WHAT WOULD YOU DO IF YOU WERE IN MY RUNNING SHOES?

Pretty bummed! I live in a rural area & just started c25k(which I LOVE so far-currerntly on wk2)...in the past 3 weeks there have been a couple reports to the police about women/children being harrassed & stalked by 3 ppl in a vehicle(each time it has been a different vehicle description)... the police have yet to find these people...IM SCARED TO GO RUNNING! My usual routine would be every other day-walk my daughter to school, walk to the bike path with my 10month old in the stroller, & start c25k,then walk back home...again im in a rural area so there is little traffic during the day... DO YOU THINK IM BEING A BIG CRY BABY & MAKING EXCUSES OR DO YOU THINK MY FEELINGS ARE VALID?
*im trying not to make excuses! i really wanna complete the program, but I also dont want to put myself & child in danger*

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  • BaileyBoo13524
    BaileyBoo13524 Posts: 593 Member
    Do you have other places you can run? Maybe find a different trail, run arounnd your neighborhood, or use a treadmill. I don't you are over reacting at all I think it's serious and something to be careful of! At least until the people are caught I would use caution!
  • AddieOverhaul
    AddieOverhaul Posts: 734 Member
    Is there someone you could run with? Safety in numbers! I would be scared too, bad stuff happens. Maybe carry pepper spray or something? A personal alarm?
  • Birdie
    Birdie Posts: 256 Member
    A highschool track?
  • bostongeek
    bostongeek Posts: 80 Member
    Yeah, is there someone you can run with? That seems like the best plan, or try a different trail like BaileyBoo suggested. Maybe try running somewhere there's lots of people, even if you can't find a particular buddy.

    Also, does the harassment/stalking usually happen at a particular time of day that you can avoid? In my neighborhood recently there was a spate of "man taking iPhones from young women alone" type of thing, but he always struck after dusk so I just didn't go out at night without the boyfriend until it died down. (Not running-related, just in general.)
  • I don't think you're being a baby and I definitely wouldn't run in that area but I have the luxury of having a treadmill in my basement so it's easy for me to say.
    Can you just run from the school back home then just run in your neighborhood? You can map out the run to get your timing right. Be safe!
  • jarrettd
    jarrettd Posts: 872 Member
    Carry pepper spray and a cell phone at all times. Stick to daylight running or well-lit areas. Make sure someone knows your route and about how long you expect to be gone.

    Keep the phone where you can get to it easily. If someone gives you the creeps, hold it to your ear and act like you are calling in a report; let them see you looking at them and their plates. If they don't get the hint, make the actual call.

    Whatever you do, don't look scared or intimidated. Head up, shoulders back, and an expression that says "Don't even THINK about it!" A nervous, timid woman looks like an easy target. Don't be that woman.

    I would recommend a self-defense class to any female anywhere. (Well, to the ones who didn't have mean big brothers or cousins to deal with growing up, lol.) If nothing else, it's good exercise and you might come away with a bit more self-confidence.

    Be safe out there, and enjoy C25K!!
  • csplatt
    csplatt Posts: 1,205 Member
    i take my dog
  • janf15
    janf15 Posts: 242 Member
    Don't walk/run on your own - make sure you take a different route and a different time every day - have pepper spray.

    You may want to contact the police department and ask them - what would they suggest.
  • EricNCSU
    EricNCSU Posts: 699 Member
    The safety of your child trumps EVERYTHING.

    If you have access to somewhere to run indoors on a treadmill I would recommend that. Besides that some of the other suggestions are good. Carry mace (good for people, and stray dogs), carry a phone, bring a friend.
  • sharpe76
    sharpe76 Posts: 8 Member
    I would agree with most of the previous posts. Numbers helps, and even though I would consider myself a very capable person that can handle myself if needed, I still carry pepper spray with me when I am on the backroads or trails, mainly concerned there could be wild animals. But yes a cell phone at all times. I have never thought of what someone previously mentioned, "Don't run the same path." That is very good advice now that I think about it.
  • dvisser1
    dvisser1 Posts: 788 Member
    First I would contact the police and ask if they can share any of the specifics of the prior reports, specifically asking about time of day and location. If it's something that has only happened in the evening (after school or normal 1st shift work hours), then I would be slightly less concerned. Slightly.

    I would say that if you can find some place more publicly busy to run and/or find someone (or a small group would be better) should make it ok. Definitely carry a cell phone and have 911 on speed dial.
  • brainfreeze72
    brainfreeze72 Posts: 180 Member
    I go with my dogs. No sane person would ever approach me with my two 75 lb beasties.

    That being said, no sane person would put herself and her child at risk to go for a jog. Please be careful. I always carry my cell phone when I go out. You never know when you might come across a situation where you need to call for help. My husband recently came across something, a tazer attachment for a cell phone. Not legal in my state without a license to carry a concealed weapon.

    My husband knows my routes, where I am going and how long I expect to be gone. I usually get back home 5 minutes before he gets upstairs in the morning. If I go in the afternoon, he gets home a few minutes before I finish. Even the girls I work with know where I'm going for my lunchtime walk. When we were on vacation I mapped out my walk for my husband and sat around for 2 hrs chomping at the bit because the sun didn't come up until 7am and I didn't have my beasties to walk with me.

    Try getting a buddy to go with you or finding a place indoors. If that isn't an option, try reaching out to those in your community who frequent the same areas. Perhaps you can watch out for each other.
  • A highschool track?

    Although I dislike running on tracks, I like this idea as a temporary solution until it's safer in your neighborhood. If there is a track at your child's school, that might work...if not, maybe you could drive somewhere not very far away that does have a track??
  • tequillarose04
    tequillarose04 Posts: 30 Member
    Thanks everyone for the great ideas..ive thought about running around the baseball diamond-theres no track around here :( but thats also in a secluded area, so probably not any more safe... ive talked to the police dept & they cant give me any information since theyre still investigating... im thinking its better off to wait it out & get more facts & then restart the program when its safe(dont have a treadmill or a gym membership & dont think either will be obtainable in the near future.. im trying to do as much as i can on my own @ home & outside (dont judge,its a start!)
    the suggestion on not running the same place/time everyday is very much appreciated..I never thought about that, but its definately a great idea! thanks! i like the bike path because no one can really see me, im still a little embarrased because i cant run for very long yet :embarassed:
    im going to scope out the area again & see if i can figure something out...i dont want to give up just yet, but i do want my child safe
  • sbilyeu75
    sbilyeu75 Posts: 567 Member
    Carry pepper spray and a cell phone at all times. Stick to daylight running or well-lit areas. Make sure someone knows your route and about how long you expect to be gone.

    Keep the phone where you can get to it easily. If someone gives you the creeps, hold it to your ear and act like you are calling in a report; let them see you looking at them and their plates. If they don't get the hint, make the actual call.

    Whatever you do, don't look scared or intimidated. Head up, shoulders back, and an expression that says "Don't even THINK about it!" A nervous, timid woman looks like an easy target. Don't be that woman.

    I would recommend a self-defense class to any female anywhere. (Well, to the ones who didn't have mean big brothers or cousins to deal with growing up, lol.) If nothing else, it's good exercise and you might come away with a bit more self-confidence.

    Be safe out there, and enjoy C25K!!

    I agree with this.
  • laserturkey
    laserturkey Posts: 1,680 Member
    Safety first! I think self-defense training is an excellent idea, not just for this situation but in general. I'd look for an indoor place to run, or find an adult running buddy.
  • Cespuglio
    Cespuglio Posts: 385 Member
    If you want to keep things a bit simpler and can't afford/don't have the room for a treadmill, you can always just run laps around the perimeter of your home. It's not as fun as running a scenic route, but it's a step up from a treadmill in the sense that it's [slightly] less monotonous and more challenging. Just carry some good motivating tunes with you :-)
  • HSingMomto7Kids
    HSingMomto7Kids Posts: 345 Member
    I'd be nervous too!! Everyone already gave you great advice!!! Stay well!!