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follmer20
follmer20 Posts: 129 Member
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Im a SAHM. I have a almost 3 year old and a 6 month old. Okay, i know my boyfriend got this job so I can be a SAHM and not have to work. I've been thinking about putting my 3 year old in a daycare program a couple days a week just so he can interact with kids his age since he's not around anyone his own age. But when I asked my bf about it he didn't like the idea to much. Am I wrong for wanting to do that? Would that be bettter for him to get to play with kids his own age? Would that be defeating the purpose of me being a SAHM because I feel that way when I think about doing it. Is there another solution then a daycare?

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  • waronmyfat
    waronmyfat Posts: 322 Member
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    Not at all it's a good idea it will help him
    Interact with other children n learn to play n also prepare him for when he starts preschool :) Otherwise you could find a playgroup to join
    Im a SAHM. I have a almost 3 year old and a 6 month old. Okay, i know my boyfriend got this job so I can be a SAHM and not have to work. I've been thinking about putting my 3 year old in a daycare program a couple days a week just so he can interact with kids his age since he's not around anyone his own age. But when I asked my bf about it he didn't like the idea to much. Am I wrong for wanting to do that? Would that be bettter for him to get to play with kids his own age? Would that be defeating the purpose of me being a SAHM because I feel that way when I think about doing it. Is there another solution then a daycare?
  • peles_fire
    peles_fire Posts: 501
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    Daycare is an option but if your BF really objects there are other choices available. I joined a few local mom's groups at meetup.com to socialize my son. It helped expose him to lots of new kids and we both made some great friends along the way. Also, check with your local community center. Ours has a drop in play group every week, tons of interaction and fun stimulation for the kids and I found that if I went regularly, I saw the same folks over and over, again, another good chance to make connections and play date possibilities.

    I don't think there is anything wrong with daycare, my boy was in from the time he was 2.5 and he truly thrived in the daycare we chose for him. But if it is a sticking point with your boyfriend there are other ways to accomplish the same goal. If you live in a bigger city, check to see if they have any free parenting publications that will list family events and children's activities that you can participate in. You'll find there are many low to no-cost options out there.

    Good luck!
  • DawnieB1977
    DawnieB1977 Posts: 4,248 Member
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    I think it's a good idea for him to socialise with kids his age.

    I have a 3 year son, and a 15 month old daughter, and they both go to nursery 3 days a week because I work part time. I had a year for maternity leave with my daughter, and my son went to nursery 1 day a week from when he was 26 months. It did him a lot of good and his speech improved a lot, and he got better at eating, as he was hardly eating at all before he started.

    Here in England 3 year olds get 15 hours free at nursery every week. They start school as young as 4 here. Our terms run from Sept, so if a child is born on August 31st, they will start primary school just after they turn 4. My son has a June birthday, so he'll be pretty young. So nursery is great preparation for that, plus some of the kids they go to nursery with will go to the same primary school, so they'll at least have some familiar faces there.

    Also, you may be a SAHM, but you still need a break sometimes. I had a year with 2 young children, so I know how demanding that can be! It was nice to have 1 day a week with just my daughter.
  • GorillaEsq
    GorillaEsq Posts: 2,198 Member
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    A few questions:

    1. Is your boyfriend the father?
    2. Is "employment" a prerequisite for needing daycare?
    3. Why is he opposed to it? The expense? The exposure to illness (because your child WILL get sick the first few weeks)? Or does he feel you should simply stay home and do the work yourself?
  • trophywife24
    trophywife24 Posts: 1,472 Member
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    I'm a SAHM as well and have a 5 year old and a 2 year old. Neither have been to daycare because of our personal choice BUT they have both been involved with programs for children their ages (library time, art classes, nature classes, they're both active with their church age groups as well) and are both very social kids. Even just spending time at the park is a way to be social.

    A couple of questions though........... do you want daycare for a break for yourself? Why is your boyfriend opposed to daycare? Is it going to change your finances if they go?
  • GorillaEsq
    GorillaEsq Posts: 2,198 Member
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    I'm a SAHM as well and have a 5 year old and a 2 year old. Neither have been to daycare because of our personal choice BUT they have both been involved with programs for children their ages (library time, art classes, nature classes, they're both active with their church age groups as well) and are both very social kids. Even just spending time at the park is a way to be social.

    A couple of questions though........... do you want daycare for a break for yourself? Why is your boyfriend opposed to daycare? Is it going to change your finances if they go?
    Didn't I just ask all of that? ;)
  • follmer20
    follmer20 Posts: 129 Member
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    Im not really sure why he's not formit...i kinda just ended the conversation when he said no. Ive thought about day care as a break for me...also so he can see how other kids are his age, and get to play with kids his age. He's very greedy with his toys, he needs to learn to share and interact with kids. It will and won't change finances. My boyfriend makes more then enough that I can send him. But...I feel like itd be a waste of money because I AM a SAHM....and yes my boyfriend is the father of both my kids...
  • cmaxmor
    cmaxmor Posts: 231 Member
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    I would stop calling it daycare and look for a "moms day out" program. They are usually a couple days/week for 3-4 hours. Local churches and the ymca are good places for these.
  • Bahet
    Bahet Posts: 1,254 Member
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    You won't get a tax deduction so if that's one of your things there's your answer there.

    What about starting a playgroup in your area? When my oldest was little I made up some flyers and put them in doors of every house on my block and the next block. We ended up with a great playgroup that switched between houses. The kids got to interact and the moms got to meet new friends. I still keep in touch with some of those women and that was 13 years ago.
  • trophywife24
    trophywife24 Posts: 1,472 Member
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    I'm a SAHM as well and have a 5 year old and a 2 year old. Neither have been to daycare because of our personal choice BUT they have both been involved with programs for children their ages (library time, art classes, nature classes, they're both active with their church age groups as well) and are both very social kids. Even just spending time at the park is a way to be social.

    A couple of questions though........... do you want daycare for a break for yourself? Why is your boyfriend opposed to daycare? Is it going to change your finances if they go?
    Didn't I just ask all of that? ;)

    haha, caught not reading the other posts......... oops :)
  • oregonzoo
    oregonzoo Posts: 4,251 Member
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    I'd look for a mommys group as somebody else suggested.

    Don't take a good financial situation for granted. So few have that now.
  • hilltopsarah
    hilltopsarah Posts: 58
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    Believe it or not a daycare is actually the perfect solution if you want some time for yourself. Daycares are the perfect way to start your child entering in the socal world because in my view the earlier the age the better. However make sure you introduce your child to a daycare gradually to prevent separation anxiety, because it will be a new transition for your 3-year-old:happy:

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