New & in need of motivation

Steph you have taken a very important first step and we can help you out here. Many of us have been through this over and over and know what you're going through. Feel free to add me if you want someone that will help in any way I can.

when you try to take on a huge challenge all at once it can be overwhelming. Sometimes the "well, I messed up a little, so, since the day is no longer perfect I'll just mess up a whole lot and start over tomorrow" leads one to the point where you feel like you're always starting over, but never really getting started. That leads to a feeling of "I can't do it, I'm not strong enough, etc". Don't try to do it all at once, and be kind to yourself. It takes every decision added up to make the big picture, so work on something reasonable to get started. Choose an exercise you can do daily, decide to eat more of something healthy (instead of focusing too much on what you "can't" have), drink more water, etc. If you're having trouble moving the mountain start with a few stones

hey girlie! trust me i know how it is. i have be overweight all my life. after i had my first son i lost 75 pounds and was just beginning to get healthy, then i got married, had 2 more kids and well here i am. i am a firm believer that you have to start eating healthier foods and make that habit before you being working out. one thing at a time. its hard enough giving up everything you love to eat. AND then trying to work out on top of that. its just ridiculous! so start slow.... trust me.. after a month... if starts to feel to go to stop..
i think of it like this. i want to be able to take my kids to the water park and not be that mom thats covered from head to toe. i wanna be able to flaunt it.. im just saying.. its a live long change.. and it feels good. i just had my 3rd child about 2 month ago and i am starting the change myself. do it for you and your child. cause you dont ever wanna be that one that can fit on the roller coster with them. good luck.

Hi Steph. Just try and make small changes to your diet and start by taking a short walk every day. I was 23 stones and I thought I was past redemption. I was ten stone before having four kids and then I suffered with depression for four years. As the years went by I just got bigger and bigger. Two years ago at the age of 43, I managed to lose four stone but then I slid back to old ways and put nearly two stone back on. In may this year I discovered my fitness pal and I love it. I went for walks and I could give myself a treat with the extra calories! I have lost twenty pounds since then and I am four pounds off getting back to my four stone weight loss. Four weeks ago I plucked up the courage to join a gym. I started swimming at the gym three to four times a week. Gives you lots of extra calories too!
I have even plucked up the courage to start using the treadmill and exercise bikes. The first few times I felt really self conscious. At over 19 stone walking slowly on a treadmill with some slim goddess running 8 miles an hour at the side of me! But as I looked round there were lots of different sizes and ages dotted around and I started to feel good that I was at least trying to do something.

It has done wonders for my mental health as well as my self esteem. I'm even managing to cope with my youngest child leaving for uni this week. Instead of moping with empty nest syndrome I've been down to the gym and exercised.

I still want to lose another 8 stone and it is going to be a very long term goal and if anyone wants to add me as a friend I will be grateful for the support and can give support in return.

Steph you have taken a very important first step and we can help you out here. Many of us have been through this over and over and know what you're going through. Feel free to add me if you want someone that will help in any way I can.

I'm not sure I could say it much better. I have been overweight for the majority of my life and I've realized at this point, that the challenge of loosing weight can't be anymore difficult than it has been walking around with this weight all these years. I am done struggling with myself and with my weight and tired of the sleepless nights too! And am glad to help in any way I can and would love the mutual support. Please add me if you would like

I've been in the exact same position as you were in but i've finally set myself a target and i'm buckling down and somehow it seems really easy! I'd lve to give you help and motivation so add me! It's so much easier going through this with other people!

Feel free to add me im always here to off encouragement and support