Moments of Doubt

joselo2
joselo2 Posts: 461
edited December 2024 in Motivation and Support
Hello,
I know if sounds really bad, but does anyone else ever feel like the sacrifices aren't worth it in weightloss? I mean, I am all for it really, I want to do this but sometimes I get moments of doubt. I REALLY LOVE eating, which is mostly why I got to 400lbs before my 21st birthday. And I know you can still eat well and nice food and lose weight, but the fact is you can't really eat whole packets of chocolate biscuits or order greasy takeaways 3 nights a week. And I still sometimes feel that my life won't have much joy in it like that. My heart sinks when I look at a day and know I have no eating lots of nice food to look forward to. At the minute I am still on quite high cals, but as I lose more that will have to reduce and I don't know how I will cope. Does anyone else ever feel that way?
xxx

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  • LoraF83
    LoraF83 Posts: 15,694 Member
    I promise you that there are more ways to find joy in life than by eating "whole packets of chocolate biscuits." The sacrifices are aboslutely worth it, because life is so much better when you are able to enjoy all of it, instead of being limited by health problems and lack of mobility.

    Food is wonderful, but it is not the be all and end all. I enjoy it, and I can still eat what I want, but in moderation. And that's how it's supposed to be.

    It sounds like you are using food to fill an emotional void - but food isn't meant to be used that way. You might want to speak to a professional about your feelings and attitudes towards food.
  • bethgames
    bethgames Posts: 534 Member
    I had 100 pounds to lose and am still working on that last half. In the beginning, you have only the feelings of determination and deprivation. As you 'STICK TO IT' you will begin to trade those for feelings of accomplishment and pride. Then eventually a healthy body is it's own reward. Truly, it is not as hard to stick to once you feel good and know you look good. :) Stick to it, honey! YOU are worth it. Your feelings now are not the ones you will have when you are well on your way. It is hard to believe because the feelings you have now are the only ones you have to base your future ones on....rambling a bit, but you will see what I mean. Trust us!

    :flowerforyou: :flowerforyou: :flowerforyou:
  • Ralphrabbit
    Ralphrabbit Posts: 351 Member
    I have done at times but now I can not eat those sort of quantities anymore & I am glad of it as my logical head remembers just how unhappy I was at 309lb & how happy I am now to be able to do a whole new bunch of things! My MS was worse & I was getting towards immobile, my depression was enormous & I was considering suicide. No amount of food is worth it and it did not make me any happier when I did eat that way. Now I enjoy my food & it is healthier for me & I can look forward to all the new stuff I can do now & will be able to do soon................ next goal under 210 is to get on a horse (for the first time since I was 15!) and not be reportable to the RSPCA!!
    Who needs a whole packet of biscuits for joy?!?!?
  • lornathewizzard
    lornathewizzard Posts: 165 Member
    Just look at your profile page and the reasons you want to get in shape. Those are all worth more than a ton of biscuits. My advice? Find something else you enjoy, that is good for you (or well, isn't as bad for you as eating a whole packet of biscuits in one go!). It is all worth it I promise.
  • TavistockToad
    TavistockToad Posts: 35,719 Member
    I have a couple of motivational quotes that might be food for thought for you.... Pun intended!!!

    If hunger isn't the problem, food isn't the answer

    You are not a dog, so don't reward yourself with food

    You need to focus on finding tings in your life that you can enjoy and have a passion for, instead on just food... Food IS NOT your friend, it is supposed to nourish you, that is all!
  • raetonycass
    raetonycass Posts: 58 Member
    Don't look ahead to what you won't be able to have in the future. Look at what you CAN have TODAY. As your caloric intake drops make small changes to accomplish that. Day by day you will get used to eating less. You can still have whatever foods your heart desires but in moderation. When I first lost weight in 2005/2006 I always gave myself a cheat day. I could hold out all week knowing that on Sunday I could have the chicken nuggets, chocolate cake, regular pop, whatever. At first I lived for those days but as time went on when I got to my cheat day I found I really didn't want those things so much. I had slowly detoxed my body of all the sugars. Soon I didnt' need it anymore. You can do this, one day at a time.
  • firstsip
    firstsip Posts: 8,399 Member
    I think you're missing a critical point in your initial post: you CAN eat chocolate biscuits AND eat greasy take away... just not in such large quantities. Is it worth it to you to enjoy the taste, or to just eat a large quantity?
  • joselo2
    joselo2 Posts: 461
    Hello, thank you! Well, it is so crazy because I DO have so much to be happy about in my life bu still I feel the need to use food for my happiness. I don't know why. I wish I could get over that. I suppose it is sort of the taste and quantity. Like t feel satisfied I need to have loads. I worry I'll just not be able to stop after a few biscuits, I wish you could buy packs of just like, 3! People say this gets easier as you get used to the habits, I hope this happens soon.
    xxx
  • Ralphrabbit
    Ralphrabbit Posts: 351 Member
    Perhaps counselling is the route to go with this if you are brave enough?? I was scared but I am so glad I did it as now I do have a handle on the why I eat what I eat , or for now just want to!!
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