"You look good, why are you trying to lose weight"

caranda8
caranda8 Posts: 17
in Motivation and Support
"You look good, why are you trying to lose weight" I hear this a lot, how do you answer politely but in a way that is going to let my loved one know that it bothers me and I'm doing this for myself, and I need support not questioning!?

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  • skinnyitaliannn
    skinnyitaliannn Posts: 187
    My boyfriend. Thats all I have to say. Haha he's constantly getting mad at me whenever he sees me making something to eat or go to exercise.. "why are you so insecure?! you look so good, you don't need to be all healthy and stuff!" while he's trying to shove some tasty lasagna down my throat. lmao. it does get annoying, but when it happens, just tell them you don't want to look better, you just want to feel better inside. :) for your HEALTH not looks!
  • AimeeCu
    AimeeCu Posts: 26
    Exactly like that I would think. I would just say something along the lines of thank you so much but this is a personal goal and I would really appreciate your support.
  • caranda8
    caranda8 Posts: 17
    lol! That's so funny he sounds just like my hubby:) Love him to death but if it was up to him I would stay the way I am, he just says I love you the way are, come and eat with me, while making a fried bean burrito with cheese and chile verde(what he ate last night) and I just walked away and ate my smoothie and baked zucchini with mushrooms!
  • torangd
    torangd Posts: 3 Member
    Just tell him "yes I look good but I want to look Fabulous!!"
  • 2012asv
    2012asv Posts: 702 Member
    Just tell him, "I'm doing it for me. I have an idea of where I want to be and right now this isn't it. " or something along those lines...
  • wsuduce
    wsuduce Posts: 68 Member
    I say... so I can look fantastic with my clothes off :)
  • islandnutshel
    islandnutshel Posts: 1,143 Member
    I have a few built in excuses. I have degenerative disc disease, so the stronger I make my core, and the lighter I make my frame, the better I feel and the more I can accomplish. Then I politely ask them to shutup or support me.
  • Ge0rgiana
    Ge0rgiana Posts: 1,649 Member
    "Yes, but you haven't seen me naked!" That oughta stop conversation. :bigsmile:
  • hiker359
    hiker359 Posts: 577 Member
    Because you haven't seen me naked. And no, that isn't an offer.
  • pastryari
    pastryari Posts: 8,646 Member
    Fruck off?

    You said politely...
  • CoachHeatherM
    CoachHeatherM Posts: 11 Member
    Ugh! I hear this all the time too! Especially at church. I know I have lost a lot, but I'm not there yet. I just say thank you, and I'm not at my doctor's goal for me yet..... which is true. I have non-alcoholic liver disease and I need to get the weight off!
  • DBiddle69
    DBiddle69 Posts: 682 Member
    Reply with....then I will be AWESOME when I am finished!!
  • TheKitsune6
    TheKitsune6 Posts: 5,798 Member
    lol! That's so funny he sounds just like my hubby:) Love him to death but if it was up to him I would stay the way I am, he just says I love you the way are, come and eat with me, while making a fried bean burrito with cheese and chile verde(what he ate last night) and I just walked away and ate my smoothie and baked zucchini with mushrooms!

    You can't eat together if you're eating different foods?
  • CalJur
    CalJur Posts: 627 Member
    Because I want to. End of story done. You don't have to explain it to anyone unless you want to do so. You are doing this ish for me, myself, and I.
  • ObtainingBalance
    ObtainingBalance Posts: 1,446 Member
    "Yes, but you haven't seen me naked!" That oughta stop conversation. :bigsmile:

    hahaha.
  • DBiddle69
    DBiddle69 Posts: 682 Member
    Fruck off?

    You said politely...

    Here is the south all you have to do it end it with "bless your heart." :laugh: :laugh: :laugh:
  • JenKillough
    JenKillough Posts: 474 Member
    I'd look them straight in the eye, smile... and say nothing. And keep repeating.
  • TheRealParisLove
    TheRealParisLove Posts: 1,907 Member
    I'm a smart *kitten*, so I will probably say something like "the skinniest woman wins, that's why."
  • BinaryPulsar
    BinaryPulsar Posts: 8,927 Member
    Tell them you are working on being fitter. Anyone can always be fitter. It's something you always work on. Or tell them you are working towards a goal, if you have any you can tell them about (being able to do more pushups, to do chin ups, run a something-or-other, be a better dancer, whatever your goals may be). You want to live a long and healthy life. Whatever...
  • ObtainingBalance
    ObtainingBalance Posts: 1,446 Member
    Tell them you are working on being fitter. Anyone can always be fitter. It's something you always work on. Or tell them you are working towards a goal, if you have any you can tell them about (being able to do more pushups, to do chin ups, run a something-or-other, be a better dancer, whatever your goals may be). You want to live a long and healthy life. Whatever...

    That will satisfy them for sure. That's what I've done before... I don't normally say lose weight to anyone who asks. I just said "I'm trying to be healthier.... fitter.,.. run/ jog faster, etc etc. Works for family and friends and they leave me some space...
  • LovePBandJ
    LovePBandJ Posts: 288 Member
    I say... so I can look fantastic with my clothes off :)

    To understand a man's thought process, listen to a man. I think this comment would stop hubs in his tracks and leave him speechless.

    Also, men don't understand themselves. I think your husband misses breaking bread with you. Sharing a meal together. Which is so nice that he wants to share that experience with you. Find a way to eat what is healthy and right for you alongside of him. Like with the lasagne, eat your baked zucchini, but why not cover it in tomato sauce. It'll feel the same to him and tomato sauce is healthy. He probably would not even notice. Guys aren't always that bright. They just want to see us naked. They don't really seem to notice many other things around them.
  • BrownEyedGrrl
    BrownEyedGrrl Posts: 144 Member
    I get that people telling me that which really pisses me off because I'm not at a healthy weight. I tell them I have an injury to my back, hip, knee, and foot so the less I way the better it is for these injuries. The healthier I am, the better quality of life I will have. End of story.
  • Its_My_Time
    Its_My_Time Posts: 156 Member
    "Yes, but you haven't seen me naked!" That oughta stop conversation. :bigsmile:
    Lmao!!
  • Its_My_Time
    Its_My_Time Posts: 156 Member
    I say... so I can look fantastic with my clothes off :)
    Exactly!!
  • Cliffslosinit
    Cliffslosinit Posts: 5,044 Member
    Just point at his "thingy" and tell him if he wants to keep playing hide the sausage.
    He better STFU and be more supportive.

    Bet he'll start growing lettuce and carrots for ya...good luck!
  • Bingbi
    Bingbi Posts: 12
    Well, one response that's not about looks is: to be healthy!

    My BMI is within the normal range, but because of family history of diabetes and a knee injury I am trying to get to the lower end of the healthy BMI spectrum (as recommended by my doctors).

    Extra weight puts stress on your joints and increases risk of disease, and it's never too early to start thinking about that stuff. Just say you are trying to be healthy and be your best self!

    Or maybe, if your feeling snarky, ask them why they have become so complacent about their body image? I don't see anything wrong with always trying to improve and look your best. You should just feel sad for the people who see no need to take care of themselves or have pride in their appearance.
  • manhn1
    manhn1 Posts: 137 Member
    My answer: "I'm not *trying* to lose weight. Just be healthier. If that results in me losing more weight, oh well."
  • manda1978
    manda1978 Posts: 525 Member
    Ugh I get that too, from my husband, my Mum and Step Father.

    There's always room for improvement I say!
  • kmhenry84
    kmhenry84 Posts: 96 Member
    "its less about how I look, and more about my health"

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