I need a brutally honest weight loss buddy!

Even better I gave my willpower and self control a real kick up the @ss by NOT stealing the haribo/jammie dodgers/cherry drops out of the 'Squaddie-box' Im sending to my friend in Afghan (He needs them, I dont right?)

Don't "exercise" your willpower and self-control -- you have limited amounts of them. Instead, whenever possible, structure your life to avoid unnecessary stress.

For example, if you need to send your friend something, don't send him food, or send him food through a catalog so that you don't have to pack it. In other words, stay away from situations in which you might cave. Maybe that's the kind of "self-sabotoge" your shrink meant.

You should be trying to make life easier, not harder. Adhering to a lower-calorie diet for several months and exercising are hard enough. Unnecessary struggle doesn't make you a better or more deserving person. Note, I said "unnecessary struggle," we all have challenges.

On the plus side weeble's wobble, but they dont fall down!

Strange, you have the same initials, year of birth (I assume thats 1979) and live in the same area (well, I work in Neath/Port Talbot), I call identify theft!

Even better I gave my willpower and self control a real kick up the @ss by NOT stealing the haribo/jammie dodgers/cherry drops out of the 'Squaddie-box' Im sending to my friend in Afghan (He needs them, I dont right?)

Don't "exercise" your willpower and self-control -- you have limited amounts of them. Instead, whenever possible, structure your life to avoid unnecessary stress.

For example, if you need to send your friend something, don't send him food, or send him food through a catalog so that you don't have to pack it. In other words, stay away from situations in which you might cave. Maybe that's the kind of "self-sabotoge" your shrink meant.

You should be trying to make life easier, not harder. Adhering to a lower-calorie diet for several months and exercising are hard enough. Unnecessary struggle doesn't make you a better or more deserving person. Note, I said "unnecessary struggle," we all have challenges.

Oh believe me I usually steer WELL clear of any temptation whatsoever! Its only because I got the 'treats' for his box yesterday and then had to seal and send the box today that they were even in my possession!

Oh, OK. Glad to hear that wasn't the case here.

Some people set themselves up unnecessarily -- I will never forget the woman here who ordered three pizzas (for herself) and then was incensed when I asked her what exactly she thought she was going to do with three pizzas -- that's obvious self-undermining.

Oh. Yes. This is what I need too!! I know I can do this, but I need some awesome people there to push me as far as I can go. Sarah, I totally get where you're coming from with the whole emotional thing. I'm thinking the blog might help with that. All that writing and getting stuff out. Please feel free to add me!

I'll add a picture when I get home from work. I'm not sketchy, I promise!