Ladies who lift, I need you!!

I need a bit of help. I've just finished the first stage of new rules of lifting for women. It was great, looking forward to stage 2. But... I'm feeling a little jaded. My progress has been good, measurements have decreased. My long term plan is to decrease my fat percentage to low as poss. I'm about 26 % now. Im happy to carry on but sometimes I look down the path and think its such a long long road. I wonder if I'm setting myself unrealistic targets. The look I want to achieve is low fat, good muscle definition. I think female body builders look fantastic and eventually I would love to look like I actually know what I'm doing in the weights room and have a body to prove it too. Am I wanting too much and should I settle for slim and toned rather than fitness model definition? Ive always really admired muscle on a woman but I read so often that's it's ridiculously hard to gain unless your a freak of nature/ taking gear. Thoughts and any advice would be great thanks x