I need help and advice please :(

smeghani
smeghani Posts: 11 Member
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Hello All!
So I needed some insight and some motivation to get me started on my weight loss goals.
I am 25yrs old and I am 153 pounds.
I am currently doing a desk job so I am mostly sitting throughout the day.
I use to be very skinny until I graduated high school and then I gained 30 pounds in 7 years.
Most of it was because I found my special someone in the beginning years and got too comfortable and went out to eat all the time. Plus back in school I was in dance team and all so I never really gained a whole lot of weight.
After reaching 140lbs in 2009 and trying every single “diet” out there I got really depressed and went through a very hard time where I found comfort in food and friends in the wrong way and gained an additional 10 pounds.
I am embarrassed of my weight, I feel like my weight is contributes to all the problems in my life and If I can just lose 20 pounds I will be happy.
One of my friends use to make me eat out all the time with her and she was 175 pounds and now recently lost all the weight and is not 114. I am happy for her but sad for myself.
I was so embarrassed of the way I look, I stopped talking to my soon to be fiancé and I stopped going to family gatherings because everyone in my family is skinny.
The doctor also told me that my LDL cholesterol is very and I am so embarrassed of that because I am only 25!
I am very sad and depressed and I feel like my weight is taking over my life. I have tried everything. I have gym membership at work and at a gym by the house. I have a home gym too. I have access to all the healthy meals and I have time too! I dont know what is but I just love food and I give up easily.
I use to be the most fashionable girl out there and now my US size 8 pants are not fitting me anymore.
I pray everyday for strength to achieve my goals. Please can some share some advice or help me. Thank you

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  • awake_atlast
    awake_atlast Posts: 13 Member
    First of all.. cutest kitty EVER in your avatar! Now let's deal with the other stuff :D

    I had a lot of struggle going from 275 to 210, and probably more struggle to come till my ultimate goal of 175. but let me tell you what helped me out..

    Losing the weight and keeping it off is not really that complex if you do it right.

    First you gotta find the right motivation to do it.. being embarrassed of how you look can take you a few pounds but not all the way.. think of how it will make you a better person, not a better "looking" person.

    Once you found that motivation, remind yourself of it everyday, it will give you the strength you need to keep going, along with the support of your real friends, not those who "make you eat with them"...

    Make small changes in your lifestyle, slightly smaller portions - grilled instead of fried - stairs not elevators etc.. once your lifestyle changes you go on "auto-pilot mode" and in a few month you will find another person looking back at you in the mirror :)

    The part about loving food.. I can't tell you about it because I am the same.. and it wont go away!!

    Best of luck for you, losing those 20 pounds are so within your reach..
  • smeghani
    smeghani Posts: 11 Member
    Thank you so much for replying it really does make me feel better. Hopefully I can lose the weight like you did and do with the healthy way and do it because I want to be a better person. my problem is that I want to do all or nothing I go on the strlct crash diets thinking that'll help me lose weight but soon enough I start missing food and come back to my old self so from now on I will just make small changes and build up on it instead of being in a hurry
  • gaston84
    gaston84 Posts: 14 Member
    i know how you feel, i use to be quite fit and healthy and trained regular but found girls, clubs and beer so pilled the weight on, as above little changes, im dieting but i have cut cheese and bread so far from my diet as the are full of carbs and also i love Chinese and have said to myself instead of every week i will have one or two a month but instead of fried rice i get boiled....its little changes like that.

    ive been on my diet for 4 days and in the gym twice so far and feel better about myself already and so am determined to do this. you will get there it just takes time and dedication, and you have taken the first steps down the right path by telling yourself that you want to change your lifestyle and get in shape..

    you will get there just dont push yourself to hard straight away, take your time and you will get there.
  • bevcrok
    bevcrok Posts: 40
    Hi! I have used MFP before but have been gone from it for a long while. I am now ready to get back and regain the happy/good feelings I had when I was moving more, being more aware of what I was eating and (wonderful benefit!) losing weight. I am really hoping to get some friends who will actually offer support this time around. What I mean is, I appreciate people's comments (like "good job!" and "your dinner looks delicious!"), but I would REALLY like to have one (or maybe more) person who will really be a support/accountability buddy. If you think this would work for you, let me know!

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