Super random nothing to do with fitness

SomeoneSomeplace
SomeoneSomeplace Posts: 1,094 Member
edited December 2024 in Chit-Chat
So ladies and gent's just curious about something...

if someone is a bad kisser is that a dealer breaker for you? Not just "not good" but horrible. I went on a first date with someone that went pretty well but he was a horrible kisser. I mean HORRIBLE! It was an instant turn off and completely destroyed any potential of physical chemistry for me. Maybe he really was just THAT bad, lol and it isn't always an automatic deal breaker.

I was just curious at to what the general population thought about this and figured a forum with thousands of members was a good venue to ask !

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  • pastryari
    pastryari Posts: 8,646 Member
    Deal-breaker.
  • AuddAlise
    AuddAlise Posts: 723 Member
    I'm less worried about how he kisses my lips than about how he kisses my...lips. :blushing: :bigsmile:
  • 126siany
    126siany Posts: 1,386 Member
    It depends. Some of them are trainable.

    Most recently divorced men are terrible kissers (at first) in my experience. I think they're just out of practice. :laugh:
  • wolverine66
    wolverine66 Posts: 3,779 Member
    i don't think it's an automatic deal breaker, because i think over time, people meld and match kissing styles to each other.

    but if he was so bad that it eliminated any chance for a second shot, then it certainly can be.


    the next question is - do you tell him this is why you're not seeing him again?
  • Chapter3point6
    Chapter3point6 Posts: 1,233
    It depends. Some of them are trainable.

    Most recently divorced men are terrible kissers (at first) in my experience. I think they're just out of practice. :laugh:

    Unless kissing girls was the reason for the divorce.

    I had a gf once that was a horrible kisser. It did not last long.
  • Nix143
    Nix143 Posts: 522 Member
    I had a relationship with a woman who couldn't kiss - I still remember the shock of that first kiss. I mean how the h*ll can someone not know how to kiss?

    Anyway she was a nice woman and I thought hey, I can train her up and to a certain extent I did - but that magic ba da boom that a crazy good kiss can bring was never there and it fizzled out.

    You can either do the 'hey I'm a bit dominant, I am going to hold your head and kiss you like THIS' routine or the 'I'm a slow go on the kissing and so we're going to start off with little nibbly kisses' or you could come right out and say I want to teach you how to kiss.

    Or sack them off. I don't think I'd go down that route again :)
  • Kekibird
    Kekibird Posts: 1,122 Member
    If everything else works, I'd give it one more try. But kissing...it's kinda important so if their style of kissing doesn't work with mine and the whole time I'm thinking "Ewww" or "This is really awful", that's not good. Got to be a compatible kisser.
  • Chiquita_Banana
    Chiquita_Banana Posts: 500
    if it doesnt improve then deal breaker for me
  • sktllmdrhmzz
    sktllmdrhmzz Posts: 189 Member
    Deal-breaker. And now I want a kiss, dammit. Yeah, yeah, people are trainable, but who wants to go through life trying to train someone about everything?
  • corn63
    corn63 Posts: 1,580 Member
    I attempt to teach. if he's not receptive/can't learn or otherwise, doesn't get it... deal breaker.
  • DonM46
    DonM46 Posts: 772 Member
    What makes a good kiss?
    What makes a bad kiss?
  • GermanicKnight
    GermanicKnight Posts: 445
    I'm less worried about how he kisses my lips than about how he kisses my...lips. :blushing: :bigsmile:

    WINS THE INTERWEBS! Nicely played.
  • wolverine66
    wolverine66 Posts: 3,779 Member
    who wants to go through life trying to train someone about everything?

    parents?
  • amberlykay1014
    amberlykay1014 Posts: 608 Member
    I think that's really shallow to automatically make it a deal breaker. This person could someday mean everything to you if you give them a chance... if, someday, you love this person then it won't matter what you think about how they kiss.
  • LordByproduct
    LordByproduct Posts: 117
    its a tough call but chemistry is chemistry.... BUT if it really did go well then maybe you owe it to yourself to have an awkward conversation about the kiss. maybe it was nerves for him?
    just saying.....
  • SamAdams125
    SamAdams125 Posts: 54 Member
    I don't think the first kiss has to be great (because there's nerves involved and all that) but if it's that horrible (like it sounds like it was for you), I probably won't go for a second date. My bf and I are super affectionate, we kiss probably 40-60 times a day, so if it were bad it wouldn't work out ;) Otherwise they slowly turn into a friend rather than a romantic partner. Just my two cents.
  • Diary_Queen
    Diary_Queen Posts: 1,314 Member
    Deal-breaker.... ive actually gone on a couple of dates (with the same person) who kept giving me a peck-kiss.... i asked why and he said 'oh i know im a bad kisser'. which i found odd... but he was right and yeah, it just wasnt going to happen.
  • sizzle92
    sizzle92 Posts: 1,015 Member
    Yes.
  • SeaChele77
    SeaChele77 Posts: 1,103 Member
    Deal breaker!!!!

    Edited to add I may give him one more shot - but if it was Horrible that may not change. Bad first kiss could be due to nerves and such, but horrible.... doubt it. This kiss is so very important, in my opinion!!
  • beach_please
    beach_please Posts: 533 Member
    If, as you say he was "horrible", I'd say deal-breaker.

    I mean, if you were instantly turned off when he kissed you, that's pretty bad. I don't think you should have expected goosebumps and fireworks but to be turned off after kissing??!!

    To me, there's nothing like a great kiss so it would be a deal-breaker for me.
  • SVCat
    SVCat Posts: 1,483 Member
    I had a relationship with a woman who couldn't kiss - I still remember the shock of that first kiss. I mean how the h*ll can someone not know how to kiss?

    Anyway she was a nice woman and I thought hey, I can train her up and to a certain extent I did - but that magic ba da boom that a crazy good kiss can bring was never there and it fizzled out.

    You can either do the 'hey I'm a bit dominant, I am going to hold your head and kiss you like THIS' routine or the 'I'm a slow go on the kissing and so we're going to start off with little nibbly kisses' or you could come right out and say I want to teach you how to kiss.

    Or sack them off. I don't think I'd go down that route again :)

    A few months back I met a wonderful lady. Everything a guy would want...horrible kisser. I tried sticking it out...tried the dominant role, tried the coaching role, but those lips were made out of cardboard. I don't understand. It fizzled out, it seemed to dampen any spontaneous moments where things got hot and steamy. It was like a bang without the bang.
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