*Guys please* Why Is stress a romance killer!?!

AngelsInThighHighs
AngelsInThighHighs Posts: 247 Member
in Motivation and Support
alright well ive lost 10pounds so far built up muscle you can feel my abs are tight, my butt is lifted, and i radiate co fidence in the bedroom...im still working on the public stand point. Well i feel i look great! My long time boyfriend says he loves my thighs, back, ect and that im gorgeous.

However he will NOT touch me! I do NOT understand why! I literally have to sneak under the covers and take care of buisness while he is asleep :/ basically im raping my own boyfriend! When he is awake i try to be sexy folding laundry in my undies, working out in the nude, ECT! Ive literally tried everything and he says "sexy lady" and walks away he says its stress we have to find another car soon, hes leaving on a buisness trip on the 24th, he is backed up at work ect.

My question is do other guys go through this? Does it not matter how attracted to your girl you are if your stressed its just a libido killer? Honestly i try not to let this effect my self-esteem but its incredibly hard when im dieing to be touched by him, its been a month..

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  • northernbeaver
    northernbeaver Posts: 29
    well I can't speak for all men but I can say that stress can kill the libido for sure. if he is worried about various things and feels like he is being pulled in a 1000 different ways then it can be hard to perform. the unspoken thing about stress as well for me is that if I am stressed it usually means I don't feel like I'm confident. if I am not feeling confident then that can kill me completely. these types of libido killers do have absolutely NOTHING to do with you, his attraction towards you or anything else like that. it truly is internal to us and is "our problem". the fact that he is calling you "sexy lady" probably means that he is aware that he is not there for you right now (which can also stress us out further) but he is trying to let you know that he is seeing the efforts that you are putting out there.

    if you want to help him, I would recommend a bit of flattery, us guys do tend to respond to our egos being fluffed. that and try to help him feel more confident. show him where he is succeeding in life and he will probably come around.

    if it has been a while since he has had any "guy time" where he can go have a beer with the boys then suggest that he does. I'm sure you can agree, even if he is a good listener and communicates well you probably need girl chat and time with girlfriends, men do need our time with the boys. we may not talk about our problems with each other but we do ***** a bit, and letting our testosterone fly with the guys can actually help us regain our confidence which will then be seen in his time spent with you.

    and if all else fails, talk to him about how you are feeling. open communication is always good in a relationship just try to tell him how you are feeling without placing blame as it will put him on the defensive. best of luck to ya.

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