The Green Devil . . . Jealousy!

I know, kinda depressing. We should all be happy for each other's progress! The good news is you have the support here and it is very supportive! Keep at it! Good luck! How is it going?

For some, it means failure for them. I have a friend, a very CLOSE friend, that is all about the competition. She has to be prettier, she has to be thinner, she has to get the most attention...I realized that letting it bother me only means I'm competing too. For something I will never get from her, even though I give it.

Just find another friend to support you! We are all here for you!!

Just wanted to say Congratulations on losing 15 pounds!! That is great!!!!!!!:drinker: :drinker:

I can totally understand how you feel! Especially the part about their excuses for not having lost more. I also get a lot of people saying things like "Why the hell are you on a diet? Don't be stupid", which I find extremely rude - just because my goal is reasonably small doesn't mean that I shouldn't be striving to be as healthy as I can be!

It's great here, because people can understand and are willing to listen and to praise - without being patronising or insincere. It's nice

Hope you feel better soon. It's very easy to get stressed when you are worn down and tired, and people don't help with their bad attitudes. Keep up the good work.

I'm sorry! I know exactly what you're going through.

I had the same thing happen to me today, too. Some people in the BL contest at work are starting to get really crabby. Now that they're not in 1st place - suddenly it's no longer a "friendly" competition. I was actually told that my success wouldn't stick since I was only doing it for the money! Nice group support and motivation. I really thought it would be fun to be in it with a bunch of people that I knew but now I don't think so. The funny thing is that the most supportive people are my friends who are not taking part in the contest and my husband.

I have to admit that I come here and lurk to get the supportive fix that I need. It's like a shot in the arm!

My Wife is Kinda like that, She is very happy when I first tell her, but then when I go in to the closet and try on some cloths I havnt been able to wear in a while and fit into them finally im like oh yeah and she is like yep and walks off. lol

Some people just cannot be happy for someone else, or even if they are actually happy for that person they cannot express it. If they are your friend, you try to just accept their limitation as a human imperfection. Doesn't mean you don't get irritated by it though! You don't get everything in any relationship from one person, so if there are some who cannot congratulate you on your weight loss achievement, maybe they can on other things. And you know there are those of us on this site that will appreciate your hard work and dedication to the weight loss! No matter how small or large that may be. To each his own!

I find that people aren't always willing to celebrate your little losses, but once you hit a big number everyone wants to know how you did it, and how they can do it too. I've been experiencing that this time around. It's a sad fact, but when someone's losing weight, we generally expect them to fail just because that's normally what happens.

You reason you are like that is because you have class...and, that's why we are here to support your efforts...YOU, GO, GIRL:drinker: :flowerforyou:

I wasn't trying to suggest you actually gloat. I was suggesting that's the way they are (mis)interpreting you talking about your success (it would be a way for them to justify not being happy for you in their own mind). Congrats to you, by the way!

Theres a word for people like that, their called "HATERS", you just keep doing your thing. And remember, you're doing it for you, not them.

My opinion is people who aren't sharing our lifestyle, or aren't as passionate about living a healthier lifestyle as we are, tend to not care about our accomplishments.

It really sucks that we work very hard to lose weight and keep it off EVERYDAY, yet we don't get compliments (aka verbal rewards) EVERYDAY for our hard work.

However, to defend the other side, I find how now that I'm in this mindset, I want to talk about it all the time, to anyone who will listen. It's very similar to gym rats and muscleheads who CONSTANTLY talk about their muscles (which is ULTRA annoying to me). I wonder if sometimes I annoy people with talking about healthy living all the time.

So maybe others around us do support us. They just don't feel the need to verbalize it everyday, because it's quite annoying to them.

Am I even making sense at this point?.....

I know exactly how it feels...one of my roommates is always complaining to me about how she really needs to lose weight and as soon as I step in and to tell her I know how she feels cause i need too also and we should work together she tells me I can't possibly be in the same boat as her just because I don't need to lose as much weight as she does.
No matter how much weight we need (or want) to lose we should always support our friends who are trying to do the same because we all need people who will be there to support us. That is what I love about this site, you get support from people you have never met before when you can't even support from your own friends. Good Luck!!!