house warming gift?

lbmore33
lbmore33 Posts: 1,013 Member
edited December 2024 in Chit-Chat
So my wife's cousin sent us an invitation to their house warming this Sat. In the invite it stated shall we decide to buy gifts, they listed abt 5 stores from which we can get them something from. Here is my dilema...the couple just sold their house to buy a new house, why would you aske ppl to buy gifts...did you throw away all your stuff away from the old house? My god they are not strapped for $$$$, (teacher, land surveyor). If this was their first home, this wouldn't bother me as much...but this here...the nerve of some ppl. Am I wrong in my thinkn?

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  • VelociMama
    VelociMama Posts: 3,119 Member
    Are the items on the registry inappropriately expensive?
  • sliceofsarah
    sliceofsarah Posts: 141 Member
    Are they serving you dinner? A lot of times guests bring a bottle of wine. You could keep it at that or get one of the inexpensive things on the registry.
  • MissingMyOldSelf
    MissingMyOldSelf Posts: 689 Member
    I totally agree with you. I think it's rude for them to expect a gift from people.

    Personally, when I hear "housewarming party" for someone that's already had a house before, (and like you said, has all the items they would need anyways), I think wine, or beer as a gift for them.
  • katamus
    katamus Posts: 2,363 Member
    You're probably not wrong, but unless you want to disown them I'd recommend at least getting them a nice candle or something.. Inexpensive, but still a gift.
  • mgobluetx12
    mgobluetx12 Posts: 1,326 Member
    Tacky to request gifts. I agree with the bottle of wine.
  • 3dogsrunning
    3dogsrunning Posts: 27,167 Member
    Etiquette wise you are not wrong. Any invite which suggests a gift is not acceptable (even saying "no gifts" is technically wrong as it presumes a gift is assumed) although for a housewarming, i would always show up with some sort of present, like wine or something.
  • lbmore33
    lbmore33 Posts: 1,013 Member
    it is from 2-6...and honestly they just listed stores, but never had a registry. I wasnt plan on going anyway, I just found the whole thing to be absurd.
  • VelociMama
    VelociMama Posts: 3,119 Member
    it is from 2-6...and honestly they just listed stores, but never had a registry. I wasnt plan on going anyway, I just found the whole thing to be absurd.

    That is incredibly tacky....

    I'd agree with the others. Just for civility, bring some wine or a candle or something inexpensive.
  • MissingMyOldSelf
    MissingMyOldSelf Posts: 689 Member
    Boone's Farm.... less than 3 bucks :)

    Hey, it's the thought that counts, right?
  • lbmore33
    lbmore33 Posts: 1,013 Member
    Boone's Farm.... less than 3 bucks :)

    Hey, it's the thought that counts, right?


    lol and for me to bring wine...I have no clue b/c I do not drink...lmbo
  • MissingMyOldSelf
    MissingMyOldSelf Posts: 689 Member
    Boone's Farm is the kind of wine you wanna bring when you and your "less than high class friends" wanna have belching contests. Strawberry Daiquiri, blackberry, sangria...... cheap, usually found on the bottom shelf (says the 5'3" girl who is close to the ground), and does the job :)

    Also known as: most people's first alcoholic drink that their older friends got them before they were legal to drink. (at least in my little podunk town! lol
  • MissingMyOldSelf
    MissingMyOldSelf Posts: 689 Member
    By the way... was "the Dollar Tree" one of the stores listed on their preferences? ;-)
  • 3dogsrunning
    3dogsrunning Posts: 27,167 Member
    Boone's Farm is the kind of wine you wanna bring when you and your "less than high class friends" wanna have belching contests. Strawberry Daiquiri, blackberry, sangria...... cheap, usually found on the bottom shelf (says the 5'3" girl who is close to the ground), and does the job :)

    Also known as: most people's first alcoholic drink that their older friends got them before they were legal to drink. (at least in my little podunk town! lol

    Lol, the Boone's Farm threw me off (and the price, its a bit higher here), I just know it as Boone's. But once I read this I caught on.
  • mommanurse33
    mommanurse33 Posts: 189 Member
    I think you are right to be a little irritated. However, you may think about bringing something inexpensive but nice. Though it isn't the first home they've ever purchased, it is still nice to have a little something new. However, I think the fact that they actually listed places to buy stuff for them from is a little tacky. It totally screams "BUY SOMETHING FOR ME NOW!!" LOL
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