Driving Blind and broken

cjsgrimlin
cjsgrimlin Posts: 246
edited December 2024 in Chit-Chat
Simple question please answer: If your mother was a bad diabetic, lost consciousness and rolled a truck, then lost most of her eyesight and had numinous surgery to correct it (we are talking like 14) in one year, has two bad legs due to high cholesterol problem and still having surgery on them much less kidney problems would you hand her her drivers license back?

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  • cmriverside
    cmriverside Posts: 34,458 Member
    Absolutely NOT. And if she drives, I'd have the police pick her up.
  • Contrarian
    Contrarian Posts: 8,138 Member
    On behalf of the other drivers and pedestrians, no.
  • gertudejekyl
    gertudejekyl Posts: 386 Member
    When you lose your Driver's License it is the first step towards the end....
  • stevewynjones
    stevewynjones Posts: 1,052 Member
    yep....and a yellow cab in NYC!
  • jensweighingin
    jensweighingin Posts: 168 Member
    I wouldn't, but easier said than done.

    You probably have to contact the DMV in your state. Florida allows 'other' motorists to send in reports, other states do not. Georgia has manditory license revocation for losing consciousness with diabetes. Don't know if this is helpful or not:

    http://dmvanswers.com/questions/1236/Can-I-obtain-a-drivers-license-if-I-have-diabetes
  • onedayillbeamilf
    onedayillbeamilf Posts: 966 Member
    Um....no.
  • twinketta
    twinketta Posts: 2,130 Member
    Um....no.

    with this one!
  • cjsgrimlin
    cjsgrimlin Posts: 246
    My mother in law is getting hers tomorrow if she can pass the eye exam. Which means after the 100's of thousands she has spent "improving" her body and eyesight my poor father in law will buy her a car. I am so against this for many reasons.

    I for one don't think she should have been let to have the surgery, for any of it. She overdoses on insulin to eat what she wants behind dad's back, tells him things the doc said (dramatically) that isn't true. EX: I will loose my legs if i don't have a stent put in both of them! (one leg was regrowing veins around the blockage so that wasn't an issue) or I have to have everyone at my eye surgery in-case my kidneys fail and i don't make it. All the while eating fast food and chocolate. I have no sympathy for those who do not follow doctors orders (and one of those orders was to have no more surgery)
  • Crochetluvr
    Crochetluvr Posts: 3,358 Member
    She is as much a danger to others as she is to herself. Driving isn't ALL about how well you see.
  • squishycow7
    squishycow7 Posts: 820 Member
    doesn't seem safe to me.

    I know it's sad when folks lose their licenses due to age/etc, but if it's not safe, they shouldn't be out there.
  • Newf77
    Newf77 Posts: 802 Member
    Going to give you the simple answer, NO.
    I recently advised a young couple who had an aged parent who was having issues driving this piece of advice. If you have possession of the Drivers License, hold onto it or say it was lost. Mean while call the State DMV and advise that anonymously of the facts you have provided here, you can also go to your local Police Department and advise them of your concerns. One of three things will happen, DMV will have a hearing to determine if their License should be revoked; renewed or modified.
  • PiggySweet
    PiggySweet Posts: 60 Member
    I would explain how you feel to your father in law. It might seem absolutely awful to go behind her back, but try to get documented proof of all these things to avoid her saying you're a liar. I'm a new driver. I don't want to end up dead because some stubborn old lady doesn't care about anyone but herself.


    My boyfriend's dad died in a car accident. I never got to meet him. I wish i did.
  • cjsgrimlin
    cjsgrimlin Posts: 246
    Bad thing is dad knows all of this and is still letting her because hes tired of hearing it. (he works nonstop shift at a plant)

    Its gotten so bad her own sons refuse to take her anywhere because of her behavior (eating the wrong food when dad isn't around, complaining)

    Also me and my siser in law have stopped wanting to see her because all she wants to do is complain about how bad she hurts. We have told dad over and over we do not like this, but alas, out of our hands.

    I'm afraid the only way he is going to listen is when she gets in a wreck and hurts herself or someone else.

    And my husband is tired of me complaining to him so i needed to see if i was crazy for thinking this way!!
  • ashlbubba
    ashlbubba Posts: 224 Member
    It's hard to tell exactly want the issue is here... if one of those surgery's corrected her vision so she can now see well enough to drive you shouldn't try and stop her (for that reason)..

    If your issue is that she doesn't deserve to drive because she's irresponsible with her health than that is wrong IMO.

    When it comes down to it it's her body and her life.. assuming she's of sound mind she knows exactly what she's doing to herself...it's sad because in a few years she may be completely dependent on her family to provide her with her daily activities.

    If she's been having regular blackouts because of uncontrolled diabetes than that is a major issue and is probably a good reason to get her off the road. My neighbor had a grand mal seizure at home (because of a prescription drug interaction) and she still lost her license for 6 months to make sure it wouldn't happen again.

    Having a driver's license gives people their independence and taking it away is something that needs serious consideration. Good luck to you!
  • cjsgrimlin
    cjsgrimlin Posts: 246
    The reason i vote for the take away is A. She is irresponsible with her health and in that can put others in danger if anything happens to her behind the wheel. B. i know she cannot see more that 50 feet in front of her which is not good IMO. and C. BEFORE we took it away the first time she nearly hit anyone she came across because she doesn't pay attention including nearly hitting me head on!

    Her blood sugar is not under control (and she uses that as an excuse to eat excessively), and i don't believe her vision is as good as she says it is.
  • zenchild
    zenchild Posts: 680 Member
    You may want to let her know that if she drives and hurts someone else, she could be sued. If she knows she is unsafe to drive and she does it anyway, and has a history of accidents that have happened, she could stand to lose a lot more than her driver's license. Manslaughter anyone?
  • 2muchsauce
    2muchsauce Posts: 1,078
    Do you have power of attorney over her? If not...........it's not your decision to make
  • RainHoward
    RainHoward Posts: 1,599 Member
    All you can do is hope she fails the test. If she does, make sure her insurance is paid up and hope she doesn't get someone killed.
  • BrownEyedGrrl
    BrownEyedGrrl Posts: 144 Member
    If she can't see very well then she shouldn't be able to pass the eye exam for the license
  • cjsgrimlin
    cjsgrimlin Posts: 246
    All you can do is hope she fails the test. If she does, make sure her insurance is paid up and hope she doesn't get someone killed.

    Yep thats where i am and i'm thankful; to have you guys to rant to. It lowers my blood pressure when i can get crap like this off my chest. All i can do now is hope she fails and hope if she doesn't then i hope she doesn't kill anyone (including me and my kids who will NEVER be in the car with her driving)
  • sarahrbraun
    sarahrbraun Posts: 2,261 Member
    Honestly, NO.

    I have never been in that position, and I hope I never have to be. My in laws are both elderly ( in their 80s) but haven't had an accident that I know of in at least 20 years. I would hope that when the time comes, they will make the decision to stop driving before an accident takes place.

    years ago I worked at a nursing home, and I got to know one lady very well. She was notorious for taking a cab everywhere. She told me one day that she had gotten in an accident--- she got confused, hit the wrong pedal and jumped the curb then hit something. The insurance company was going to replace her car, but she refused. She said she would feel HORRIBLE if she hit a person next time, and she could not live with that. She voluntarily gave up her license.

    My husband is epileptic, and he has NOT legally lost his license, but his doctor has requested that he not drive for 6 months after a few of his seizures. I know a lady who literally had to renew her license every 6 months because she was an unstable epileptic--she would have to take a letter from her doctor in that showed she had been seizure free for 6 months.
  • shanae727
    shanae727 Posts: 546 Member
    She is as much a danger to others as she is to herself. Driving isn't ALL about how well you see.

    ^this!!!!
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