I need a brutally honest weight loss buddy!

SarahCW1979
SarahCW1979 Posts: 572 Member
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Hi guys, Im Sarah. Ive been on and off MFP for months but Ive had enough of yo-yo-ing. I need a buddy that wont say 'Awwww its ok, just behave tomorrow and it will all be fine'
I can do it for others but I totally suck at kicking myself up the @ss!
I have the willpower of a 5 year old in a sweetshop and not much more in the way of self control. I know Im an emotional eater and I do try really hard not to let my gut rule my head but Im failing! A psychotherapist friend of mine said Im a 'Self Saboteur' because I dont feel worthy of having a nice figure (far too deep a convo for me to really grip but you get the gist of it)
I really really want to do it this time. I have 22lbs that need to disappear and then a further 7 that would just be for kudos (I havent been 9st 7lbs since I was a teen!)
162lbs might not seem too bad but I am SHORT! At 5'2 I look and feel like a weeble! So please, if anyone needs a brutally honest buddy and can do the same for me Id really appreciate it!
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  • Shadowknight137
    Shadowknight137 Posts: 1,243 Member
    I can do that.

    ^_^
  • seanorawe
    seanorawe Posts: 137 Member
    Stopping pissing about and get some nuts you pathetic little dweeb :explode:

    Something like that?
  • SarahCW1979
    SarahCW1979 Posts: 572 Member
    Ooooh YEAH! Just like that! If I could hire a drill sergeant I would!
  • DebraAukett
    DebraAukett Posts: 128 Member
    Feel free to add me, I like motivating people :-)
  • thebigcb
    thebigcb Posts: 2,210 Member
    I can be that a-hole
  • viclaw81
    viclaw81 Posts: 20
    A psychotherapist friend of mine said Im a 'Self Saboteur'

    I got told the same thing by a hypnotist! You can help me, I'll help you! :) x
  • darrensurrey
    darrensurrey Posts: 3,942 Member
    I have the willpower of a 5 year old in a sweetshop and not much more in the way of self control. I know Im an emotional eater and I do try really hard not to let my gut rule my head but Im failing! A psychotherapist friend of mine said Im a 'Self Saboteur' because I dont feel worthy of having a nice figure (far too deep a convo for me to really grip but you get the gist of it)

    If we're allowed to be brutally honest: why not confront this aspect of your life, deal with it and overcome the self-control issues. (By deal with it, seek the help of a suitable therapist... perhaps your friend can help?)
    162lbs might not seem too bad but I am SHORT! At 5'2 I look and feel like a weeble!

    On the bright side, you might wobble but you won't fall down.
  • okidoki7
    okidoki7 Posts: 151 Member
    i think i need the same lol...am so great at helping others, but lack belief in myself...i need to be told "yes, you can do it" blah blah...no belly rub just a little (huge) nudge in the right direction....i'll support you if you like :happy:
  • Kimjanebrooks
    Kimjanebrooks Posts: 253 Member
    Add me!! I'll help you!!
  • SnokkiBear2012
    SnokkiBear2012 Posts: 8
    feel free to add me and i sure i can do that for you
  • SaraBrown12
    SaraBrown12 Posts: 277 Member
    This sounds fab. I am working hard but i think every1 in this journey could always do with that little extra push. I need telling off because i dont think i eat enough veggies. Feel free to add me :)
  • seamatt
    seamatt Posts: 199 Member
    I find logging all my food and comparing diaries keeps me motivated. Might be worth a go, to see how well other are doing and trying to emulate them. It's also nice to see when you have made better choices than them as it's like a small pat on the back of how well you are doing.

    Feel free to add me if you'd like, but I am not the Windsor Davies Sergeant Major type LOL
  • Rho_Ro
    Rho_Ro Posts: 201 Member
    Hiya Sarah. I have been a yo-yo dieter for years putting on more weight than I ever lost. I'm now 55 and THIS IS IT, I'm not doing this again lol!! I'm the lightest I've been since the mid to late 90's and whilst it feels really good it seems sooooo strange. I have one MVP friend and she is fantastic. I give her honest feedback as she does me. Thing is, I'm not a two word supporter, I tend to express myself in sentences rather than phrases lol, and I love humour. Oh and if I goof I laugh it off and box on and I've done that a bit lately. If you would like my support it's here, feel free to contact me.

    Downwards and Inwards.

    Cheers, Rhonda
  • twonkieone
    twonkieone Posts: 132
    Stopping pissing about and get some nuts you pathetic little dweeb :explode:

    Something like that?

    omg ~ friend me too!!! :angry:
  • Lityboy
    Lityboy Posts: 37
    Feel free to add me! I´ll help as much as I can and always be honest about your progress.

    Take care.

    Chuck.
  • cwmw
    cwmw Posts: 30
    Can friend me too !:ohwell:
  • tpow1196
    tpow1196 Posts: 51 Member
    Wow, its really cool to see everybody on here willing to help out! I'm new to MFP, only started 8/27. If anybody wants to add me that would be great. I'm at that "I've lost 10lbs and that was the easy part"stage. I've got a LONG way to go. I'm willing to cheer anybody on that needs it too. My family and friends are kinda tired of hearing me go on and on about this lol.

    Good Luck!
  • wolfehound22
    wolfehound22 Posts: 859 Member
    I think I could manage a little butt kicking :), feel free to add me
  • Tina180130
    Tina180130 Posts: 127 Member
    All, feel free to add me.....I WILL be honest and will look at your food/exercise diary from time to time and WILL comment. I have 24lbs to lose by 10th December 2012 (goal weight 9.7st). I exercise about 4-5 time per week and enjoy it. I eat as healthily as possible but, I do have the odd treat factored in (the treat is my "Homemade Oatmeal Cookie" at 145 cals each - delicious. :wink:
  • Damion72
    Damion72 Posts: 531 Member
    feel free to add me. I'm looking for the same thing.
  • xSkinnyMinnyx
    xSkinnyMinnyx Posts: 70 Member
    I'm great at being a *kitten*, add me if u want but don't be getting all offended if I have to tell you of f haha x
  • MommaKit79
    MommaKit79 Posts: 852
    I am a great motivator and, can be brutal if you really want me to! :-) I wont sugar coat it but, I will tell you about it! :-) I have some issues with doing the same to myself so maybe with being accountable for watching yoruself and other people it will help!!

    GOOD LUCK and YOU GOT THIS GIRL!!!! We ALL deserve to be FIT and FABULOUS!!!!!!
  • JesterMFP
    JesterMFP Posts: 3,596 Member
    I have the willpower of a 5 year old in a sweetshop and not much more in the way of self control. I know Im an emotional eater and I do try really hard not to let my gut rule my head but Im failing! A psychotherapist friend of mine said Im a 'Self Saboteur' because I dont feel worthy of having a nice figure (far too deep a convo for me to really grip but you get the gist of it)

    If we're allowed to be brutally honest: why not confront this aspect of your life, deal with it and overcome the self-control issues. (By deal with it, seek the help of a suitable therapist... perhaps your friend can help?)
    ^This. The support on here can be fantastic, and I hope you get lots of drill sergeant types (I won't offer - totally not my style! :smile: ) If there really is part of you that is sabotaging yourself though, I have a feeling that that part is always going to find a way, and no amount of online hand-holding (or butt kicking) can completely make that go away. Sometimes (speaking from experience) it takes confronting those deeper, more complex issues that are holding you back to actually find long-term success. Anyway, good luck!
  • lenoresaari
    lenoresaari Posts: 500 Member
    Friend me too...........Anyone who wants to be honest we me also
  • Goonygugu
    Goonygugu Posts: 114
    anyone who needs honest motivation can add me too :noway:
  • SarahCW1979
    SarahCW1979 Posts: 572 Member
    Cant thank you all enough! Ive just done my first recorded workout, sorted food diary for today and pretty much looking forward to shrinking a bit!
    Even better I gave my willpower and self control a real kick up the @ss by NOT stealing the haribo/jammie dodgers/cherry drops out of the 'Squaddie-box' Im sending to my friend in Afghan (He needs them, I dont right?)
    Uh-huh... thats right, I mean business this time!
  • mfpcopine
    mfpcopine Posts: 3,093 Member
    Hi guys, Im Sarah. Ive been on and off MFP for months but Ive had enough of yo-yo-ing. I need a buddy that wont say 'Awwww its ok, just behave tomorrow and it will all be fine'
    I can do it for others but I totally suck at kicking myself up the @ss!
    I have the willpower of a 5 year old in a sweetshop and not much more in the way of self control. I know Im an emotional eater and I do try really hard not to let my gut rule my head but Im failing! A psychotherapist friend of mine said Im a 'Self Saboteur' because I dont feel worthy of having a nice figure (far too deep a convo for me to really grip but you get the gist of it)
    I really really want to do it this time. I have 22lbs that need to disappear and then a further 7 that would just be for kudos (I havent been 9st 7lbs since I was a teen!)
    162lbs might not seem too bad but I am SHORT! At 5'2 I look and feel like a weeble! So please, if anyone needs a brutally honest buddy and can do the same for me Id really appreciate it!

    Since you asked for brutal honesty, 162 pounds at 5'2" does sound bad to me. I'm the same height and I've never weighed anything near that. The good news is that you apparently are healthy and look good at 132 and 30 pounds is not an impossible amount to lose.

    I think the refusal to make more excuses is a good step. By the way, beating up on yourself all the time is not the answer, just don't live in denial and instead, act in a way that's consistent with your stated goals.
  • clarecorrus
    clarecorrus Posts: 17
    ooh I need you too!
  • mfpcopine
    mfpcopine Posts: 3,093 Member

    Even better I gave my willpower and self control a real kick up the @ss by NOT stealing the haribo/jammie dodgers/cherry drops out of the 'Squaddie-box' Im sending to my friend in Afghan (He needs them, I dont right?)

    Don't "exercise" your willpower and self-control -- you have limited amounts of them. Instead, whenever possible, structure your life to avoid unnecessary stress.

    For example, if you need to send your friend something, don't send him food, or send him food through a catalog so that you don't have to pack it. In other words, stay away from situations in which you might cave. Maybe that's the kind of "self-sabotoge" your shrink meant.

    You should be trying to make life easier, not harder. Adhering to a lower-calorie diet for several months and exercising are hard enough. Unnecessary struggle doesn't make you a better or more deserving person. Note, I said "unnecessary struggle," we all have challenges.
  • ChocFiend
    ChocFiend Posts: 219 Member
    I like this thread please feel free anyone to add me as a friend..........and be honest with me too!

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