I want a smoking hot beautiful wife :glasses:
  • jcmartin0313
    jcmartin0313 Posts: 574 Member
    I am married but if I were single I would prefer a lover I think. How about both - at the same time?
  • kayemme
    kayemme Posts: 1,782 Member
    Which would it be, and why? Those are your two options only.


    A lover is a person that receives more than just sex. They receive words of affirmation, kindness, caresses, cuddling, kisses, and everything that centers on and around those feelings and acts. The ‘love’ portion of a relationship. A lover is only marginally involved in your entire life. You may discuss a few things here and there, but it’s mostly about making each other feel good.

    absolutely a lover.

    luckily, i already have one in the form of a relationship; however, if i were single, this is what i would want. it would be a scaled-down version of what i already have.
  • KaidaKantri
    KaidaKantri Posts: 401
    I personally would rather have a lover. I've had FWB's before, and the sex just isn't that fantastic. However, I would LOVE to have a lady FWB :)
  • Krizzo87
    Krizzo87 Posts: 14,186 Member
    Lover...I want to feel cherished not used..
  • I_wanna_live
    I_wanna_live Posts: 227 Member
    Can I pick nether?

    I see both cases as being the same, and something I have given up on.
  • kekl
    kekl Posts: 382 Member
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    (sorry, I had to.)
  • gomisskellygo
    gomisskellygo Posts: 635 Member
    well, I have both.
    And maybe my fwb is doing it Wrong. Because we hang out 4 times a week, cuddle a little, talk a ton, the days we aren't together we text each other all the time.

    That sounds more like a relationship. :flowerforyou:

    I was thinking the exact same. And a good one at that:)
  • I_wanna_live
    I_wanna_live Posts: 227 Member
    I'd sooner have a bacon sandwich

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    there you go and served by Willy Wonka too :laugh: :laugh:
  • Tiggerrick
    Tiggerrick Posts: 1,078 Member
    I am curious if any one who posted in this has changed their opinions - it's been over 4 months since this was originally posted.

    I still feel the same, but crave "more" than a simple lover.
    You better be careful with what you ask for. Sometimes we actually get what we thought we wanted, and it turns out that what we wanted was not what we needed.
  • S1NN3R
    S1NN3R Posts: 452 Member
    I am curious if any one who posted in this has changed their opinions - it's been over 4 months since this was originally posted.

    I still feel the same, but crave "more" than a simple lover.
    You better be careful with what you ask for. Sometimes we actually get what we thought we wanted, and it turns out that what we wanted was not what we needed.

    So true!
  • PantalaNagaPampa
    PantalaNagaPampa Posts: 1,031 Member
    Why choose? Go poly!
    have your cake and eat her too, and her, and her, and that one, and that one...
  • supertracylynn
    supertracylynn Posts: 1,338 Member
    I am curious if any one who posted in this has changed their opinions - it's been over 4 months since this was originally posted.

    I still feel the same, but crave "more" than a simple lover.
    You better be careful with what you ask for. Sometimes we actually get what we thought we wanted, and it turns out that what we wanted was not what we needed.

    What I need is someone to love me for me, who supports me in making good choices, a person who is very honest (with them self and me) and challenges me to be a better person.

    What I want is to be cherished, valued, cared for, kissed sweetly, hugged tightly, and the kind of love that people only dream about - the kind where if one of us dies, the other does too simply from being unable to go on - , someone I can laugh with, speculate with, and cry on, someone who is worth my effort, time, and tears.

    What I "crave" is more than a simple lover in the sense that I want someone who is more than "marginally" involved in my life.

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