Need a new me but cant get there

33Jones
33Jones Posts: 12
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Hi ! I am Victoria I am 22 I am currently 226. 2years ago I weighed 160 and I honestly do not understand sometimes how the weight crept up. I downloaded MFP a year ago and never used it just logged in here and there telling myself eventually my fat *kitten* would get up and take control. 6000 cookies later and a bump into an old friend who made the utterly disgusted face but told me I looked good ? 3 weeks ago I told myself ok I am going to be serious and sure I have logged in pretty much every day but am I taken it seriously ? No I get passed lunch and after that its down hill and binge eating. Its disgusting I get mad at myself. So when is enough enough ? I guess only I can answer that for myself. Anyhow starting next Monday I am opening my food diary to help keep me motivated knowing "friends" will see and track what I am consuming maybe even offer advice. Please no ugly comments every one is different. Any one want a friend with open diary please add me :) !
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  • baoneill29
    baoneill29 Posts: 138 Member
    Feel free to add me. I'm the same way, do great all day but screw everything up in the afternoon/evening. This is a great start to a lifestyle change for you. And keeping track of everything we eat is a great way to start this. You can do it!
  • Ang_Quark
    Ang_Quark Posts: 28
    :D Absolutely feel free to add me; I'll try to hold you accountable but I will never, ever judge you for mistakes/slip-ups. Without them, you would lack humanity, and I'm more interested in seeing you succeed than putting you down for failings.
  • sassi5
    sassi5 Posts: 49
    You can add me. :)
  • lifesazoo
    lifesazoo Posts: 118
    Every single day is a challenge for me with eating. Feel free to add me. I will log honestly and cheer you on for every single baby step you make towards your goal. This is a complete change of life and doesn't happen overnight, but with the right motivation and will, can happen.
  • sarahv87
    sarahv87 Posts: 2
    Victoria, you are definately NOT the only out there like that! haha. And you just described me? weird... :) I am in a health challenge thing and there are some good recipes that are posted in here.
    Feel free to add me.

    if you are like me, the more support and encouragement you have , its like ya get more motivated to not let them down!
    And some people are good at making you feel guilty if you start to slip into unhealthy patterns again.
    Good luck in your weight loss journey!

    -SV
  • elisa123gal
    elisa123gal Posts: 4,324 Member
    sorry about your friend's expression when they saw you. Good thing is ..you are taking control. Tracking does help..even when you eat beyond what you should. It really teaches portion control and balance..a great way to get on track.

    Please add me as a friend if you'd like.
  • sarahv87
    sarahv87 Posts: 2
    very nice reply
  • elyelyse
    elyelyse Posts: 1,454 Member
    keeping an accurate diary, i really believe, is THE KEY to beginning to take back control. It helps me make better decisions, and, if you are anything like me, an hour after a binge you can't even remember all the things you ate, AND you are probably trying to forget all about it. We love us some denial to go along with our ice cream. But, if you log it, before or as you eat, even the bad stuff, you can see it. It's right there looking back at you.

    This a good reality check... and you might, hopefully, get to a point where, there you are, about to grab another serving of food you don't need because you just ate, ready to log it... you will see the calories/fat/sugar/salt, and before it goes into your mouth you will say... wait. no. I don't want to do this to myself. and if you can do that once? you can do it again. and again. you CAN.
  • poetictraveller
    poetictraveller Posts: 47 Member
    You CAN get there....it starts with believing in yourself! I believe in you and it looks like plenty of others do too! Please add me so I can cheer you on!
  • brunette_gurl_66
    brunette_gurl_66 Posts: 48 Member
    You can add me as well (I've been there as well); but I do have a question for you. Why start Monday?
  • brunette_gurl_66
    brunette_gurl_66 Posts: 48 Member
    like this
  • JLD81
    JLD81 Posts: 133 Member
    Enjoy the process, not just the goal. Dont view it all as dieting and restricting, but as taking care of yourself and committing to your body. Good luck!
  • Ang_Quark
    Ang_Quark Posts: 28
    Enjoy the process, not just the goal. Dont view it all as dieting and restricting, but as taking care of yourself and committing to your body. Good luck!
    A really good mindset.
  • ahavoc
    ahavoc Posts: 464 Member
    Hey, you don't need a new you. You are just fine. You deserve to be healthy, happy, and fit. Why do you feel that you don't deserve it? Stop the nonsense, get over whatever you have to get over and start. You only have to start. Then you only have to keep going.
  • Jazmin1961
    Jazmin1961 Posts: 2
    What is a food diary and how do I start one?
  • cheryl5115
    cheryl5115 Posts: 154 Member
    You can do this. You didn't get in the shape you are over night, so don't expect to get out of overnight. Just do it one day at a time. No one can do this for you, only you can do it and you need to do it for yourself not someone else.
    You can set small goals for yourself. you can go for a walk the next time you are wanting to eat when you are not hungry.
    I know I am old enough to be your mom. But feel free to add me as a friend. I have a daughter your age.

    Just don't give up, we aren't .
  • jeninfl
    jeninfl Posts: 20 Member
    I agree, why wait till Monday? Start now! Set your goals, record what you eat. Don't be hard on yourself if you mess up now and then, it's the long term that matters. Start off making small changes. A few days of accurately recording what I eat is usually enough to get me to see where I can start making changes to do better the next day and it definitely gets easier over time. Don't allow yourself to make excuses for not recording. Even if you overeat, record it, even if you have to estimate what it was you ate. Feel free to add me as a friend, I could use some encouragement, too. :)
  • chicadejmu
    chicadejmu Posts: 171 Member
    Many people (including myself) find that once you start healthy habits, you crave them more. Meaning, if you eat more healthy foods, eventually you don't even want the junk food. I also think that exercising helps control cravings. It makes you feel better and therefore have more control over your bad cravings. If you can get up and get moving I think you'll see a big difference.

    Try small changes. Get rid of (or limit) one or two bad things per week. Drastically changing everything at once is just setting yourself up to fail. But do start a regular exercise routine ASAP. Hopefully this helps. You can do it!!!! Feel free to add me if you want.
  • jeninfl
    jeninfl Posts: 20 Member
    What is a food diary and how do I start one?

    If you are on the website, click the 'Food' tab, if you are on the phone app, click the little icon that looks like a sheet of paper next to the home icon. The food diary is where you log what you eat each day. It is very helpful in tracking calorie intake and also carbs, protein, calcium, water.
  • cheryl5115
    cheryl5115 Posts: 154 Member
    What is a food diary and how do I start one?

    To the left of your home page it gives you place to log your food or exercise.
  • NeuroticVirgo
    NeuroticVirgo Posts: 3,671 Member
    You can add me to. I totally do what you do, and did that for a good 7 months (and gained BACK 40lbs I had lost last year :grumble: )

    This is just my $0.02, but if your anything like me you probably have quite a bit of mental "issues" going on in your head. Self hate talk, telling yourself constantly that you CANT do this, telling yourself you WANT it...and then by the middle of the day something in your life hasn't gone as planned (maybe woke up late, missed your morning work out, work piling up)...and that voice creeps back in, only this time you don't DESERVE it...

    I could be way off base...but that is where a lot of my problems come from. I have no idea how to make myself shut up, but I do know that I just have to let those voices get their toe in the door and my whole day will go down the crapper with some binge eating.
  • JLD81
    JLD81 Posts: 133 Member
    Enjoy the process, not just the goal. Dont view it all as dieting and restricting, but as taking care of yourself and committing to your body. Good luck!
    A really good mindset.

    Thanks, I didn't always used to be that way. Recovery from ED's was not always an easy process :wink:
  • K_Smith86
    K_Smith86 Posts: 123
    You can add me to. I totally do what you do, and did that for a good 7 months (and gained BACK 40lbs I had lost last year :grumble: )

    This is just my $0.02, but if your anything like me you probably have quite a bit of mental "issues" going on in your head. Self hate talk, telling yourself constantly that you CANT do this, telling yourself you WANT it...and then by the middle of the day something in your life hasn't gone as planned (maybe woke up late, missed your morning work out, work piling up)...and that voice creeps back in, only this time you don't DESERVE it...

    I could be way off base...but that is where a lot of my problems come from. I have no idea how to make myself shut up, but I do know that I just have to let those voices get their toe in the door and my whole day will go down the crapper with some binge eating.

    This almost describes the constant battle I have with myself on a daily basis. It DOES get easier over time to shut those personal demons up. Some days are better than others, that's for sure.

    Anyway. My advice - take it a day at a time. If you try to take on more than that, you'll feel overwhelmed, which will lead to failure and defeat. So just a step and a day at a time. Log everything - the good and the bad. It truly does help and makes you aware of what you're eating. And we're all here for support - you'd be surprised how great everyone is on here. We've all been in each others shoes, and know what it's like. Friend request sent your way :)
  • Gloworm46
    Gloworm46 Posts: 96 Member
    You can never have too many friends - I'm available! If you need a nutrition and exercise plan check out www.livefitrevolution.org. I've lost 44lbs since April and continuing downward and it's a free program.

    I agree with not waiting until Monday. You might be surprised to see that starting any other day works too. Shake things up - take a chance and start tomorrow! We're all in your corner!:flowerforyou:
  • ivan1964
    ivan1964 Posts: 435
    Hello and welcome here. You can do anything you put your mind too. I hope you have a great day and feel free to add me if you wish. :smile:
  • LLEB92
    LLEB92 Posts: 21
    I'm totally the same. I do good for a couple of days then I over eat ruining everything. Feel free to add me.
  • Swissmiss
    Swissmiss Posts: 8,754 Member
    Glad that you are getting serious. It just doesn't work if we are not sold out on doing it. By the way.....I would say that you need new friends. The disgusting look is not what you need.
  • tlc45801
    tlc45801 Posts: 1
    I understand completely ... just started this yesterday because I have failed at all other attempts ... even if I did get weight off, I put some back on ... I can't seem to stay motivated. I keep waiting for this to become a habit like everyone says it will. I'm hoping the calorie tracker and accountability will help keep me going in the right direction. Add me please I could use "neighbors" to travel this journey with ... good luck!
  • YoYo1951
    YoYo1951 Posts: 370
    Hi Victoria, you described well, just about all of us at one time or another. I know that in the past, every time I would start a diet, I would be all or nothing, and I would really deprive myself of almost everything I liked. I felt like I would never be able to change, and I felt hopeless. It doesn''t have to be that way on MFP. Just put in your numbers, and they tell you what amount of calories you should consume per day. You can eat anything you want, just keep your calorie intake to what they suggest and the pounds will start melting off. You have to log, as it is amazing what we can shove into our mouths on a daily basis, and not even be aware of the amount of calories you are taking in. I was blown away at my numbers. It really helped me to see why I was in the shape I was in. I used to say, I don't eat that much. Well, after logging it, you really become aware of how much you eat and how calorie heavy the food you were/are eating is. After you get going, you will begin to see if I eat this, then my body feels better and my energy level is higher.Your body will know what it needs. Just take it slow, and you don't have to be perfect. Just keep logging, and drinking water. The pounds will start coming off which is motivating in itself, and then you will have more energy to add some type of exercise. I am still trying to get into the habit of exercise, but I feel anything I do, it is more than I did in the past. I/we did not put all this weight on in a week, it will take more than that amount of time to take it off sensibly and slowly. The slower you go, the better ingrained your habits become. Don't weigh yourself every day, pick a day of the week, like first thing in the morning on such and such day, and document. It really is exciting to see what our bodies can do for us, even after all of the abuse, mentally and physically we have heaped on it. I love my MFP pals and I try to give good feed back, and want the same from them. I am exciting to read what they eat and what they are doing. It helps me to tweek my behaviors and to become aware. I really was living in a very small bubble I created for myself, but it does not have to be that way. Be accountable, be alive, and be the person you were meant to be. This really is a wonderful process. You can do it Victoria, we all can. We just have to take that first step.
  • Goldielocks181
    Goldielocks181 Posts: 11
    feel free to add me! I am 20, so we are a similar age, and I know what it's like to not know where the weight came from. Be true to yourself, if you do eat bad then log it, because if you cheat you are only cheating yourself. Everyone on here is in the same boat, we all desperately want to lose weight (some want to gain) but all of us will struggle at some point. Everyday I have to keep telling myself if I want this then I have to work for it. Everyone is here to support eachother, but I can only speak for myself when I say I won't judge you. Good luck!

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