Making this work with my lifestyle.

Just eat/drink in moderation. I went away this weekend for my sister's wedding and every night was drinking, late rich dinners, etc. I weighed myself the day I left and when we got back. I worked out once when I was there, and danced a lot at the wedding. I ate the food at the events, but just stopped way before I got full. I weighed exactly the same when I got back. Just exercise a little more that day if you know you are going to be out that night. And dance whenever possible if you are out at night at a club or event!

Girl, I know EXACTLY how you feel. I wont lie - its tough, but for me, its all about planning. When going out to eat, I make sure we pick the place in advance so I can scope out the menu and plan the full day accordingly. Make a plan for the night and stick to it. Drinks are tough too - steer clear of any of those fruity/desert drinks some of those (especially anything that tastes like chocolate) can be close to 1000 calories a piece. I normally go with flavored vodka/rum and diet coke. That way you only have to really account for the alcohol. Make sure you factor those into your plan for the day as well. Combining good planning and some exercise on your off days should make it doable.

Vodka and diet coke.....order it in a tall glass, lots of ice, lemon and sip it. I switched to this and probably have 5 in a whole evening where Pre healthy eating I would polish off two bottles of wine then drunkly make really really poor takeaway choices after.

This way I have fewer calories, make better after booze food choices and have less of a hangover!!!!

Vodka and slimline tonic is another option.

You MUST have your social life!

I always check out menus before I go to the restaurants and figure out which is the best choice. If I put it in MFP before going out I am less tempted to sway and choose something higher in fat/calories.

I also order an Americano coffee whilst my mates are tucking into dessert! After all - I can then have more vodka rather than a high calorie dessert!

Not meaning to sound like a complete alchy.....me and my husband go out once a week and I always know where so I can plan!

This is the key!!!!!

Eat some veggies before you go so your stomach is full. You'll probably still indulge, but not as much. The rest of it, I'm afraid, is willpower. Exercise more, and eat a little less at gatherings.

I feel the exact same way. What is working for me is to stay on track or close to during the week and if something comes up on the weekend so be it. Try to keep it to a one day of the weekend or planning ahead (eating less during the day so that you have more for night). I'm working at controlling the alcohol situation. It doesn't always work out as I "planned" and I don't intend to ever completely stop drinking- thats just part of my lifestyle we tend to celebrate often and it usually means food and drinks.

Oh, I feel you! I eat out a LOT more than is probably great for my wallet, but I lvoe spending time with my friends, and that's typically the best way to do so. My first line of defense is that, no matter what, as soon as I get my meal, I divide it in half - we all know portion size is way outta control, and that means I have lunch, too!

Sometimes, before I go to dinner, I'll have a small portion of greek yoghurt with coconut oil (protein + a healthy fat) to help me feel fuller ahead of time, so I'm less tempted to gorge at the restaurant.

I'm sure you know about the "danger" words on a menu:
Au gratin
Basted
Battered
Bearnaise (or hollandaise)
"Bet you can't finish it"
Bottomless
Breaded
Buttery / Buttered
Casserole
Cheesy
Country-style
Covered
Creamed / Creamy
Crispy
Crunchy
Escalloped
Fried / Deep fried
Giant
Loaded
Platter
Smothered
Stewed
Stroganoff
Stuffed
Value
Volcano
White Sauce

Better words to look for:
Baked
Boiled
Broiled
Fat free
Fresh
Grilled
High Fiber
Light
Marinated
Multi-grain
Poached
Red sauce
Reduced
Roasted
Seasoned
Steamed
Stir-Fried
Vegetarian
Vinaigrette

I also ask for sauces and whatnot (if I really am in the mood for 'em) on the side - I'm a fork dipper (I dip my fork in the sauce/ gravy/ dressing and then into the food, so I have the flavour, but take in less than if I'd coated the food straightaway).

Drinks are a lot of calories, fo' sho, so limiting them works well for lots - ask for a soda water of diet cola with a twist between (depending on your preferred drink) to reduce the numbers of them.

Good luck! Restaurants don't have to be bad for your waistline, but planning and knowing what you're in for makes a HUGE difference. I also use my MFP app surreptitiously when I get the menu to get an idea of what I'm looking at if I can't plan ahead.

What i do before i go out is workout and make sure i fill up on healthy food before going out. that way I'm not starving and tempted to eat a bunch of yummy, bad-for-me stuff. I don't worry about the alcohol as much but if you want to limit the calories you get from drinks i would go for straight shots instead of mixed drinks (extra sugar) or get like coke zero instead of regular coke. also opt for wine instead of beer (more carbs/calories). Have fun!

My husband and I have a pretty active social life, with lots of dinners out and lots of parties/social events. I do really well at home and at work, but just don't have the willpower to resist some foods when they are right in front of me. Also, many of these events involve alcoholic beverages. Any suggestions?
Please don't tell me to stay home - I love spending time with friends and don't want to give that up. I need honest suggestions on how to make this work (even low cal drink ideas), not sermons about not wanting it badly enough.

Haha, my friends call me Mr. Social Coordinator because I am always making events or throwing a party. We have a group in Raleigh that goes out every Thursday to different restaurants, and my friends and I rotate house parties. I've had over 100 people at my house and people are always asking when is my next party because they have so much fun. So we definitely have a good time

Having said that, we are also very serious about staying in shape. I belong to a run club with 400+ members but I've also run 8ks, half-marathons and a full marathon. My friends and I are always challenging ourselves to something new, be it the Warrior Dash or a 1 hr circuit training class. I've found if you want to enjoy the good food and drinks, you have to up your exercise...there is just no way around it.

I'm 45, 5'11, 167 lbs...so you can go out and still be fit...don't let anyone tell you differently. I haven't given up anything and I've never belonged to a gym....I watch what I eat, run and lift weights. If you want to enjoy the good food, then you have to find other ways to burn it off. We spent a week in Mexico and all we did was eat and drink. There are no excuses; you have to be determined to stay fit.