Just need to vent!
So, I just ran my first 5k mud run and all I wanted to do was tell my boyfriend how much fun I had and show him pictures of the run and share my excitement with him and all he had to say to me was, "I'm glad you had fun, I don't need to see pictures and don't care to hear about it." Ugh! Really?! Being persistent, I try to show him pictures, thinking he might get a kick out of seeing his usually pretty prissy girlfriend having a blast and caked in mud but he just turned his head away from the pics and didn't care to see them at all! Soooo frustrating! My mom ran the race along side of me and my brother came to show support and basically ran the course with us to take pictures. So much support, yet none from my SO, who I feel should be my biggest supporter. 
poor me. End of venting. Thanks for reading. Men suck sometimes.
poor me. End of venting. Thanks for reading. Men suck sometimes. 0
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We ain't all like that! I liked your pics! Looked like you had a ton of fun!0
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Maybe he's bummed that you are really getting into something new. Sometimes guys are threatened by change. Not making excuses...it was still a d1ck move by him. Just trying to give a possible explanation for said d1ck move.0
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Maybe he's bummed that you are really getting into something new. Sometimes guys are threatened by change. Not making excuses...it was still a d1ck move by him. Just trying to give a possible explanation for said d1ck move.
Exactly.
Also, if he's threatened by you bettering yourself, time to move on.
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I sincerely hope you told him what an A-hole he is!0
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only 3 posts needed for the first 'time to move on' comment
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He should be elated for you, proud of you, and happy to share in your enthusiasm. Most of all, he should SUPPORT you in what you love and in your endevours. Take this as an eye opening experience, if they don't support you now, they won't support you when you need it later. If he can't show a little interest (even if it isn't interesting to HIM, it's interesting to you and you should be interesting to him).
Feel better and find someone who thinks the world of you because you DESERVE that! 0 -
Wow! Sorry he can't be supportive of you. It seems like something is bothering him. He didn't even go to root for you with your family?0
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I'm not making excuses for his behavior, but, just thinking, could it be bcoz he wasn't a part of it. Maybe he feels left out or jealous about you having fun with your family while he is being sidelined. Or maybe he is possessive....OR maybe going thru PMS :-)0
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My husband is the exact same way. Everytime I tell him how much weight I lost he says, "That's good." and quickly changes the subject. I feel your pain. In my opinion, your SO should be the one who is the most supportive and the one who gets excited right there with you and when they don't, it makes you feel all alone. I know. And I'm sorry.0
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Was he watching football at the time?0
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At least you had fun
That's the most important part. 0 -
Wow! Major jerk move!! I wouldn't put up with that if I were you. If he's not supportive, then eventually he will be a hindrance to your goals. Right now his passivity might not seem like a detriment to your success... but left to grow over time, it will. If he can't support you in something you're excited about now, he WILL hold you back from your potential later.
You deserve better. He deserves the boot.0 -
No, I know better than to interrupt sports! Lmfao! He went to his cousin's wedding that happened to be on the same day. My mom came down from out of state and paid for my registration, so no backing out. He said that it wasn't a big deal that I couldn't go with him (he never makes time for my family) when he found out that another cousin's wife ran and was back in time for the wedding, he threw it in my face. The waves ran from 9am (or earlier?) to 4pm. She ran at 9, I ran at 1pm. The race was 45min away from home but there was a football game that got over and traffic was terrible on the way home (the Huskers are a big deal around here) so the ride home took 2 1/2 hours! I think he's mad I didn't make it to his family's thing, but MY family was here! I only get to see them twice a year. His family LIVES here!0
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Yeah I knew there had to be more to the story. Is he constantly wanting you to do stuff with his family? Or does he have a controlling parent?0
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He's probably just had it in his ear all day from his family asking where you are, why you weren't at the wedding etc. Being a bit grumpy isn't a reason to move on!0
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maybe he thinks mud is not sexy and doesn't want the image of you caked in mud embedded in his brain.
respect that.
if you are usually immaculately groomed then that tells me he likes his women that way.0 -
Maybe you should look at both sides here. He supported you doing it and was happy you enjoyed it. Why isn't that enough? I'm not much of a picture guy either and wouldn't really care to look at them.0
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great advice to ensure someone is forever alone. If this is a deal breaker, prepare for a lifetime of disappointmentsWow! Major jerk move!! I wouldn't put up with that if I were you. If he's not supportive, then eventually he will be a hindrance to your goals. Right now his passivity might not seem like a detriment to your success... but left to grow over time, it will. If he can't support you in something you're excited about now, he WILL hold you back from your potential later.
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my fiance doesnt always give a rats rear about my interests, but if i get the, "dont want to know, dont want to see, dont care" bit, its because i was probably sh***y to him earlier that day. ill go off and have fun, despite a big nasty argumemt, but if he isnt going with me he sits and stews. so when i get home and am over it amd pumped up, hes still annoyed.
or he just doesnt care about whatever im blathering about. i love horses/cats, he hates them. he is way less than interested in hearing about either. that doesnt make him a pig or a jerk. myy eyes glaze over when he talkes about cars. if hes not interested he needs to make sure you know, because if he feigns interest he'll have to come clean AFTER you sign up for a couples run, ya know?
i like how every vent about men on here ends wil 30+ pages of "dump him"0 -
Just break up.0
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Brace yourself, the "break up with him" has started.
"So why'd you break up with him?"
"He didn't share exactly the same interests as me, with the same enthusiasm, 100% of the time"
I mean honestly. Do you care about his fantasy football? Or his new BBQ? Or how much horsepower his car has? Stop expecting him to be SOOO INTERESTED in everything you're interested in.
Ugh. This is why the divorce rate is like it is.0 -
Well i would of gotten mad myself..but it sounds like your family has your back in the end of the day, kudo's to them!!! and congrads on the 5k.. i personally can't wait to do that myself...when i told my bf that i wanted to lose weight he told me he didn't want me to because he was afraid i'd leave him for someone other guy that had abs -_-...and now he trys to buy pop and candy and chips and all that stuff but i'm strong enough to ignore those...
men can suck *kitten* sometimes.. lmao .. but at least you have a strong family base and thats what hold you up.. even though hes is suppose to support you and cheer you on.. but dont let him get you down or knock you down... keep your head up... and congrads again !!!!! i also might add that he could of been having a bad day.. men do have bad days too.. so dont be to quick to toss him out like most people on this blog site are saying.. wait a few days and then maybe talk to him about it.. tell him how you felt when he shut you out.. tell him that he missed one the important days in your life.. or moments rather...or that he hurt your feelings.. maybe he'll say sorry and take that time to take a look and support you.. who knows .. good luck
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Sounds like he's not only not supportive but selfish as well and wants everything his way. Sometimes you can't do things together but that doesn't mean you can't be happy for each other. There are many times when my husband will attend something for his family and either can't go or don't feel up to going. Doesn't mean I don't want to hear all about it when he gets home and he NEVER rubs it in my face that I didn't attend. He makes it to events he can get to and I make it to his events if I can. There will be other weddings in the future so he needs to get over it or you need to move on and find someone who has similar interests as you.No, I know better than to interrupt sports! Lmfao! He went to his cousin's wedding that happened to be on the same day. My mom came down from out of state and paid for my registration, so no backing out. He said that it wasn't a big deal that I couldn't go with him (he never makes time for my family) when he found out that another cousin's wife ran and was back in time for the wedding, he threw it in my face. The waves ran from 9am (or earlier?) to 4pm. She ran at 9, I ran at 1pm. The race was 45min away from home but there was a football game that got over and traffic was terrible on the way home (the Huskers are a big deal around here) so the ride home took 2 1/2 hours! I think he's mad I didn't make it to his family's thing, but MY family was here! I only get to see them twice a year. His family LIVES here!0 -
Brace yourself, the "break up with him" has started.
"So why'd you break up with him?"
"He didn't share exactly the same interests as me, with the same enthusiasm, 100% of the time"
I mean honestly. Do you care about his fantasy football? Or his new BBQ? Or how much horsepower his car has? Stop expecting him to be SOOO INTERESTED in everything you're interested in.
Ugh. This is why the divorce rate is like it is.
I expect for him to have the courtesy to let me be excited and not to make me feel bad for wanting to share an exciting part of my life with him. He will go on and on about things I'm not particularly interested in but I enjoy that he's sharing with me. So, no, he doesn't have to be interested in all the same things, I just wanted him to let me share with him my excitement.0 -
I've found that sometimes not talking about such things immediately helps. You only need to wait until both of you are calm and maybe ask him over a cup of coffee about why he seemed disinterested. Every couple is different, but I've found that my husband listens to me more than he did before when I expressed to him that I didn't feel particularly special when he just brushed me off. I DO NOT think this is a relationship deal-breaker.0
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That's not a healthy stance for a boyfriend to have. I'd say it's time to take inventory of your relationship and determine if this guy is really right for you.
If I were in his shoes, I would have either tried to run with you, or at least went to take photos and be supportive. I've been training for a 5k myself, but I'm scared to do a mud run as I'm very tentative with my knee I had my ACL reconstructed on. I'm hoping to do one of those next year after spending more time building the strength in my leg back up.
Anyhow, looks like you had a great time! Some of my good friends just ran one this weekend and had a blast!0 -
I posted my reply before I read about the wedding. Men can sometimes be like women(now that's not a bad thing). I have caught myself saying "That's fine" when I didn't really mean it and my husband taking it literally. Now, maybe he wasn't okay with you skipping the wedding, but you had a perfectly valid reason - your mom paid for your reg and came over to cheer you on. If you didn't know about the wedding before registering, explain that to him. Give him and yourself a chance to cool off before you have this conversation. Hope it all gets well 0
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Brace yourself, the "break up with him" has started.
"So why'd you break up with him?"
"He didn't share exactly the same interests as me, with the same enthusiasm, 100% of the time"
I mean honestly. Do you care about his fantasy football? Or his new BBQ? Or how much horsepower his car has? Stop expecting him to be SOOO INTERESTED in everything you're interested in.
Ugh. This is why the divorce rate is like it is.
QFFT0 -
Haters gonna hate...buy your man some testosterone pills...you may need to crush them and put them in a sippy cup for him.0
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lolJust break up.0
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