No pictures of me please

You can hate your picture but not yourself! You have to love yourself and tell yourself you are worth getting in shape and getting healthy.

My DH does does the behind pictures too but he is a "butt" man so I forgive him. And actually I look better from behind, can't see the fat belly.

Why not negotiate - tell him he can take some pictures, but you don't want to see them until you've lose (insert set amount of pounds here), so that you can see how far you've come. Something to be proud of, and he still gets to take his pictures.

First off, I know how that feels. I have hated MOST pictures of myself ever since I've gained the weight I originally lost in 2010. I was finally feeling good about myself and I gained it all back, and am now starting over.

Second... I definitely regretted not taking GOOD before pictures once I HAD lost the 21 lbs. So, maybe you should make a deal with him that he can take your before pictures, but they have to be under your circumstances. Get prettied up, strike a cute pose so you feel good about yourself, and when you've lost some weight, you'll have something to compare AND encourage you to keep going.

Ask him why he's taking the photos. May be he wants you to be proud of your success. I don't like hearing you hate yourself. That is destructive and will not help you achieve your goals. Focus on what you like about yourself. You are obviously a person commited to losing weight and have done well so far. That is a positive thing. I'll bet you are a great person. Ask your husband why he loves you and really listen to his reply. Focus on those things. Your body will be changing and pretty soon you will look at the behind pictures and be so proud of yourself.

From a male perspective, if that is you in the middle photo, then he is a very lucky man and wants to show the world his wife's achievements.

But a quiet word (or a slap :laugh: ) might also be the order of the day.

When my GF started on here in Jan. she had me take a few pictures of her so she could remember what she looked like and where she was. I started in Feb. but did not want any pictures of me taken. After losing abot 30 lbs. I took a couple and was shocked how I looked. I just took some more pictures this week, and I am kicking myself for not taken some when I started. I have lost 71lbs. so far, and feel so much better, it is not funny. Remember, the only way you can get those pictures later is to get fat again.

Thanks for the support.

I think he is not trying to be mean he just loves me and want to have photos of me especially when we travel - I just hate it though and delete them when I can or when there is a very bad one.

Just remember that what we see is not what everyone else sees.

I hate my photos..in fact I hate my current photo...but people keep telling me to keep them up because they love them and I know they are being genuine...

So sometimes we need to relax and let the consensus take over.

My mother HATES having her picture taken. That said, when we were on our trip to Israel I took lots of pictures of her. She looked at most of them and said, "Horrible," but then in a few she said, "I don't look bad in that." I explained that in the pictures where she didn't look bad, she didn't realize I was taking her picture and she didn't put on a sour puss face.

As for me, I have a lot of weight to lose. I don't like my pictures taken either ... but at the end of the day, for me I would rather be honest and admit, "This is what I look like." So what if every picture isn't flattering. I'm not a supermodel. But for me as a pastor, I get to play a part in the lives of my members. I am in baptism, wedding, confirmation pictures galore. I smile and celebrate with people. I'm sure not going to run away and hide.

Perhaps I have a unique perspective. I also know people who won't visit loved ones in the hospital as they are dying, "Because I want to remember them how I knew them." As for me, I'd rather actually care about and be there for the people while they are going through the difficult times in the hospital.

As for you, I'd say talk to your husband about it. Were it me, I'd want pictures of the woman I loved, regardless of her body size. My $.02.

wow 132 lbs how awesome is that how much time did it took you to get all thise weight off

I am so fat I hate my picture being taken! My husband has started taking secret photos (mostly from behind) which is even worse in a way - All I see is this huge person it is not the person I think I am.

I have lost some weight already and I WILL lose the rest but right now I pretty much hate myself.

My husband has done the same thing. I usually delete them off the camera though. He was very happy when I asked him to take "before" pics for me. He thinks I'm beautiful and finds it silly that I disagree. :laugh: