Are We Gonna Last to This Battle?

The_BoSS
The_BoSS Posts: 32 Member
edited September 2024 in Motivation and Support
hi everyone!
i'm another one overweight person. Someone will say: " So? "
Well there are days that I feel like the Loch Ness monster or like an extra large beast. I' am fighting to get thin for years and really this resemble to a battle. You have to fight against your bad mood,your psychological mood that is going down and down and down, you have to fight against your patience and your own limits. You have to fight against others who insist to stay just as you are, overweight and these people are really afraid this change. Personally, all my friends are skinny and they want me to stay just as i am. Why? Sometimes this really hurts me. Why i cannot change?But they always say that they are afraid of losing me.
Well back to my "desperate" feelings!!! I have no support on this effort and i' m trying to deal with it all by my self(of course someone will say this effort, this fight only concerns you). But the truth is I do not love my self. Why should I? I'm utterly desperate and I'm afraid of giving up this fight again!
Here in this site there are so many inspirations and i' m really so happy about them! Congrats to all of you!
But the Question is : Am i gonna last to be at the point i want? everyone has her/his own personality and is dealing with a different way this problem. But personally, i find it veeery difficult dealing with it.
The thing is: Am i really gonna last? Are you too?

thanks.

Replies

  • EKarma
    EKarma Posts: 594 Member
    Do I want to be fat for the rest of my life? Being fat was a bigger struggle than this dieting thing!!!! You really need to start believing in yourself.. I am a twin sister.. We aren't identical.. I was always the fat one, had glasses, and braces.. She always had the boyfriends and the friends, but she was always my best friend. THAT was a struggle. I hated myself so much growing up, it was stupid.

    I realised you're only as happy as you make your mind up to be.. And dammit, the braces came off, the glasses are in style now (!!), and the fat.. .. Well I'm still working on that, but I will be in a bikini this summer.. And I'll be a MILF.. I want this.. I was just thinking about how much I'm actually enjoying this diet, this go around.. This is my life now..

    Just remember to keep moving, portion size, and start enjoying the ride.. Kick your *kitten* into gear and make up your mind to be happy! Only you have the power.. But seriously.. you've got to stop being so hard on yourself..
  • The_BoSS
    The_BoSS Posts: 32 Member
    well for now is what see in the mirror... i am really severe with my self... i know it is very painful for me...but also being happy is quite difficult at this stage... life is short right?? and it must be full of happiness!!! well i 'll try work on that!!
  • TCASMEY
    TCASMEY Posts: 1,405 Member
    Do you want to last to the end of this battle? It takes time...remember it took time to get to this point. There will be times when it seems so easy and times when it feels like more work than it is worth, but this is about your well being so remember IT IS WORTH IT! YOU ARE WORTH IT.

    I lost 20 pounds in 3 months and then spent the next 9 months exercising but not watching my eating, I did not gain but neither did I lose. I found my motivation again and the weight is coming off again. Keep telling yourself you are worth it.

    When I was in high school our volleyball team use to shout "YOU GOTTA WANNA!" and that is what I keep telling myself. I gotta wanna that healthier, sexier me!
  • The_BoSS
    The_BoSS Posts: 32 Member
    but when you reach at this terminal point and you have really lost yourself through this fight what happens then? what happens when you won't be the woman who started this battle?
  • MTGirl
    MTGirl Posts: 1,490 Member
    Your fat is just your fat. It isn't you. You are still the same person, with the same issues when you lose it as when you have it. You just will be healthier, fitter, have fewer medical problems or possible medical problems and maybe have more tools to deal with stress than you have now. And, maybe, on your journey, you will uncover things about yourself you didn't know. Or you were hiding from. These are not bad, just new. Go with it! Be brave and see who and what you will uncover when you lose the unhealthy fat. Trust me, it will be worth the ride! The only way to know what is at the end of the journey is to be brave enough to continue on it. I have been on it for a long time now. I get lost once in awhile, get scared and go back the wrong way once in awhile, but always get back on the path and keep on going. In my profile you will see a picture of me @100 lbs heavier. Trust me, it is a journey not over with yet, but well worth taking!
  • The_BoSS
    The_BoSS Posts: 32 Member
    thanx for the advice... i hope this journey or battle worth the way... even though there are so many questions that may find an answer in the future.
  • TCASMEY
    TCASMEY Posts: 1,405 Member
    but when you reach at this terminal point and you have really lost yourself through this fight what happens then? what happens when you won't be the woman who started this battle?

    I don't believe we are losing ourselves but finding out who we truly are and what we can truly do. I think when we get to the end of this journey we will be better stronger people for ourselves and those around us who loves us.

    This is a long journey and a long journey can be achieved through small steps....start with small changes and work up to the bigger challenges. One place I was reading start by eating 100 calories less a day and then when that is comfortable cut another 100 and keep doing it until you are eating the number you are supposed to eat.

    Don't go out and think you can run a marathon right away. Start by walking around the block and add to it. Add exercise you like and feel comfortable with. You can do this! Will it be easy? No! Will it be worth it? I believe it will. It will be much easier if you believe it too!
  • annhjk
    annhjk Posts: 794 Member
    I got to the point, when I lost the majority of the weight (in 93 and kept it off except maybe 5-10 lbs), that once I got to the point where people started notice I was losing weight, it was easy to keep going. BUT, I loved the attention - just my personality. It gave me a motivation to keep going.

    Just set small goals for yourself - maybe not even weight related. Maybe eat 5 fruits and veggies today, drink all your water, a big one for me is to stay away from sugar for a week. Once you meet 1 goal, add another one. Pretty soon it'll all be habit and believe it or not junk food really does lose it's appeal (except for dark chocolate - I could eat it all day long!).

    One of the best tips I've heard as far as what to eat is if your grandparents (greats for some) didn't know what it was, don't eat it. We don't need all the processed food that we have available. Yes, it takes a lot of planning to not eat out often or to buy a box of your favorite snack, but it is so worth it.

    hope that helps a little. Yes you can do but it's going to have to be a daily (hourly sometimes) decision to be healthy.
  • The_BoSS
    The_BoSS Posts: 32 Member
    Just set small goals for yourself - maybe not even weight related. Maybe eat 5 fruits and veggies today, drink all your water, a big one for me is to stay away from sugar for a week. Once you meet 1 goal, add another one. Pretty soon it'll all be habit and believe it or not junk food really does lose it's appeal (except for dark chocolate - I could eat it all day long!).



    well i never ate sugar because i do not like it and really i 'm a fan of bitter chocolate, always was. But the truth is i do not eat veggies and fruits so much, so maybe i must make a change at this point.
  • The_BoSS
    The_BoSS Posts: 32 Member

    Don't go out and think you can run a marathon right away. Start by walking around the block and add to it. Add exercise you like and feel comfortable with. You can do this! Will it be easy? No! Will it be worth it? I believe it will. It will be much easier if you believe it too!

    thank you for being so realistic... the truth is i do not use anymore the elevator i prefer to go from the stairs even though i get tired a little but this will help i think... that's a small change for a start..
This discussion has been closed.

Categories