how do you cope with suicide?

I'm so sorry for the pain you're going through. Please, don't take any of this on yourself. Everything you're feeling is completely normal but throw the guilt away. I strongly encourage you to find a support group in your area for family and friends of people who have committed suicide. They'll be more help than you could ever imagine.

I know that it sounds cliche and its not helpfull right at the moment. But time will help you to feel better- slowly you will be able to remember and feel sad but not break down and the cloud on your heart will lift slowly. My best friend in highschool became ill with manic depression and committed suicide. It took over a year to feel normal. but these days 4 years later i can remember her and think of her and be wistfull but not fall into the saddness.

my biggest tip is to talk about your friend- otherwise it feels very isolating that life continues on as normal and it feels like no one else remembers- talk.. because they do too.

Peace- i hope youre alright
message if you need to talk

I'm so sorry for your loss but don't blame yourself for it. Usually those with suicidal tendencies don't bring up their problems with anyone even to their SO. Depression is really hard to detect unless that particular person would bring it up. There are people who appear very cheerful & always surrounded with people but are depressed. On the other hand, there are people who are loners & yet are totally happy.

Like what the other posters have said, it will take time to heal. Its human nature to feel sad when we lose someone dear to us. Cry if you need to for a while & let it out. Talk with a friend, a family member or anyone who will support you.

First: there is nothing you could have done to prevent this from happening. So please don't blame yourself for anything. Suicide is a terrible tragedy that only the victim knows why they did it. Some people show signs leading up and some just make a decision and follow through.

Second: take care of yourself. let the grief process occur but try not to let yourself withdraw. Check online to find a support group to help you through this time.

Time will help and it will heal but it does not help you to forget. It just helps you to move forward.

I speak to you as a three time suicide survivor, it will get better but everyone handles this differently so don't let anyone tell you the time frame that the grief process should take.

It'll be different for different people, but I have been through something similar. I lost a close friend who lived with terrible physical pain, as well as fairly severe depression. She overdosed on her medications, and her manner of death was undetermined (meaning not ruled suicide or accidental). Unanswerable questions do make it harder, I know that very well. All I could tell myself was that, either way, she was in more pain than she could bear, and had to leave us.

All you can do is grieve, and take the best care of yourself that you can as you do. Your friends are here for you.

Lemony Snicket, in my opinion, put it best: "“It is a curious thing, the death of a loved one. We all know that our time in this world is limited, and that eventually all of us will end up underneath some sheet, never to wake up. And yet it is always a surprise when it happens to someone we know. It is like walking up the stairs to your bedroom in the dark, and thinking there is one more stair than there is. Your foot falls down, through the air, and there is a sickly moment of dark surprise as you try and readjust the way you thought of things.”

I prefer to think Tyler Durden did. "On a long enough timeline, the survival rate of everyone drops to zero"

Death is a part of life.

@ilyahna: Be good to yourself... You deserve nothing less.

@AlphamaleBAMF: Very true. I'll drink to that.

My heart goes out to you. The death of a loved one is always traumatic, but there's something laden and heavy about suicide that just makes it so, so hard.

My Dad took his own life when I was 14, and hand on heart I thought I would never, ever stop hurting. It hurt to breathe, to blink, to speak. I honestly could not see a time when the pain didn't consume every waking moment. I didn't see it coming, there was no explanation, no note, nothing. It feels like you're just left to deal with something truly huge and almighty with no resources whatsoever.

People used to say to me "you'll get over it". They didn't mean it spitefully; they just didn't know what to say. I compare loss of a loved one with losing an arm - you never "get over" losing an arm, but you learn to live with it day-by-day. You know the pain; you get acquainted with each other, and soon you're cohabiting.

I understand that you are in the thick of it at the moment, that horrible all-consuming pain. Hearing that it will get better seems like an insincere platitude at times like this but believe me - it does. Don't even take it one day at a time - an hour, ten minutes. There'll be bad days and good days. After a while, the good days outweigh the bad and oh my God, you find yourself laughing for once. And on it goes. You carry the person in your heart forever, and eventually the memory of them will bring smiles rather than tears.

But for now? Your world is ripped apart. It sometimes feels like you can't see past the next 10 minutes. Remember your friend; remember that there is nothing you could have done. Once someone has set their mind to ending their life, it takes damn near divine intervention to stop them. If they've got to a point when the pain is so bad that ending their life is their only option, then it's like stopping the world spinning. You can't. It's hard to admit but we are powerless in these situations.

You are in my thoughts. Remember your friend; stay strong; it WILL get easier.

Depression is an evil attack....I am so sorry for your loss and like others have said, it is more difficult for those left behind to deal with the aftermath. Grieve, find a support group and know that when someone is that depressed they are not themselves, they do not know how to deal with the pain they are being dealt and many don't know how to ask for help because they aren't in a rational way of thinking. My prayers are with you....