Husband upset with different dinners...

If this were me:

I would remind him him that it's only temporary....

I would remind my hubby that you are doing this to get healthy....

The alternative would be to continue unhealthy and put my life at risk...


I'd tell my hubby "You choose..."

First- congratulations! It's not an easy path that you've chosen...

Last year when I was on that diet, my husband started to comment about me being a "fern", and constantly asking how could I not be hungry after finishing my soup/prepackaged meal. He also would grumble about me making different meals for him and the boys.

After about a week, I decided to "give him what he asked for" - so I stopped making dinner for him and the boys.

This worked for us because: 1 - my husband and I were friends first, so he gets my sense of humor and when he's driven me to swing at the end of my rope; 2 - both of us work outside the home, so making dinner is a shared job (not sure what your domestic arrangement is, so this one might be a declaration of war); 3 - I also told him that my choosing to do this was NOT a commentary on the relative health or size of him.

Not knowing you or your husband, he might be feeling a-guilty, b-envious of your self-control, or c-an itch somewhere unmentionable. :bigsmile:

either way - previous poster is right - this is for a relatively short period of time - you can do this! and he'll have even more to complain about when you go back to eating "people food" (my lingo for refeeding) and are measuring out 1/4 cup of pasta to cook for yourself because that's all that's allowed...

I eat different than my husband and kiddo but he's okay with it because he knows where I'm at with this new lifestyle and he knows that I don't want to eat what he eats so it's okay.

I am speaking from my experience and my family. For us..dinner is a family deal..and when we are all eating the same thing..its more...family-like..or thats how they feel.

Maybe he feels with you eating something different..you arent engaging in the whole idea of a family meal?

This.

Also, I understand that your doctor suggested a liquid diet but I can't see how that can be nutritious and satisfying at all. Instead Maybe you could cook a good dinner for the whole family in the evening and tell him the rest of the day is what you feel like doing.

Just ignore him and do what's best for you.

I have a different take than most. To lose weight and keep it off the journey has to be a healthy lifestyle. I'm not impressed with doctors who pad their pockets selling pre-packaged or liquid diets....that leave you unlikely to maintain the weight lost after you stop using those products.

If you are cooking healthy and eating healthy the whole family should be able to eat the same foods. What better way to teach your children about nutrition than to show them how it's done.

Best advice - find a new doctor, and start eating clean and healthy. You can drop that 100 pounds in a year or so - and have a maintainable lifestyle.

Whatever way you choose to go forward - good luck!

My first thought would be that he is unhappy with the level of health he is currently living in and is uncomfortable with you doing something about it in fear that when you do lose the weight you will leave him for a "more attractive" man as the story goes. I would offer him the option of having the same meal as you are and not make him feel excluded. I would also assume he is well aware of why you are eating this way, so reitterate to him the reasoning again behind your food choices. He seems to be uneasy about some part of the situation so try and sit down with him and figure it out together. Make it non-secretive, let him in on everything you are doing and why. Feel free to add me, I am here to support and give advice.

she didn't say they were eating unhealthy. Maybe he realizes a liquid diet is unhealthy and is concerned for her. Maybe, just maybe, he is a man showing concern...not jealousy, laziness, or stupidity....

My first thought would be that he is unhappy with the level of health he is currently living in and is uncomfortable with you doing something about it in fear that when you do lose the weight you will leave him for a "more attractive" man as the story goes. I would offer him the option of having the same meal as you are and not make him feel excluded. I would also assume he is well aware of why you are eating this way, so reitterate to him the reasoning again behind your food choices. He seems to be uneasy about some part of the situation so try and sit down with him and figure it out together. Make it non-secretive, let him in on everything you are doing and why. Feel free to add me, I am here to support and give advice.

she didn't say they were eating unhealthy. Maybe he realizes a liquid diet is unhealthy and is concerned for her. Maybe, just maybe, he is a man showing concern...not jealousy, laziness, or stupidity....

I agree. I'm kind of shocked that a health care professional would suggest a liquid diet, especially knowing what they do to a person's body.

Definitely explain to him why you need to do this and that it is temporary, but he should consider himself lucky.

I am going from shared breadwinner to full time housewife when my husband and I go to Japan (he is Air Force and it will be difficult for me to find a job there). He promised he wouldn't bring junk food into the house if I did all the shopping and I will be doing all the cooking so he will be eating what I need to eat to maintain my healthy lifestyle. Granted, I'm not on a liquid diet or anything, but he will have to put up with a lot of chicken and lean meats and veggies when I know he'd prefer to have steak and potatoes and burgers with fries. Sure, we'll have those things on RARE occasions (what we can get of it at least) but I refuse to cook meals for me and for him...takes a lot of time and costs extra money.