I'm small, now you want to date me...?

virichi08
virichi08 Posts: 465 Member
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(I am borrowing this from someone else).... What's your take about people giving you a chance now that you are SMALLER? your personality has not changed, you are still the same funny, loving you, but this guy or gal is NOW giving you the time of day.....
(Also before you answer this question, have YOU ever treated someone differently *when it comes to dating* when they are a different weight?)

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  • Ruger2506
    Ruger2506 Posts: 309 Member
    that is life in our society. right or wrong that is how it works.
  • Heyman09
    Heyman09 Posts: 184
    I completely understand where you are coming from....These are the times where you can actually say "Get lost" lol. I was blessed enough to find someone who didn't care....He loved me at 250lbs and he still loves me now that I am getting smaller....I didn't say he loves me MORE for it, he loves me the same as he always had.
  • mjhedgehog
    mjhedgehog Posts: 249 Member
    happened to me haha. I saw this guy at a party that I hadn't seen since high school (I've lost 30 pounds since then) and he was like "wow you look great." and I heard him whisper to his friend "shes actually bangable now!" and I was like :noway: eff off haha and I walked off with my guy friend who was friends with me before I lost weight. :smokin:
  • Tara910
    Tara910 Posts: 4
    I struggle with this too... I dated a guy after about 35 pounds of weight loss (I am now close to 50) and I never had the courage to tell him about my weight loss. Not because I wasn't proud of myself but because of my own insecurities about whether or not I would have been "good" enough for him at my highest weight. It didn't work out for other reasons, but I still struggle when meeting new guys- wondering if they would have given me the time of day 50 pounds ago.
  • ewl6850
    ewl6850 Posts: 158 Member
    It'll be interesting to see how it pans out for me. I know people are shallow, I am kind of excited to have the doors open for me as I get skinnier. But I am kinda pissed that my weight is such a big deal now. People always tell me "Your personality is your hook." Problem is, people never seem to go that deep. I feel that being big has made me a better person. I know what it's like to be on the bottom. And people who are "hot" get cocky and become jerks, guys and gals both, I am glad to have been humbled by my size, and then maintaining that personality as I get hot, and being the complete package.

    I have never treated anyone different based on my weight. Does my draw drop for thin women in itty bitty bikinis? You bet. But there is something truly beautiful about a real woman, with real curves.

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