Getting annoyed...

Oompa_Loompa
Oompa_Loompa Posts: 1,099 Member
edited September 20 in Food and Nutrition
SO I started with MFP a week ago and I've been going strong. I'm doing good with counting my calories and I am really proud of myself. Except my friends/family/boyfriend are all getting annoyed with how crazy Im going with finding out the calories of ANYTHING before I put it in my mouth lol. And some of them are even telling me that counting calories is not going to work. I can understand if it's a little annoying that i keep asking "how many calories are in this do you think?" but I really want to actually loose weight this time!
Is anyone else being made fun of!? lol

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  • sallymurph
    sallymurph Posts: 56 Member
    All the time. I can totally relate. Counting calories is the way to go. Don't give up!
  • Arienna
    Arienna Posts: 913
    Yes!! My husband drives me up the wall! lol My mom gets annoyed with me too..I asked her if she had any dark chocolate because she ALWAYS has chocolate. She said yes and gave me some and I was like well how many is in a serving? and how many calories, carbs, fat, etc? She was like OMG who cares just eat it!

    As much as it may drive our friends/family crazy, they will see how crazy we aren't once we lose weight! And how can say they counting calories doesn't work? (my hubby says the same) Weight loss is about counting calories! I just learn to ignore them for the most part now, most of my family is really encouraging though!
  • Yes. I've been told I'm "part rabbit" because I'm such a salad-raw veggie hound.

    When someone else is doing the cooking I try to find out what's being served then come here (MFP) and look it up in the database before I get my plate. Then, if it's high in calories but I want some, I take a very small portion (1/2 cup or less) so I don't deny myself and also don't feel guilty. Oh, and I started using a salad plate instead of a dinner plate so it LOOKS like more than it is. I know it's silly, but the visual aspect is powerful.

    After a while you'll get to the point where you can pretty much "guesstimate" calories in different foods and you won't have to ask so much.

    Isn't this a fun game we get to play? :wink:
  • AnneElise
    AnneElise Posts: 4,206 Member
    My husband is supportive of my crazy counting even though he often tells me I don't need to loose weight but other people think I am crazy. Counting calories DOES work... You are doing this for you... tell them they should want you to be happy and healthy.
  • I know exactly how u feel! I put all of my healthy stuff on one side of the fridge. My husband says "Ooooh gross"! I've told him that he doesn't have to eat it so shut up. But, he's always telling me to eat real food. I've noticed how different our marriage is since I put on weight so I wonder, why does he want me to stay fat? I feel like he has no attraction to me anymore! Anyone else feel this way? I know he loves me but I miss the fluttery feelings ya know?
  • minnesota
    minnesota Posts: 204 Member
    Yup my girlfriends from work say it's irritating to be so self conscious of the food. They wanted to have lunch one day at the Olive Garden and I turned them down, because of the calories and they got annoyed with that. I just learned to not say anything about it. I keep my thoughts to myself. One of the girls I work with always goes to the gym with me. I have noticed her irritation with me watching me now working harder and harder every week. Who cares though I've actually lost 10lbs now since before starting MFP and people are telling me I look good and ask what I do and I simply say MFP and exercising. When they say I diet I just tell them it;s a lifestyle change and counting calories has just made me more conscious of my food intake.
  • HonestOmnivore
    HonestOmnivore Posts: 1,356 Member
    My sister in-law was ready to kill me over the holidays. She and my sisters were irritated, and my brother in-laws really didn't want to know how many calories were in Great Lakes Christmas Ale (oops!:blushing: )

    This week my oldest sister asked me for the web address for MFP and my sister-in-law started here the first of January.

    (smirk)

    Yeah -just keep it up and you'll be fine*

    *Unless you're tiny now- in which case you might be worrying people if it looks like you're super worried about calories but you don't have any weight to lose
  • izzypup
    izzypup Posts: 341 Member
    Totally understand. I try to put the foods in the calculator so i know what i am eating ahead of time. If i go out to eat i ask for a togo box right away and put half the food in it. My friends make fun of me but oh well.
    You want to change and your husband might feel like he is doing something wrong. That you want to change because you are unhappy with him and it is scary. When he says something to you just be patient and explain that you love him but you feel unhappy with your own body and you want to feel sexy for HIM! (And for you.... just keep that part to yourself) He might be a bit afraid that you will change and not love him anymore.
  • I wouldn't recommend turning down social invites because of calories, but I think more Americans need to be "annoyed" by what is going in to their mouths! That's the problem...people eat and have no clue what is in the food, calories, fat, preservatives, etc. So keep being annoying so you know what you are putting in your body. Make smarter choices most of the time! But at least this way, when you choose to put something unhealthy in your mouth, you know what is in it! You are making an educated choice. You may be surprised: some of those that are annoyed now may start being healthier themselves.
  • ERnurse
    ERnurse Posts: 77
    I haven't experienced being made fun of - but it is the way to control your eating so just ignore the sabotaging - often people will do that when someone is losing weight - keep doing what you are doing :)
  • arewethereyet
    arewethereyet Posts: 18,702 Member
    SO I started with MFP a week ago and I've been going strong. I'm doing good with counting my calories and I am really proud of myself. Except my friends/family/boyfriend are all getting annoyed with how crazy Im going with finding out the calories of ANYTHING before I put it in my mouth lol. And some of them are even telling me that counting calories is not going to work. I can understand if it's a little annoying that i keep asking "how many calories are in this do you think?" but I really want to actually loose weight this time!
    Is anyone else being made fun of!? lol

    Not going to work???? Well someone better tell me cuz I lost 36 pounds so far doing just that!!!
    When my friend told me that I sent her the ling to Tamtastic's profile.

    As you move along you will know how much a slice of cheese or bread is and will not have to look before.......NOW you are in information stage and this is what you must do!!

    I have the Iphone app........before that I looked it up on the internet!!

    Your doing great, keep up the good work!!
  • catherine1979
    catherine1979 Posts: 704 Member
    I so hear you. I made chocolate chip cookies for my son this morning and I want one like you wouldn't believe. My husband said that I should just have one, there probably aren't that many calories. I just calculated the calories on sparkpeople.com and there are 145 calories PER COOKIE! AHHHH! I am so glad I figured that out before stuffing a couple of cookies in my mouth!
  • Ktbell626
    Ktbell626 Posts: 108 Member
    My room mate told me that this site doesn't work back in September after another one of my room mate Emma, had lost 10 lbs on here. We almost had our first fight over fitness and this site. She didn't like that Emma and I were always talking about calories, always talking about being over or under and that fact that we play wii fit in the evenings for exercise. So we back off and decided not to talk about it in front of her. My whole family is on here except for my dad and he is doing weight watchers. My SIL totaled everyone's weight loss from last year and we lost about 300 lbs altogether. So just ignore all those who say "Nay" and keep on working on your goals.
  • ldupless
    ldupless Posts: 26 Member
    I totally have this problem alllllll the time! My family was starting to get really bugged at my constant calorie counting....BUT! It's worked for me! This is my second week and i've already lost four pounds. So, while I'm getting healthy I guess the fam will just have to suffer =]
  • zeala
    zeala Posts: 119 Member
    I think counting calories definitely works, and this site is an immense help. I can however understand that people who are not on a diet or not doing this right now can get tired of hearing the word calories.
    What I do is pretty much keep it to myself. Because I have a general idea of how many calories are in something, I don't bring it up when ordering food at a restaurant, but make a mental note and watch what I eat ( then add them through my iphone).

    Keep up the good work.
  • lisawest
    lisawest Posts: 798 Member
    My whole family is on here except for my dad and he is doing weight watchers. My SIL totaled everyone's weight loss from last year and we lost about 300 lbs altogether. So just ignore all those who say "Nay" and keep on working on your goals.

    New total for the family: (estimating your dad's loss) 376lbs in just over 1 year.

    Anyone who tells you counting calories doesn't work, doesn't understand basic biology. In order to lose weight your energy (calories!) expended must be more than energy (calories!) ingested. In short, calories in, calories out. Yes, at the beginning it can be time consuming. But you are changing a lifetime of eating habits! Lucky for me, my husband jumped right in when I suggested this website (which was recommended by my aunt). We spent 2 or 3 months learning the content of everything we eat. Now we can guesstimate pretty accurately if we're not close to a computer. (He's much better at remembering caloric values, so I depend on him a LOT:bigsmile: ) You will get to the place where you can guesstimate and don't always have to ask. But stick with it!

    A current favorite quote of mine: If you quit now, you will never reach the finish line!
  • leeslim4life
    leeslim4life Posts: 371 Member
    I'm shocked to see so many people families aren't supportive. My husband is very supportive and so are my kids. If I need to calculate something real fast they are eager to let me use the computer if they are on it.
    Like someone said before, counting calories does work. This is the 1st time I'm actually counting calories. I'm ending my 2nd week (weigh in tomorrow) & I already lost 7lbs. So, I'm super excited & say to you, never give up & brush what people say off your shoulders. B/c when you are looking good in your sexy black dress, they are all going to want to know what you did!!! Keep your head up & keep pushing through!!!
  • arewethereyet
    arewethereyet Posts: 18,702 Member
    My room mate told me that this site doesn't work back in September after another one of my room mate Emma, had lost 10 lbs on here. We almost had our first fight over fitness and this site. She didn't like that Emma and I were always talking about calories, always talking about being over or under and that fact that we play wii fit in the evenings for exercise. So we back off and decided not to talk about it in front of her. My whole family is on here except for my dad and he is doing weight watchers. My SIL totaled everyone's weight loss from last year and we lost about 300 lbs altogether. So just ignore all those who say "Nay" and keep on working on your goals.

    That is so great! I love it when the family is in it together. Happy and Healthy!! :heart:
  • Tri_Dad
    Tri_Dad Posts: 1,465
    SO I started with MFP a week ago and I've been going strong. I'm doing good with counting my calories and I am really proud of myself. Except my friends/family/boyfriend are all getting annoyed with how crazy Im going with finding out the calories of ANYTHING before I put it in my mouth lol. And some of them are even telling me that counting calories is not going to work. I can understand if it's a little annoying that i keep asking "how many calories are in this do you think?" but I really want to actually loose weight this time!
    Is anyone else being made fun of!? lol

    Not going to work???? Well someone better tell me cuz I lost 36 pounds so far doing just that!!!
    When my friend told me that I sent her the ling to Tamtastic's profile.

    As you move along you will know how much a slice of cheese or bread is and will not have to look before.......NOW you are in information stage and this is what you must do!!

    I have the Iphone app........before that I looked it up on the internet!!

    Your doing great, keep up the good work!!

    Agreed Jeannie!

    Don't let anyone tell you calorie counting doesnt work. I didnt lose this weight by guessing. Sheesh, It's a very mathematical process. Calories in calories out. How can you do it without being aware of what your eating? Keep it going. It does work.

    :flowerforyou:
  • calories do count but u also have to watch for fat, carbs, sugar also... eating right is about 80% of weight loss.... but u need to exercise still. it's good for your body.
  • ACarp24
    ACarp24 Posts: 90
    Big time yeah! I carry my food scale around with me and Ive even called my mother to find out what the brand of bread I used was at her boyfriends house! They all make fun of me! But oh well, I think that all those people are just jealous that they cant loose weight too.
  • rinren84
    rinren84 Posts: 82 Member
    Yup my girlfriends from work say it's irritating to be so self conscious of the food. They wanted to have lunch one day at the Olive Garden and I turned them down, because of the calories and they got annoyed with that. I just learned to not say anything about it. I keep my thoughts to myself. One of the girls I work with always goes to the gym with me. I have noticed her irritation with me watching me now working harder and harder every week. Who cares though I've actually lost 10lbs now since before starting MFP and people are telling me I look good and ask what I do and I simply say MFP and exercising. When they say I diet I just tell them it;s a lifestyle change and counting calories has just made me more conscious of my food intake.

    Everyone I work with always wants to go to olive garden. Next time go, and just get two bowls of minestrone! they are only about 110 calories each. Love that soup...
  • I've noticed how different our marriage is since I put on weight so I wonder, why does he want me to stay fat? I feel like he has no attraction to me anymore! Anyone else feel this way? I know he loves me but I miss the fluttery feelings ya know?

    because they are scared s***less that once we lose the weight and feel comfortable in our skin, we won't want to be with them anymore, and will move on to someone else because we are "a new person".....they think that if we stay fat, no one else is going to want to be with us and we will stay with them
  • lynsien
    lynsien Posts: 11
    People used to always make fun of me too. But ya know once you start counting calories for a while ... you remember how many are in certain things without even looking. And really who cares if they make fun of you?! You're gonna be the one benefiting from it. And then just because counting calories doesn't work for someone else doesn't mean it won't work for you. I say good job with sticking in there when people make fun of you for counting calories... you'll be the one laughing at them when you get the weight off!! :)
  • karoske
    karoske Posts: 38
    when I first started MFP & BLJS my hubby was all on board.. Maybe a little to much, He bit my head off, when I came home from church and didn't want what was exactly on the Biggest Loser Jump Start for day 14! He actually yelled at me and asked if I was gonna screw this up like I do every other diet.. Since this is my first diet, (and I am not calling it a diet.. I am changing the way I eat and hopefully my families) I didn't really say much back. But it hurt terrible when I have been right on since the start! My calories are under, everything I put in my mouth is healthy, and almost all of it is right from the BLJS book!

    Maybe the change is hard on him in some way.. sometime I think he liked me better fat!

    anyways.. Just had to vent my story.. my support group is very small, since I am in a new town and don't know anyone other then my hubby and kids... :)
  • sineadmm
    sineadmm Posts: 190
    No,no one makes fun of me for it!

    I would ignore their rude comments if I were you. They say calorie counting doesn't work... let them eat your words, and prove to them that it DOES work! Maybe they are jealous. Stay strong:flowerforyou:
  • Tamishumate
    Tamishumate Posts: 1,171 Member
    after a year of me doing it, I now have people that I work with looking at how many calories are in things, one of my co workers even lost 20 pounds last year because of my rubbing off on her. who cares what they think? Counting calories works. in a year, they wont even think twice about you doing it, it will all be good...

    Best of luck, Tami
  • sineadmm
    sineadmm Posts: 190
    after a year of me doing it, I now have people that I work with looking at how many calories are in things, one of my co workers even lost 20 pounds last year because of my rubbing off on her. who cares what they think? Counting calories works. in a year, they wont even think twice about you doing it, it will all be good...

    Best of luck, Tami

    Wow,you lost 150lbs!!! Well done! You are my idol :)
  • izzypup
    izzypup Posts: 341 Member
    Being supported by people around us seems to definitely be an issue. That is to bad! As a society people watch reality shows (that by the way aren't really reality) and can't wait to see who fails, who gets kicked out, who suffers. I wouldn't want to tell you what to do with your positions with friends or family but as someone said on here "ignore their rude comments". You can't control others, you can only control yourself. It does hurt and it's easy to say "if they don't care why should I'. YOU should because you care about you. It is true.... You have to love who you are before you can truely give love to others. When you are down on yourself picture you as a 5 yr old. What would you say to that child? How would you care for it? You would let them overeat, you would love them and take care of them. So be patient and love who you are, be happy and be kind to YOU!
  • CasperO
    CasperO Posts: 2,913 Member
    Wife and I have lost 104 pounds between us. She has managed to maintain her weight through a series of scip drug Lyrica (made her gain 50 last time). Oh ya, exercise and counting calories works. It's the only thing that really does.
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