I have lost my way.....
imarn1ab
Posts: 11
Hello everyone! I am not new to MFP but as the title says, I have lost my way and need help, motivation, support to find myself again. When I first started on MFP I weighted roughly around 205 (this was 2 yrs ago). I have dropped down to 170ish which is my profile picture (in Vegas Oct 2011 after husbands deployement) , but I have since then gained a lot back. As of right now I don't know what I weigh. We are a military family just moved back from overseas and still waiting on our household goods (and scale!) but I'm guessing I have hit the 190s maybe even pushing 200 
..... I don't want to be that person again. I was very sad and depressed with how I looked which also puts a damper on my marriage because I just want to hide under my clothes. Anyone willing to help motivate would be greatly appreciated!
..... I don't want to be that person again. I was very sad and depressed with how I looked which also puts a damper on my marriage because I just want to hide under my clothes. Anyone willing to help motivate would be greatly appreciated! 0
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Been there done that! I sent you a friend request
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Me too.0
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Friend request on the way!0
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request sent
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try doing excersizes that help with muscle gaining i heard that muscle burns fat.
what are you doing to gain the weight back? broke your diet? are you excercising enough?0 -
Feel free to add me. I know exactly how you feel0
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I can definitely empathize. I have lost to a good weight so many times, only to gain it back, plus more. It is so depressing. I'm right with you. I had gotten to my highest weight ever and finally got the strength to do something about it. I started my weight loss journey to health on August 20, and found MFP two and a half weeks ago. Feel free to add me as a friend if you like. I log in everyday.0
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Thanks everyone for the request!try doing excersizes that help with muscle gaining i heard that muscle burns fat.
what are you doing to gain the weight back? broke your diet? are you excercising enough?
As far as gaining the weight back... 2 months after we got stationed in Guam, my husband recieved orders to Afghanistan, and was deployed most of 2011. During that time, I kept myself busy with work and lost weight. Once my husband came home, depression really kicked in because of my working night shifts we were lucky if we got to see each other 30 mins a day. It's tough enough being stationed overseas away from family and friends but when I don't even have time to spend with my husband, it really started to effect our marriage. In march of this year I made the decision to resign so I could spend time with him, but along with that i adopted his eatting habbits again. My husband, though I love him to death!, has the worst eatting habbits ever. He has a weird palate, there for any fruits and veggies he gags on. So most of our meals consist of pasta, pizza, bread.. CARBS! Therefor the weight has come back with full force .... Right now we're still waiting on our housing goods, so it's empty walls in here, and one huge floor to ceiling mirror in the hallway so everytime I head to the bedroom I can see just how big I have gotten and I don't like it at all!!!! Time for a change and hopefully with the help of you all i can do it!! 0 -
I know the feeling all too well, friend request on the way0
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Looking for friends to keep me motivated as well! Friend request on the way! You can do this!! 0
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Friend Request sent! I know the feeling, I am 193 and would like to get down to about 130. We can motivate eachother 0
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You will get a lot of support on here,welcome. 0
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In the same boat as well. Lost 55lbs a few years ago only to gain it all back plus another 40!! I need to get it together & stay consistant with it!! Good luck and I will send you a request!0
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Take all new starting measurements today.
Splurge on a new scale, find your measuring tape and get to it.
Create a space on a wall somewhere - with chalkboard paint, with poster-board, whatever you need - and make it YOU central- where you can track your progress nice and big and colorful and most importantly VISIBLE
Its a project.
Its the only hobby that makes you more amazing every time you do it.
Decide you love it.
Decide to become one of the fanatic and the obsessed ones that people whisper about.
Decide to be someone that people whisper about because you grabbed your life by the kiwis and turned it around
Decide that you love this new adventure so much that its going to seep into everything you do
And you will suddenly be this always improving goddess of metamorphosis - your own butterfly.
DECIDE YOU LOVE IT AND YOULL NEVER LET IT GO AGAIN.
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I trailed off for a while too, then i realized that it simply wasn't worth it! You're not a dog, so don't treat yourself with food!! This is your moment to shine! DO IT!
Gd Luck! I'm alrdy 22 pounds down! 0 -
Take all new starting measurements today.
Splurge on a new scale, find your measuring tape and get to it.
Create a space on a wall somewhere - with chalkboard paint, with poster-board, whatever you need - and make it YOU central- where you can track your progress nice and big and colorful and most importantly VISIBLE
Its a project.
Its the only hobby that makes you more amazing every time you do it.
Decide you love it.
Decide to become one of the fanatic and the obsessed ones that people whisper about.
Decide to be someone that people whisper about because you grabbed your life by the kiwis and turned it around
Decide that you love this new adventure so much that its going to seep into everything you do
And you will suddenly be this always improving goddess of metamorphosis - your own butterfly.
DECIDE YOU LOVE IT AND YOULL NEVER LET IT GO AGAIN.
THIS.
And I will add: Decide that you love yourself enough to put your needs (healthy foods, time to exercise, solid sleep, etc.) FIRST. Above all. Above everything else that puts demands on your time and your energy. You'll be amazed at how much better you'll feel just from doing that.0 -
Take all new starting measurements today.
Splurge on a new scale, find your measuring tape and get to it.
Create a space on a wall somewhere - with chalkboard paint, with poster-board, whatever you need - and make it YOU central- where you can track your progress nice and big and colorful and most importantly VISIBLE
Its a project.
Its the only hobby that makes you more amazing every time you do it.
Decide you love it.
Decide to become one of the fanatic and the obsessed ones that people whisper about.
Decide to be someone that people whisper about because you grabbed your life by the kiwis and turned it around
Decide that you love this new adventure so much that its going to seep into everything you do
And you will suddenly be this always improving goddess of metamorphosis - your own butterfly.
DECIDE YOU LOVE IT AND YOULL NEVER LET IT GO AGAIN.
^^^ What she said^^^0 -
you can add me if you'd like. I always try to motivate my mfp friends and love receive the motivation back. welcome back !0
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The hardest part is starting again. Once you do your muscle memory will swiftly help you get back into the swing of things. Focus on progress and not perfection. This way if you have a bad day you don't feel like you have failed. Just get up the next day put on your gym shoes and do your thing!
I have lost 47lbs so far over about three months doing nothing but watching what I eat and walking on a treadmill. (Too hot here in Fl to exercise outside) If I can do it while fighting Leukemia you can do it with whatever struggles you are facing. Everyone can do it if they want to.
I was motivated by two quotes that my PT posted on her FB page. "Find a way instead of an excuse." and "You can't get much done in life if you only work on the days you are feeling good." These became my mantra as I dragged myself to the gym every day. initially walking for about 15 minutes and working my way up to 60 as time wore on. There were days I missed, days I ate too much but every new day was just that. A chance to do better than I did yesterday.
You can do this!
Brian0 -
Almost everyone who's human has been where you are now. As much as you love your husband YOU are not HIM.
You have got to eat the food and commit to the activities/exercise that are suitable for YOUR weight loss journey.
Start today and maybe just maybe by the time your scale gets "home" you'll be back in a zone that you are happy with.
You dont have to know exactly what weight you are to commit to healthy eating and moving more.You can do this,just take it one day at a time.
I wish you every success.:-)0 -
Been there done that! I sent you a friend request
Same here...started back in May 2011. I didn't get serious until now. Sent friend request.0 -
The funnest part is starting again.
You can do this!
Brian
fixed your post :drinker:0 -
You need to remember to like yourself!!! So, you have put on a few pounds. You are on the right track to lose some of those extra pounds. You sound like you are ready to make some personal chages along with your physical move. Start new habits today! 0
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I know how you feel. I too was living away from home. My boyfriend worked in another province and when he was gone for months at a time I had no eating schedule. I worked all day then would be to lazy to cook a meal so takeout was my one meal a day. When he would come home he would want big meals cooked every night but we didnt eat them until 11 or 12 at night and then go to bed..horrible I know! In the last year my mother has been ill so the stress of being away from family has taken a toll on me mentally and physically. I recently took a leave from my job and moved home. I got married last month and my husband has been here with me. This is wonderful but also very stressful as we are both now living in my parents basement until we can get back on our feet and I can find a job here. I look at myself daily and am so upset because of what I feel I have become. I try to stay motivated..I want to lose weight..to exercise..to walk..but just can't:( I need to do something but I don't know where to start. I saw this site today and decided to join...I hope that it can help me in some way.0
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My husband, though I love him to death!, has the worst eatting habbits ever. He has a weird palate, there for any fruits and veggies he gags on. So most of our meals consist of pasta, pizza, bread.. CARBS! Therefor the weight has come back with full force ....
My husband is the same way. After a while, we just started eating separate meals, together. We might both have the same main course, like chicken breast, but I'd load my plate with veggies and he'd load his with carbs like rice or potatoes. I didn't even mind fixing him the carbs so that he can reach his calorie needs. Things like rice or potatoes are really easy to cook, so it wasn't an issue for me.
You might want to check out the cookbook, "Deceptively Delicious" by Jessica Seinfeld. It is designed to trick children into eating more fruit and veggies, but it works on grown men, too. Even better, if you can sneak fruit and veggies into his diet, his palate will adjust without even knowing it.
I fixed an asian pork and green bean meal recently and my husband picked out the green beans, at first. Then I asked him just to give it a try because I was trying my best to make the green beans taste more like meat for his benefit. Reluctantly, he did and discovered he really did like them. He didn't know that I had been sneaking them into other foods like soups and sauces in pureed form for a while now. His palate adjusted and now he likes green beans.0 -
THIS!Take all new starting measurements today.
Splurge on a new scale, find your measuring tape and get to it.
Create a space on a wall somewhere - with chalkboard paint, with poster-board, whatever you need - and make it YOU central- where you can track your progress nice and big and colorful and most importantly VISIBLE
Its a project.
Its the only hobby that makes you more amazing every time you do it.
Decide you love it.
Decide to become one of the fanatic and the obsessed ones that people whisper about.
Decide to be someone that people whisper about because you grabbed your life by the kiwis and turned it around
Decide that you love this new adventure so much that its going to seep into everything you do
And you will suddenly be this always improving goddess of metamorphosis - your own butterfly.
DECIDE YOU LOVE IT AND YOULL NEVER LET IT GO AGAIN.
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Same here. Friend request sent. Anyone can add me.0
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Never give up, I have lost 100s of pounds many times only to gain it back-mostly because I never found anything that stuck. But I never give up and keep starting over...This time I I am taking it one day at a time-one meal at a time. I track everything now pretty faithfully because that is the key. I also only set a goal of 1 lb a week-52 lbs in year. Very do-able. When I lose more I celebrate. I traveled for work recently and tried very hard to make healthy choices, and I LOST .5. I celebrated that victory becaue it meant I was learning to LIVE differently, not DIET. I have trouble moving right now which makes it hard to work out, but I find myself parking a little farther from places, any little thing to help. Most of all I quit feeling guilty and beating myself up if I have a bad day. I don't deprive, I plan the things I want into my food, but I no longer over indulge or have that "something" every day. It's like a special treat then and I enjoy it rather than feel guilty about it. Most of all I do this for ME and ME only. I finally put ME first and have learned to like ME. You can do this-you have a whole set of "pals" at your finger tips!!0
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Sent you a request, good luck with your journey. I have been where you are! You can do it, one day at a time. :happy:0
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I am a fellow military spouse and know exactly what you are going through. Every deployment I said I am going to lose 20lbs before he gets home and every time I failed. Several years ago I finally got serious and went from 215 to 141.5... and then he retired. I was the happiest I have ever been. I felt like I looked good and it was a definite benefit to our marriage. When he retired our lifestyle changed... more eating out, less cooking at home. My weight started to creep back up. I know what you mean when you say, I don't want to go there again. I am now trying to regain my determination to take off the weight I have gained even if I never see 141.5 again. I would be happy anywhere in the 140's. I would be thrilled to encourage you as you go through YOUR journey!!0
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