How often do you see your partners parents?

Well, my husband and I live in NC, his dad lives in DE and his mom in NY, so I don't see them much at all. He and I have been together for 22 years and I have probably seen his parents in person maybe 15 times. He calls them almost daily. His dad calls him a couple of times a week. His mom never calls him.

Fortunately he loves my parents and they love him and we live near them so we see them a lot.

For the past several years, I only see my partners' parents once or twice a year. I have panic attacks with agoraphbia and so it's very difficult for me to travel more than a few miles from home. His folks live about an hour away by car so I only see them when they come up to visit. We get along very well and like each other a lot, so it's only my difficulties that keep us from seeing each other more often. In fact, I cant wait until I can go down to visit them like I used to.

Never. We haven't seen them in years. They are not nice people and we don't associate with people who bring negativity to our lives, so they had to go. That sounds harsh, but it has been a great relief for my husband and I don't miss their ugliness one bit.

we live with them but miss my parents they became really far when we shifted....

I live on an island inbetween Ireland and the UK and my other half is originally from the UK. His mum visits maybe once a year and I've never met his Dad (down and out loser!).

Last time his mum visited was July for my daughter's 4th birthday and after she left, we never heard from her for a month. Turns out she's an ungrateful b*tch and wasn't happy that we barbecued it up over that weekend as it was really hot. URGH!

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Unfortunately daily because we are living with them right now. :frown: Before that the most we went would be 2 weeks without seeing them.

Anyway last night I called his folks to say thank you for the present that they had bought me whilst being in Florida then next thing i feel like im being attacked. "Have we done something to upset you?" "You haven't been here in months" "You live with our son so if there is a issue you need to tell us"

I was like WOAW WOAW WOAW! No there isn't issue but I feel like there is one now!

My dad or my brother hasn't rung up my partner and had a go at him for not coming their houses since March, and the reason my partner doesn't go is because he cant be bothered where I had genuine reasons.

Im not trying to ask for the reasons but it makes it hard to say "yea" or "nay" to a point.

I avoid BOTH my MIL and my own mother.

MIL often needs to be reminded that when someone invites her to their home for a dinner, holiday dinner, function, etc, that one must not be discussing their pity-poor-her/medical issues in the middle of people trying to eat their food - she being a former RN, thinks its ok to hold certain body-fluid/function related talk in the middle of a full course dinner. I can handle that type of talk when Im having coffee, or as I expect it to be: at work, but not at my dinner table.

This woman had the BALLS to criticize the 100% healthy dinner I created for Thanksgiving one year at my dinner table.. She was pissed that there were no sweet-potato pie with marshmallows, no green beans swimming in a boat of processed canned soup, no fruit pies, no this-that. No Stove-top stuffing (SALT LICK FROM HELL!) I had everything made from scratch, fresh vegetables, homemade minestrone soup, two types of stuffing (meat, whole grain bread-based), and the desserts I made, I had fresh fruit with real whipped cream, and I made an Apple-Fig Tart Fine that the only thing bad about it was the crust. That item was probably the only "bad" food I had because of it being an old-school crust.

She stared at the steamed broccoli with shavings of parmesan, the freshly steamed green/wax beans with rosemary and garlic, the boiled sweet potato with butter and herbs and spewed nothing but negative comments. - - - - Her Son told her "we told you that you were more than welcomed to bring a dish that you like, but you chose not to. You are criticizing my wife's cooking at OUR table!"... I sat there and didnt eat a damn thing, I was so angry. The woman is a diabetic, you would THINK she would have been THANKFUL for a Thanksgiving meal where I willingly considered her medical situation (I eat 100% clean foods!), but nope! That ungrateful wench never again was welcomed into our home for dinner. She knows that I wont put up with her negativity either. I had been up 36 consecutive hours prepping, cooking, baking, cleaning-as-I-went, etc. That ungrateful witch!

My own mother is just as bad, if not worse. I cannot ever go back to her home: she is a two-pack-per-day/light up the next cigarette with the one about to be extinguished smoker who despite the fact she is on (literally) 12 different medications, drinks alot, eats horribly, doesnt care about taking care of herself, but is so damn quick to try the next best over the counter pill from Dr. Oz and dare preach to me what I should be doing for my own health. She is a manipulate, verbally abusive woman, who willingly lives in a toxic environment with a man who treats her like garbage. Despite many people telling her to leave him, she uses the excuse that "my generation we dont leave the men we marry - no matter how bad it gets"... OHHHHHHH MY GAWD!!!! I ask her "did you talk with Dr. Collins about those pills to see if you will run into problems with your current meds?" She retorts with "if it works, then Ill tell him"... We have the same PCP, mind you. I reminded her that she should not be taking anything without asking if she could have a reaction.

The minute she starts jer verbal abuse to me, I pick up my keys and I leave her home. She will try to stop me from leaving, pulls the fake tears of "please dont leave, please dont go", but I refuse to listen, so I leave. I wont even pick up my phone when she tries to call. I get harassed for the same food choices that my MIL harasses me for. "You arent living! Why would anyone want to listen to a doctor that says 'you cant have this' 'you cant have that', sounds pretty stupid to me"... The minute she says that, Im no-holds barred: "Amongst the two of us, who has experienced two full blown heart attacks, two strokes, pericarditis and more convulsions from alcohol mixed with prescription medications before the age of 50? Who is it Ma??? Ill tell you right now, it sure as hell isnt me so dont you dare sit there and think you know it all - because you dont. Yeah, I listened to medical experts when I found out about food allergies and sensitivities - yeah thats stupid. I listened to medical experts when they told me that my cholesterol was extremely high and was able to get rid of it in three months and shocked the experts - yeah thats stupid. What kind of person thinks its stupid? Who the hell do you think you are??"

This is just a "PINCH" of what goes on that gives me the line-drawn-here and I never cross it. I want nothing to do with them. My husband and I deal with alot of negativity in our jobs (he is a trucker, I work in a large medical billing division for 300+ doctors), and when we get home, we enjoy the peace, quiet and tranquility of each other, our good friends, and the few relatives who actually 'get' where we are coming from. Our whole lives revolved around very toxic family members, toxic clients and we just dont want any of it any more. We have addressed the issues with the responsible members of the family - we definitely have a voice to be heard when it gets really thick. They dont have to like what they hear, but they have to know that what they are doing, what they are saying that comes off in a negative manner, is NOT acceptable and we dont have to tolerate it for one nanosecond.

I've seen my parents once this year. I've seen my bf's parents twice. I talk to my mom on the phone every other week or so. My bf lives in the same neighborhood as his parents and sees them at least once a month.

No one's complained. I guess we just have different expectations for how often we'll visit.

2-3 times a week.

Right now my husband stays with his parents and I stay with mine (for money reasons). So I see my in-laws once a month when I fly down the coast to see my husband.

My MIL is overly attached so I see her far more than I would like to. I have managed to keep it down to once a week, my husband has to see her twice a week and she freaks if he doesn't talk to her on the phone everyday.
My parents I only see once every 2 weeks or so, and they live a lot closer to us than my MIL does.

Weekly, we attend mass with them and my brother and sister in law, they are amazing people, I love spending time with them... I have been very blessed in regards to my in laws

I'd say I DON'T see them about 1 day a week...

I work for their company.