Recent Tragedy

Maybe one of those meal replacement drinks? I am not real sure.

More important I think you need to talk with someone about this so you can get started working on all those thoughts that are in your head.

This is terrible and I am sorry that you have to go through it.

That's awful. It must be extremely hard for you, and it's understandable you're having a hard time!
Right now you need to be thinking about yourself and your children, if you don't eat for you, eat for them, so you're able to carry on being a fabulous mum to them. And i agree with dvelocity about speaking with someone for help.

You are a strong person, and you can and will get through this! If you want to talk then just message me

Edited to say your children and gorgeous!

I am so sorry Maybe you want to talk to someone, your mom, friend, therapist, but do it when you are ready to. You need to be strong for your children. I haven't a tragedy like you have but sometimes when I feel stressed out I go for a long run. It helps clear my head and I can put whatever pain you have to push yourself. Everyone handles situations differently, you have to find out what works for you. I sent you a friend request if you'd like.

I'm so sorry for what you're going through right now. There are lots of people who have been in your position and you're not alone...I agree with previous posters, go and see someone - there are lots of people out there to help you talk through your problems, somebody like a counsellor will be able to start coping with your pain.

In the meantime, if you don't want to eat then drink milk - when i had serious glandular fever and couldnt eat for weeks the doctor told me milk is the best thing because you get the calories you need and your stomach isn't completely empty.

Plus it is very hard to throw up.

Peace and Love x

See a counselor, ASAP. You need to begin dealing with the emotions you're fighting right now. I speak from experience (my husband was molesting our 11 year old daughter)! A counselor will give you a safe place to vent and start dealing with your feelings and what's happened. You are going to go through the full grief process, but you will come out stronger.

As others have said, it's important that you get nutrition. Try some smoothies or meal replacement shakes, and start adding food back gradually. Eat what you know you can tolerate. I agree, too, that it's probably a good idea to see your primary care doctor; he/she can refer you to a counselor or psychiatrist and one of the doctors can give you something for anxiety and possibly for your stomach, too, to help it settle.

When I went through the situation with my husband, I felt the same way. Food that once held pleasure for me tasted like cardboard. I wanted to curl up in a corner and just die. But I couldn't, because my kids needed me. They needed me to be strong and to pick up the pieces of our lives and find a way to put them together again, albeit in a new configuration. We are two years out from all of that, and while I still have an occasional bad day, life has moved on. The kids are doing well, and we moved to be closer to my family. I know right now it seems like your world has come to an end, but it hasn't. You'll find the strength to move on and be there for your kids. You'll find the strength to let go of what was and look forward to what can be. Be sure to lean on friends and family as much as you need to. If you are religious, lean on your church family; if you don't have one, try to find one. Especially look for a church that has a ministry to divorced people; they will likely be more understanding than some churches. Find a good attorney, too--you have absolute grounds for divorce and will likely get alimony and child support (if the judge has half a brain!).

Feel free to message me if you wish. I know all too well the emotions you're feeling right now. But you CAN survive this!

I'm sorry you're going through that. I agree that you may need to see someone over it.

I've never known anyone who goes through excessive pain and stress like I do. My body shuts down, and I don't eat. Can't eat. Most people overeat and binge. So I do know what you are going through. I am so, so sorry. Same thing happened to me but we were getting married in a acouple weeks when he cheated. But I got over it. Oh, my husband did the same thing. My God, its going to take a lot of time and every day hurting.

Ask for help from a friend or family member. You and your children need the help. I've been where you are more than once. It feels like a death in the family. Have someone stay with you that can prepare meals and care for all of you. You will prolong the healing process if you are ill and not sleeping. I agree with the others about seeing your doctor. Get help for the anxiety and for sleep. Even a short term prescription will do wonders for you. There is no need to go this alone. Dieting should be the last thing on your mind right now. You can refocus later when you are stronger. After all......success is the best and (healthiest) revenge!

I'm very sorry about what has happened. You really need to focus on yourself and your children (don't bad-mouth him to your children-it hurts them, not him). The best "revenge" is doing well and not falling apart. None of us can ever truly control what another person chooses to do; it's not a reflection on you. You can only control you and how you choose to deal with the situation.