I am ready to do this for me!

jackiecusimano
jackiecusimano Posts: 1
edited September 2024 in Introduce Yourself
Hey All!

I am almost 26 and my whole life has been made up of challenges to lose weight. I was an overweight kid, and though I have always been is fairly good shape, I have never felt ok in a bikini. I am now married to a man who truly loves me for who I am, not for my waistline. However, I still cannot love myself and it is causing a problem. I want to believe him when he says I am perfect just the way I am. That is why I am here. I am here to learn how to love myself and take charge of my diet. I need to lose the obsession I have with weight and accept me for me. I need to lose about 35 pounds, but more than that, I want to be able to run my first 5K by June.
I am not a mother yet, but when I have kids, I want to be in the best shape I am physically cabable of being in.
I want to not look at food as the enemy, but rather a substance that I have control over.
I have been doing this for about a month now, and the exercise has been going great, however, it is the weekends that I lose control on. I am eating everything in site and I do not go to the gym on weekends.
That is about it. I am willing to listen to any and every tip on how to lose weight and keep it off and how to train for a 5K. I want to do this right and make it a lifetime commitment.
Thanks!
Jackie

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  • gebnpb
    gebnpb Posts: 166
    Welcome!! You'll love this sight it really helps and everyone is great!! Best wishes!! :)
  • BrenNew
    BrenNew Posts: 3,420 Member
    Hey All!

    I am almost 26 and my whole life has been made up of challenges to lose weight. I was an overweight kid, and though I have always been is fairly good shape, I have never felt ok in a bikini. I am now married to a man who truly loves me for who I am, not for my waistline. However, I still cannot love myself and it is causing a problem. I want to believe him when he says I am perfect just the way I am. That is why I am here. I am here to learn how to love myself and take charge of my diet. I need to lose the obsession I have with weight and accept me for me. I need to lose about 35 pounds, but more than that, I want to be able to run my first 5K by June.
    I am not a mother yet, but when I have kids, I want to be in the best shape I am physically cabable of being in.
    I want to not look at food as the enemy, but rather a substance that I have control over.
    I have been doing this for about a month now, and the exercise has been going great, however, it is the weekends that I lose control on. I am eating everything in site and I do not go to the gym on weekends.
    That is about it. I am willing to listen to any and every tip on how to lose weight and keep it off and how to train for a 5K. I want to do this right and make it a lifetime commitment.
    Thanks!
    Jackie



    Hi Jackie, and welcome to THE best site on the web! :flowerforyou:
    Between the easy to use food counter (which by the way is SUCH an eye opener!) and all the wonderfully supportive members, you WILL be able to lose the weight that you want to, AND, it'll "almost" be easy doing it! :wink:
    I recommend logging ALL your foods BEFORE you have them, rather than later, as it tends to lead to better food choices. (not to mention you'll know if you've got enough numbers left to have a night time snack, like I ALWAYS try to do!) Some people also like to weigh and measure some things, such as meats, rather than just estimating and possibly being WAY off! :noway:
    Don't go making the mistake that if you have LOTS of numbers left at the end of the day that you'll lose even faster, because that DOESN'T happen. Feel free to read any info about the site in the "help" section at the top of the home page. And also under "Community", then "Weight Loss and Healthy Living", then "general diet and weight loss help", and then check out the first few threads. They'll REALLY help you understand how MFP works. :smile:
    Before coming here, I had tried just about EVERYTHING out there, including hypnosis, TWICE, and nothing really worked until MFP! :love:
    Just the word "diet" would make me cringe and set me up for failure. :grumble: It meant depriving myself of all the "good stuff" out there, and as a result, I'd only last just so long, (maybe a few weeks if I was lucky!) and then I'd "cave" and go right back to eating all those "goodies" again! :embarrassed: :cry: But, MFP ISN'T a "diet". :noway: It's a "lifestyle change". :smile: (When I first read that, I said "Ya, SURE it is!", thinking that it WAS just another diet. :grumble: But, it wasn't! :noway:)
    The main reason that I've managed to lose the weight that I wanted to is because I HAVE been able to eat "real/good" foods. :bigsmile: (Not Slim Fast or any other easy, quick, fad "wacko" diets!:noway: ) Through MFP I learned that I just needed to "work for it", through exercise, and watching my numbers (MOST of the time! :wink: ) As long as I do that, I CAN occasionally have stuff like Chinese food, a double cheeseburger, pizza, and even homemade ice-cream! :love:
    As far as exercise goes, it doesn't always have to be awful. :noway: For my exercise, I walk almost every day, (weather permitting!:wink: ) I also dance to a fast oldies CD that my husband made up of all my favorite old songs. (Like "Love Shack", Wild, Wild West", "Mony, Mony", "Footloose", and "Gloria") :love: :happy:
    It's free, (unlike a gym!:grumble: ) fun, :smile: and I can even watch tv at the same time, so I never get bored! :happy:
    I also have Wii Fit, and jog to that, which is a lot of fun, and easy too! :smile:
    So, to make a LONG story short, make good food choices, eat in moderation, get some exercise, and you WILL lose the weight that you want to! :smile:
    MFP REALLY, REALLY, DOES work! :love: :happy: Give it a chance, and it WILL work for you too! :smile:
  • Jerzeebabie04
    Jerzeebabie04 Posts: 272
    Hey!
    I can definitely relate to you! I have been overweight forever and I am finally ready to make a change. I always had the same problem with not being able to believe when someone tells me they love me for who I am or if they say they find my body beautiful. I don't think it's even possible to believe someone else if you don't think its true yourself. I would always look in the mirror and think how can anyone find this body attractive? Lucky for you, you only have 35 pounds to lose! But don't worry you'll be able to do it, just set small goals for yourself.

    Some weekends I have the problem of eatting everything in sight too and other weekends I do just fine continuing to eat healthy. I think it's because some weekends I'm around more people, who normally like to order food or go out to eat on the weekends. I think you should first make sure that you are eatting enough calories throughout the week. Get as close to your calorie goal every day during the week. But also consider those foods you are craving on the weekend, it could be your bodys way of telling you that it's being deprived of something all week. Are you eatting enough carbs? protein? fat?

    My suggestion for those weekends would be figure out what you want as a "cheat" meal for the day. I'm sure if you only do it 2 days out of the week and you don't allow yourself to go over your calories you should be fine. Say you want pizza on a friday night, plan your day according to the pizza by including it in your calories. Instead of 2 slices have 1 slice and a salad. Eat fewer calories during the day to save for the pizza calories at night, but don't starve your body all day.

    I don't know anything about preparing for a 5K, I've always wanted to learn more about how to become a runner. I mean they always seem to become good runners on the biggest loser, so it gives me hope that one day I can too. Do you do any running so far?
  • gennyvieve
    gennyvieve Posts: 83
    you've already done the hardest part----you made the choice to DO something and make a change in your life....that's so much more than many people do, so give yourself a huge pat on the pack for being here!!! when i first started i did the same thing, i didn't pay attention to what i was having on the weekends---i needed to take baby steps so that i knew i was making a real change and it wasn't something that i would just give up on when it got too hard. as i started to see results and fit into my smaller clothes eventually i decided that instead of 2 whole free days i'd do just a free meal on saturday and sunday.....that way i know i have something to look forward to! now i'm down to just a freebie on sat nite---and it's funny how now that i know in my head i can have whatever i want, that i crave healthier stuff! for me the biggest part of this whole process was getting it thru my thick skull that i really can have what i want---i just have to hold myself accountable for it....you'll get there too!
    as for training for the 5k, i ran my first ever 5k in november.....i had never run until july. ever. unless i was being chased :) i started on the treadmill walking for a few minutes then running for a minute. literally---60 seconds. and it sucked! but i kept it up and kept it up and soon i was running for 5 min at a time, then 10, then before i know it i'm doing 3.5 miles around the park in 40 min!
    you will achieve all your goals---you sound totally committed and i can't wait to see how it goes for you!!! you'll love the rush you get crossing that 5k finish line....it's SO awesome!
    good luck! we're here when you need us! :)
  • Mangoaddict
    Mangoaddict Posts: 1,236 Member
    Hey girl, welcome! You are in the exact same spot as me, I plan to run a 5K in May. Come join me.
  • Mangoaddict
    Mangoaddict Posts: 1,236 Member
    Join the couch to 5K group, we are on a 9 week program that works! You have enough time before june to practice and make it to your race.
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