Why lie about wanting to hang out with someone?

I do that all the time. I think because at the moment I want to and then when the time comes of the plans I don't want to. LOl...Im a freak.

Yeah, I personally love saying "f*** off, I never want to see you again, and didn't enjoy spending time with you" on a daily basis...

No need to be a sarcastic idiot. But I've noticed that's kind of your style so you probably can't help it.

I would explain this to you but I don't feel like explaining something you likely won't be able to comprehend anyway.

I'm being rhetorical most of the time with my sarcasm...as I was in this post.

Why do people do this?
I don't mean when old friends are like "We need to hang out soon!" and then never do--whatever, that happens all the time.

I mean when people say they should hang out and then never follow through on the plans because they don't actually want to.

It's like that episode of F.R.I.E.N.D.S. where Chandler tells Rachel's boss "Okay, had fun, we should do this again some time!" but he really doesn't want to & he can't stop saying that because it's how he says goodbye or whatever.

Drives me crazy.

It's not being polite, it's actually the opposite if you have no intention of it.

Know what I'm saying?

I think I know what you are saying.
Have you ever read about "love languages?"
The Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman.
I think it's pretty legit!
I can relate to what you are saying.....I picked out Quality Time as my language...although it seems to be equally important as Physical Touch, for me.
But my point is, that, if someone has crossed you in this area, they may have a different language, and not realize how much you are deeply reacting.
So, without minimizing the strength of your reaction to others, you might consider how you cross others....
My point is that, they may not realize it. And then you do it, too....and don't realize it.

If my quality time or physical touch get's 'offended,' I just try to be sensitive to whether this is a direct message to me, or if the other person has a different way of expressing....if they just come from a different motivation.

Why do people do this?
I don't mean when old friends are like "We need to hang out soon!" and then never do--whatever, that happens all the time.

I mean when people say they should hang out and then never follow through on the plans because they don't actually want to.

It's like that episode of F.R.I.E.N.D.S. where Chandler tells Rachel's boss "Okay, had fun, we should do this again some time!" but he really doesn't want to & he can't stop saying that because it's how he says goodbye or whatever.

Drives me crazy.

It's not being polite, it's actually the opposite if you have no intention of it.

Know what I'm saying?

I think I know what you are saying.
Have you ever read about "love languages?"
The Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman.
I think it's pretty legit!
I can relate to what you are saying.....I picked out Quality Time as my language...although it seems to be equally important as Physical Touch, for me.
But my point is, that, if someone has crossed you in this area, they may have a different language, and not realize how much you are deeply reacting.
So, without minimizing the strength of your reaction to others, you might consider how you cross others....
My point is that, they may not realize it. And then you do it, too....and don't realize it.

If my quality time or physical touch get's 'offended,' I just try to be sensitive to whether this is a direct message to me, or if the other person has a different way of expressing....if they just come from a different motivation.

*shakes head*....Women!....

I'm guilty I say it! I really do, at the time, intend to hang out again- sometime. But I get caught up in everyday life I forget to call the person.

Yeah, but it is totally one thing to get lost in life and to "accidentally" not follow through and another to just a be *kitten* and say something that you completely do not mean. Folks these days are WAY too worried about who they are moushing up to with their fake kindness and general suck up routine.

Well. there is absolutely nothing wrong with being nice and polite. I mix with a lot of people, and my kids become friends with their kids whether I like the parents or not, and that whole thing goes both ways. It's easiest to be cordial and respectful of each other. I live in a big city, but the community I'm in is very small. Everyone knows everyone. You're only one or two people away from everyone else, and it's just better to be polite. Not fake, but polite and nice. That *kitten* will bite you in the @$$ if you're a douche.

Better than lying and having the other person have that expectation that you're going to follow through with the plans.

On what planet is, "We should hang out/do this again sometime," a concrete enough plan to 'follow through' on? And it's also open ended enough to not make it the responsibility of the person who said it to call and follow through on this "plan" to hang out again. If your answer is, "Yes, we should," or, "Okay," etcetera, etc. then you can follow up and make actual concrete plans with said person later you know.