Does your love life improve after losing weight?

FrenchCanuck
FrenchCanuck Posts: 60 Member
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If you were single when you were overweight and had great difficulty finding a partner because of your weight, does your love life improve after losing the pounds?

And, do you feel that men/women that approach you now wouldnt normally do if you were overweight?
Do you feel it's superficial and disrespectful of them to give you attention and respect now that you're fit but completely ignored your existence when you were overweight?

I know losing weight builds confidence and that aspect attracts people, but I know some overweight people with good self esteem & confidence but cant attract men/women because of their overweight physical appearence.

Just wanted to know how others think about these issues...

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  • anemoneprose
    anemoneprose Posts: 1,805 Member
    If you were single when you were overweight and had great difficulty finding a partner because of your weight, does your love life improve after losing the pounds?

    - I didn't have difficulty before (didn't want anyone after a relationship for a while). Yes, though, 1000x yes. Reasons: increased libido and general energy and concentration; improved self esteem because of bodily changes; greater availability of nicer clothes and more interest in them, etc, etc. Also, I probably had average self-esteem for an average woman, which isn't really that great. Self-consciousness and inhibition have decreased a lot, in all areas of life, but this one too (compared both to other times I was single and dating, and within my relationship).

    And, do you feel that men/women that approach you now wouldnt normally do if you were overweight?

    - I do feel that way, yes. But my lifestyle's changed a lot for other reasons, too. One of them is I actually feel like going out more often.

    Do you feel it's superficial and disrespectful of them to give you attention and respect now that you're fit but completely ignored your existence when you were overweight?

    - I didn't feel 'completely ignored', because I was either in a relationship or didn't want to be. Superficial, maybe, but as I say there's a lot else that happened in terms of my basic energy and ability to be present.

    I know losing weight builds confidence and that aspect attracts people, but I know some overweight people with good self esteem & confidence but cant attract men/women because of their overweight physical appearence.

    Just wanted to know how others think about these issues...
  • ricky_j_b
    ricky_j_b Posts: 64 Member
    your appetite for life is relative to your weight loss, :)
  • Arilysal
    Arilysal Posts: 46 Member
    your appetite for life is relative to your weight loss, :)

    Masterfully said!

    1. I didnt feel any different before and after weight lost, as i am in the same long relationship. Its a personallity thing for me as i was often being labeled as a very independent woman and thus not "romantically-friendly" lol. But i am more confident with my body with my fiance, more... saucy and direct in the bedroom because of the newfound confidence XD

    2. For me i think weight gain actually makes more people approaching me then a weight lost me as i look more off putting and snobbish, something most of my new friends confessed after we know eachother for a while.

    3. No, because i accepted that part of being human is being superficial, there's no escaping that. And sadly, there's no escaping the thought of "ew, how can he/she abuse her body like that" whether you are thin or fat, if you dont have a neat upkeep of your outward appearance you will not be accepted on the 1st impression easily.

    Although, i do agree that how you truly feel on the inside does reflect on the outside no matter what layer of clothing/skin you have.

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