Stop Hating the Process and Only Focusing on the Goal

I have read a lot of posts lately that are very bitter, angry, and some just plain whiny because so many are stuck in that mindset of comparing yourself and your progress to everyone else.

Stop.

Stop focusing so much on "when I get thin" or "when I lost five more lbs" or "when I look like that girl". If something happened and you never get to make it to that point (not saying this is the case, just something to think about), wouldn't you regret not loving yourself, your friends, your family, and each other? You wouldn't go, "gee it would have been nice to do that but I wasn't skinny yet so it's a good thing that I didn't". No. No one does that.

What I am trying to say here is everyone needs to start realizing that their goal is not what defines who they are. You are still you, fat or skinny or in between. Stop beating yourself up and start enjoying the process. I have been super skinny and quite overweight, and amazingly, I had the same types of problems no matter what the size. I look back at pictures and remember that the "fat me" had a lot of fun. Why? Because the "fat me" didn't have to worry about what my friends really thought of me or why they were my friends, because I knew that if they loved me fat, they loved me, period. I look back at pictures of me really skinny and realize that I had no idea what I really had but the problems had changed. When I was really skinny I had to always worry about "WHY" people were around me and whether they were there because of who I really was, or what they THOUGHT I was. What I'm getting at here is, I've been on both sides of it. Now, Im somewhere in between.

My goals at this point are to be the best ME that I can be. I don't want to be overweight or super skinny. I want to have muscle regardless of where it moves the scale. I want to improve my fitness. While I am not in the best shape of my life, I am happy. I am happy because I enjoy the process. I want everyone out there to realize that the people you look at who you think "have it so easy and can eat anything they want and look like THAT", may not have it so easy, I used to be "that girl" at one point, and I starved myself, purged, and hid every bit of it to look cool and collected. It isn't worth it.

Stop worrying about everyone else and find your INNER happiness WHILE pursuing your outer best. Sorry for the long post, just wanted to get that off my chest.