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Dropping your friends is the quickest, healthiest weight loss solution.

Simply take responsibility for yourself. It's easy to "blame" someone else. Your friend sounds overbearing but you are responsible for your own successes and failures.

Workout at your own pace.

Cannot stress this enough. It's good to have work out buddies, but don't let your friend push you past your limits. This will lead you to not wanting to work out. Just let them know that you're doing your best, and if they say otherwise, they aren't doing you any favors by pushing you past your limit.

I had a great work out buddy, we would push each other to do more, but when we could see the other fatiguing, we would wrap it up for that person and tell them how awesome of a job they did that day.

I used to spend 3 hours a day at the gym half killing myself then come home and lay on the couch for the rest of it exhausted and miserable and dreading the next day....

unless you are ENJOYING something, you're not gonna keep doing it.... find a work out that works for YOU..... and don't worry about your friend..... you aren't losing her weight.... you're working on your own... give yourself a few days off and then set up your own schedule doing things that you know you can stick with.... not every work out takes place in the gym... there are lots of ways around the house that you can lose weight and have fun doing it...

Tell her she needs help? Seriously, that's not healthy or sane. Take a step back, read up on some basic "how your body works" stuff (hint: it burns calories. All the time. Like, breathing and pumping blood and stuff. There are problems if you don't have enough calories to do these things.), put together a reasonable program and don't die.

This is a good place to start: http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/23912-links-in-mfp-you-want-to-read-again-and-again

I always find undereating / burning too much generally leads to binge eating later on.

-500 to -1000 is a good place to stay for a deficit imo. Just be honest with her, if she is your "gym buddy" do your

routine and then wait for her. You decide your pace, someone else doesn't do that for you.

Is your workout partner a professional? A trainer or nutritionist? I doubt it. So tell them they are nuts! You don;t have to starve to lose weight actually quite the opposite. You need to fuel your body to lose weight. Just a very rough estimate your BMR has to be over 1600 which means 1300 a day is way too little for all that exercise. You could eat close to 2000 with no exercise an maintain your current weight.

Read this : http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/682138-in-place-of-a-road-map-2-0-revised-7-2-12?hl=road+map&page=12#posts-10955227

search "road map" it's the first one.

Find the right number of calories for you do that and exercise at your own pace and you will lose don't let a friend bully you b/c you will won't be happy and you won't be able to keep it up (tonight is proof).

That doesn't sound healthy really! That's a lot of time exercising and can drain you quick! If you are using MFP, it's designed for you to eat back your calories...for some people that's motivation but for me, I can't eat that much! On average, I burn about 300ish because that's about all I can eat back and not much more than that...my stomach just isn't that big.

If you burn that much and she's really pushing for it, maybe you should speak to a nutritionist/doctor and pass the information on to her? Perhaps hearing from a professional, would help? Or just flat out tell her no

I can't agree enough with everyone here - ditch your insane friend and/or get her some help. Then start at your own pace.

i feel like eating everything in sight because my best friend who is losing weight with me has been pushing me to burn 1500 friggin calories a day and eat only 1300. today i crashed at the gym and totally fell off the machine. i only burned 493 calories today. im too exhausted to do anymore. what do i say to her to calm down on how many calories we burn? ill probably gain tomorrow but i don't care i just want to rest! P.s i burned 1523 cals monday 1549 tuesday and today 493

The quick way to weight loss in this situation is drop the baggage. Your friend is the baggage. The program here guides you to eat a certain amount of calories for your weight. Then when you work out so you are not at a deficit you have to eat some of it back. Your "friend" has way to many issues for you. This is your journey to weight loss. you have to find a balance. If they are not around tell them what you want Oh yeah I burnt all those calories. I over cooked the chicken breast burnt, I burnt the toast, and I burnt the water making tea. I hope you are happy. "Friend needs to get a life preferably their own. Simple it is not your stuff it is thier stuff and stop making it your stuff. Create boundaries for your self.

just say no to peer pressure.

if she is really your friend, she will not have a problem with you speaking out against, and/or not living up to, her ridiculous and unhealthy demands.

positive sammich time:

+ ...*i really like working out with you, and you're my good friend*
- ...*but you are completely bat**** crazy and obviously trying to kill the both of us with this horrific plan of yours*
+ ...*let's just go at our own pace, cuz the goal here is to be healthy, not to die trying to win some freaky race*

Here's another great topic for ya: http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/709987-how-wrong-i-was-600-days-of-mfp-lotsa-pics

Read her story and check out her pictures. Great example of the difference between just losing weight, and losing fat and being strong and fit.

i feel like eating everything in sight because my best friend who is losing weight with me has been pushing me to burn 1500 friggin calories a day and eat only 1300. today i crashed at the gym and totally fell off the machine. i only burned 493 calories today. im too exhausted to do anymore. what do i say to her to calm down on how many calories we burn? ill probably gain tomorrow but i don't care i just want to rest! P.s i burned 1523 cals monday 1549 tuesday and today 493

Yes, the concept she has about weight (fat) loss is not correct.
Some of the cals you eat fuel your body and have NOTHING to do with creating fat on you.
Some of the cals you eat fuel your exercise and have NOTHING to do with creating fat on you.
If you eat past what your body burns TOTAL in a DAY, then you can begin to store fat.
So, at 5ft2in 179lbs forgot your age....maybe 20? Your Total daily burn (assuming exercising 3 times per week) is about 2100 cal

So you would have to consume MORE that 2100 cals daily to begin to put on some fat....a pound is 3600 cals, so you would have to eat A LOT of extra cals on a DAILY basis.

You can figure this for yourself at http://www.freedieting.com/tools/calorie_calculator.htm

Now, if you over-exercise and undereat, you can begin to supress your metabolism. Why do that?

Just eat less than your TDEE, and make a sensible exercise schedule for yourself.

Eating less than your TDEE (by 10-20%) puts you in a deficit, and you will lose weight.