Goal weight 'too thin'????? Anyone else?

I think a lot of people can't visualise what a stone actually looks like.

Even if you were to hold a stone of fat in your hands, it looks a lot but when that is spread out across the entire of your body it doesn't make as much of a difference as people think.

I'm only 5ft and my goal weight is 7st 5lbs...I'm curvy and was that weight last year and was about right. When we're weeny we can go that low and be in proportion

I think my body has changed so that what looked right when I was 18 (about 8 stone, size 8-10 (UK)) looked too thin when I was 28. I'm at 9st 8lb now, and think 9st will be about right, but I'll reconsider when I get there. At the moment I've got to stay Exactly The Same for the next three weeks as I've had the final measurements for my wedding dress!

I keep getting comments like "mums are meant to be a little bit heavier". Why is that? I find this thinking bizarre.
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That's usually from the people who are too heavy I find and can't be bothered to make themselves healthy

I am only 5ft2", and there are girls at my work who are my height and much thinner than me, and they also say this sort of thing, which is slightly hypocritical...unless they think they are too thin as well, but just don't say it.

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I recently joined a gym to help in my goal to lose weight (or more specifically lose my spare tyre).

My gym instructor made a very interesting observation. Just because everyone around you is fatter (or thinner) than you doesn't mean you aren't overweight. It just means they are more over weight. His point being that your goals are yours alone, and shouldn't be overly influenced by the appearance of those around you.

I don't know you, or your physique, but at 5'2" 9st does not sound like an unreasonable target. My wife is only a little taller and weighs just over 9st and has an excellent figure (athletic not skinny).

So I say good luck in your goal.

It's funny you should post this. When I started out I was 202lb (I am 5'6") I decided to give myself a round figure goal of 50lb loss.

I'm at 45lb gone now. I have just been looking at healthy weight calculators and find that although the NHS Site says I am a healthy weight, most say I have another 14lb to loose. I have a large frame.

Apparently I should be between 138-142lb. Personally I think I might look like I've died at that weight.

I have decided I will keep going until I feel happy. If I get to 140lb and feel I look ill then I will put a bit back on. It is all how you feel in yourself. These other girls you speak of, are they tiny framed? Consider your frame size into it.

I want to look curvy and sexy not waif like and sick.

I am just currently going on what I feel happy with. You do what is right for you. After all your work friends don't see you naked (I hope) if you think another 20lb will give you the look you want go for it. We all look slimmer and better in well fitting flattering clothes.

Congratulations on the weight you have lost and good luck with the rest of your journey no matter what you decide. X

I am sure when you get to where you want to be, you can look at the scale and go "that!" Whether it ends up being the two full stone or who knows maybe you'll gain some more lean body mass and end up being a little denser and be athletically thin and a bit heavier than other people of that size and height. Don't worry about what people think is too thin or not. Weight is a bit relative from person to person anyway

We're the same height with around the same amount to lose. My goal is 9st and I may go a little lower, I'll see when I get there. I know at that weight I'll be a size 10/12 (UK) and curvy still as have been there before.

My friend who is also 5ft 2 is 10st 7 and look fabulous, she's also a size 10, at 10st 7 I'm still a 14, everyone carries it differently.

Some of the comments will be jealousy from people who want to lose weight but can't be bothered.

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Some of the comments will be jalousy from people who want to lose weight but can't be bothered.
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Yep that exactly!

My goal is 9 stone (don't know if I will ever get there though) as that was my natural weight for years. The lowest I have gotten so far is 9 stone 7 and I have people saying don't lose anymore you'll be too thin. I think what it is, they have gotten so used to seeing you at a bigger size that you look skinny when you get back to a smaller size and they are maybe genuinely concerned that you are getting too thin. Nobody ever accused me of being too skinny when I was 9 stone before though lol.

I think they just have to get used to you looking slimmer again. My hubby had the same problem he lost about 3 stone and his parents, who live abroad, would come back and say you're too skinny but it was just such a shock for them to see such a drastic change.

I think 9st should be fine I'm 5ft 31/2" and when I was in my late teens, early twenties my weight used to be around 9 - 91/2 st. My initial goal now is 10st but I may well go for another but will see when I get there. I'm still at just over 14 so still have a fair way to go. As you can see I have also lost 2 st so far and have also had the comment - you want to be careful don't get too thin. My answer is always "don't worry I won't I want to be the weight I'm supposed to be for my height". Most people won't know what weight you started off your 'journey' at and have either not seen you at your target or don't remember how you looked then because as someone else has already said peoples perceptions change. I don't think it's jealousy more concern and also not really knowing how you will look at a particular weight. Just reassure them that you are only going to a healthy weight for your height and they will be ok.

I think the problem is the ''acceptable weight'' brackets are so wide. I am 5 foot 9 and my acceptable weight is from 9 stone to 12 stone! I mean come on! That's a big difference! At 12 stone I looked fat, I'mm 11 now but think 10 would be ok on me. At 18 I was 8 stone but I would look ill even at 9 stone now.
Strangely enough, people don't say to me ''you look too thin'' they say ''have you got taller?''
Makes me chuckle!

My mum is 5'3 and she is anywhere between 9st and 9st7 and she doesn't look too thin!

At one point she weighed 8st3 though. That was too thin!

I get this from my mum and OH all the time, I am 5ft 6" and 140 pounds, I was around 186 - 187 when I decided that enough was enough and that I was turning into my dad! I initially set a goal of getting into a healthy BMI range which I did at around 150 pounds, I then reset my goal to 140 pounds and was happy when I got there (BMI of 22.6), I explain to my mum and OH that 22.6 is still towards the upper end of the BMI range and that I could lose another 14 pounds and still be a healthy weight but they are still critical. I personally don't want to lose anymore weight as I am quite broad so I think that where I am now is where I want to be, so I guess you just have to keep tweaking your goal and assessing how you look and feel as we are all different.

Good luck A

I'm 5'9" and I've gone from 220lbs to 148lbs and my goal is 126lbs. When I tell people I've got another 20lbs to lose they're always like "woah, you'll be nothing but skin and bones" - a lot of the friends I have now have only known me being larger. Before I started gaining weight, around 17/18, I weighed 8 stone (112lbs), yes I was slim but I definitely was overly skinny.

I've got a small frame and I'm quite confident that I'm not going to look like I'm about to snap at 126lbs.

At the end of the day it's your body and you know it best - so long as you're 100% happy that the goal you're setting isn't silly then go for it!!

Prime example of how different people with different bodies and different body types can all look great but weigh very different amounts. I'm 5'5" If I weighted 126 I'd look anorexic. My goal is 149. I'd LOVE to hit 139 but for now 149 will do. I wouldn't want to go lower than that. I weighed 129 when I got married. I wore my sister's wedding dress. She's 5'7 and weighed 117. I was 5'5" and weighed 129 but I wore it in the original stitching (minus a bit of hemming). We had the same body shape and size despite her being 2 inches taller and 12 lbs lighter.

I don't know you so I can't say if your ideal weight is too low. Maybe it is. Maybe they are seeing that you are the same height as them and THEY would be skin and bones at that weight. Maybe they are comparing you to how you looked before you lost the weight you did and they think you look gret now. Maybe they think women look better with a bit of meat on their bones.