**LOVE SURVEY**how you knew he/she was "THE ONE"

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1. How long after meeting your SO did you knew he/she was the one?

2. How long did it take to declare it to him/her?

3. How did you know (describe the feeling inside of you that made you realize--man, this is it)?

4. If applicable, how long till you were engaged?

5. How long after were you married?

6. Did anyone oppose your union/relationship?
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  • Dub_D
    Dub_D Posts: 1,760 Member
    I'm just gonna answer the question in the title because I'm lazy...

    We had a "one night stand" and I knew the next morning after i sobered up.
  • _granola
    _granola Posts: 326
    1. How long after meeting your SO did you knew he/she was the one? I don't actually know what "the one" means? I define it as the one you *want* to spend the rest of your life with, because I don't believe there is just one person you are *supposed* to spend the rest of your life with. I am unimaginative and unromantic like that. So, I would say about 3 years into the relationship. I think it takes more "settling into" a relationship and getting to know the person. I don't see the rush in knowing or getting married. If you want to spend the rest of your life with them, and you continue to want to, you will. There is know "supposed to" for me.

    2. How long did it take to declare it to him/her? We just knew it and know it. Again, I'm terribly unromantic.

    3. How did you know (describe the feeling inside of you that made you realize--man, this is it)? I don't think the feeling can really be described, and I think it varies from person to person, obviously. You just feel it and know it.

    4. If applicable, how long till you were engaged? Not engaged. No plans to be.

    5. How long after were you married? Not married. No plans to be. Trust me, I'm happy in my relationship. I feel like, even after almost 8 years (!) we are still having far too much fun to get married. And I really dislike the idea of having a wedding.

    6. Did anyone oppose your union/relationship? Definitely not. Ask any of our friends or family and they will tell you how great we are for one another.
  • needernt
    needernt Posts: 675 Member
    Girls can find theis partner just in some meeting . amazing
  • taylor5877
    taylor5877 Posts: 1,792 Member
    1. How long after meeting your SO did you knew he/she was the one? 1 week, I actually met her family and spent a day with them before we were even officially "together". Her mom is the most amazing person I know besides my wife. That sewed it up for me.

    2. How long did it take to declare it to him/her? 3 weeks

    3. How did you know (describe the feeling inside of you that made you realize--man, this is it)? She went fishing with me for first date, we have a lot in common and similar family upbringings

    4. If applicable, how long till you were engaged? 7 months

    5. How long after were you married? 5 months

    6. Did anyone oppose your union/relationship? Nope.
  • ellehcimyelhsa
    ellehcimyelhsa Posts: 110
    1. How long after meeting your SO did you knew he/she was the one? We met when we were five...in kindergarten. We hated each other for a long time. We ran into each other in college on a call at 3 am. I was an EMT and he was my police back up. It was pretty much instant from there.

    2. How long did it take to declare it to him/her? We both knew for a while. I think a few months, but we always talked about our future and things like that.

    3. How did you know (describe the feeling inside of you that made you realize--man, this is it)? He wanted to move to South Carolina for a job (we live in Ohio), and I just realized that I didn't want to be without him. It was a mix of scary, happy, elated, anxious all in one.

    4. If applicable, how long till you were engaged? From the beginning of our relationship, about 18 months.

    5. How long after were you married? 9 months. We didn't have a big wedding, so not a ton of planning involved. Just our parents, grandparents and siblings at our church with our pastor.

    6. Did anyone oppose your union/relationship? At first my parents did. They thought we were too young to get married (21 & 22 when we got engaged, 22 & 23 when married). They got over it when I got pregnant though haha.
  • yeshualovesme
    yeshualovesme Posts: 121 Member
    1. How long after meeting your SO did you knew he/she was the one? Right after I beat him at Street Fighter

    2. How long did it take to declare it to him/her? 4 days

    3. How did you know (describe the feeling inside of you that made you realize--man, this is it)? I thought of life without him and it didn't make sense.

    4. If applicable, how long till you were engaged? 2 years

    5. How long after were you married? After engagement, 4 months

    6. Did anyone oppose your union/relationship? Yep - friends because we broke up and got back together a couple of times


    Married almost 15 years with 3 kids :D
  • _granola
    _granola Posts: 326
    1. How long after meeting your SO did you knew he/she was the one? Right after I beat him at Street Fighter

    This is excellent. :happy:
  • chivalryder
    chivalryder Posts: 4,391 Member
    I don't have a SO, or anyone of interest, so I'll answer these questions for my parents, to the best of my abilities:


    1. How long after meeting your SO did you knew he/she was the one?

    Pretty much immediately.

    2. How long did it take to declare it to him/her?

    1 month.

    3. How did you know (describe the feeling inside of you that made you realize--man, this is it)?

    I cannot answer this.

    4. If applicable, how long till you were engaged?

    1 month.

    5. How long after were you married?

    32 years, and still going!

    edit: I read that wrong. I thought it said "How long have you been married/were you married for?" Correct answer: About 6 months.

    6. Did anyone oppose your union/relationship?

    My Mother's mother wasn't happy that she was marrying a French-speaking man (My Grandmother is/was a very stiff upper-lip, upper class woman with the stubbornness of the Scottish).
  • jazzalea
    jazzalea Posts: 412 Member
    I definitely didn`t know when I met him.... couldn`t stand him barely talked to him for the first 7 months....

    We never declared it to each other.... we finally just admitted it to ourselves...

    we were together four 4 years

    his family ripped us apart

    AND THAT SUCKS cuz even though we are no longer together it`s because of how MUCH we love each other and about wanting whats best for the one you love
  • rachelrb85
    rachelrb85 Posts: 579 Member
    1. How long after meeting your SO did you knew he/she was the one? - The first night we had more than a 2 sentence conversation

    2. How long did it take to declare it to him/her? - A week maybe

    3. How did you know (describe the feeling inside of you that made you realize--man, this is it)? - I just felt like I didn't want any other guy in my life and if I lost him or didn't have him near me I would go crazy

    4. If applicable, how long till you were engaged? - 5 months

    5. How long after were you married? - 6 months

    6. Did anyone oppose your union/relationship? - Not that I know of! I thought they would because we kind of rushed into things and we were from different countries but then I realized who gives a ****?? I had my friends and family's support and that was more than I needed.
  • oregonzoo
    oregonzoo Posts: 4,251 Member
    1. How long after meeting your SO did you knew he/she was the one? Right away

    2. How long did it take to declare it to him/her? About two weeks

    3. How did you know (describe the feeling inside of you that made you realize--man, this is it)? We talked from the moment we woke, till we went to sleep. ALL DAY. I had a moment when I said "if you don't turn back now, you can never" and I couldn't.

    4. If applicable, how long till you were engaged? 2.5 years

    5. How long after were you married? It will end up being about 14 months

    6. Did anyone oppose your union/relationship? Yes a lot of people. A ton. Some still do.
  • Im_NotPerfect
    Im_NotPerfect Posts: 2,181 Member
    1. How long after meeting your SO did you knew he/she was the one? A couple of weeks. We knew within 6 weeks of dating we were getting married. Actually HE knew BEFORE we started dating...or so he says!

    2. How long did it take to declare it to him/her? I don't remember, but I know I said it first...

    3. How did you know (describe the feeling inside of you that made you realize--man, this is it)? When after a month of dating, I was still excited to see him and couldn't wait for him to come over. Other guys I dated, I got bored within a couple of weeks of dating. Then when we started living together we were literally together 24/7 (worked together, so we went to work together, ate lunch together, came home together, etc) and not once did we get sick of each other. Now 12 years later, I STILL can't wait to be home with him!

    4. If applicable, how long till you were engaged? 9 months

    5. How long after were you married? 1 year 10 months...but just because right after we were engaged (like 5 days after) we signed the title on our house. Couldn't do a house and wedding in the same year.

    6. Did anyone oppose your union/relationship? Nope! I think his family was GRATEFUL I got him to settle down! LOL

    Edited to add: Married 10 years yesterday and have 2 kids. Still can't imagine my life without him!
  • bsuew
    bsuew Posts: 628 Member
    1. How long after meeting your SO did you knew he/she was the one? after the 2nd date

    2. How long did it take to declare it to him/her? a couple weeks

    3. How did you know (describe the feeling inside of you that made you realize--man, this is it)? Never thought I would love again and I did without a doubt

    4. If applicable, how long till you were engaged? Met in November engaged Christmas

    5. How long after were you married? Met in November Married May 20th so 6 months

    6. Did anyone oppose your union/relationship? No
  • Heather_Rider
    Heather_Rider Posts: 1,159 Member
    Long story short.. i got divorced. We were best friends. I couldnt afford a house alone with my 2 kids. He moved in to help me with bills... 11 months later we were drunk & partying while my kids were at their dads, the next morning we woke up married. Been married almost 8 years now & its been the best 8 years of my life. :heart:
  • Salkeela
    Salkeela Posts: 367 Member
    1. How long after meeting your SO did you knew he/she was the one?

    1 week

    2. How long did it take to declare it to him/her?

    ? Probably months!

    3. How did you know (describe the feeling inside of you that made you realize--man, this is it)?

    Comfortable, secure, easiest person to be around, fun,

    4. If applicable, how long till you were engaged?

    4 years

    5. How long after were you married?

    6 months

    6. Did anyone oppose your union/relationship?

    No


    And he's still THE BEST after 26 years marriage!
  • rhvandan
    rhvandan Posts: 185
    1. How long after meeting your SO did you knew he/she was the one? **On our first date. We were actually seriously contemplating driving to Vegas that night.

    2. How long did it take to declare it to him/her? We said it the next morning.

    3. How did you know (describe the feeling inside of you that made you realize--man, this is it)? Overwlhelming. Completely comfortable with each other, passionate about each other, insanity, crystal clear images of the future together.

    4. If applicable, how long till you were engaged? First date was April 15, 2000. We discussed marriage pretty quickly, decided we wanted a November 1st wedding, so he proposed on Halloween 2001

    5. How long after were you married? Married November 1st, 2002 (almost 10 years now)

    6. Did anyone oppose your union/relationship? Not that I know of. Some of his guy friends felt I wasnt girly enough for him, but to them a woman is measured by her bra cup size, so they werent credible. My family and friends all love my hubby. I was young when we met (19) and married (21) but now it isnt even an issue.
  • MB_Positif
    MB_Positif Posts: 8,897 Member
    1. How long after meeting your SO did you knew he/she was the one? About 2 days.

    2. How long did it take to declare it to him/her? About 2 days.

    3. How did you know (describe the feeling inside of you that made you realize--man, this is it)? I felt a peace over me and a general feeling of "I'm done, I never have to date again!"

    4. If applicable, how long till you were engaged? About 1 1/2 months.

    5. How long after were you married? About 3 1/2 months.

    6. Did anyone oppose your union/relationship? Not full on opposition but lots of people thought I was moving too quickly. We were married for 7 years last month!
  • melinda200208
    melinda200208 Posts: 525 Member
    1. How long after meeting your SO did you knew he/she was the one? I knew FOR SURE on the first date!

    2. How long did it take to declare it to him/her? Dont remember??

    3. How did you know (describe the feeling inside of you that made you realize--man, this is it)? Well, I have never gotten "butterflies" seeing a guy. With my husband now, I got the butterflies. It is so hard to explain. I never believed people before when they said "you will know when you meet the right guy" Well, if you are not sure, maybe you need some time away.

    4. If applicable, how long till you were engaged? We were together for 2 years and 3 months

    5. How long after were you married? 9 months

    6. Did anyone oppose your union/relationship? Not at all. My previous relationship, I did have people oppose- which makes sense now
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  • DoomCakes
    DoomCakes Posts: 806 Member
    1. How long after meeting your SO did you knew he/she was the one?

    It didn't take long. I honestly want to say it was when he just grabbed me, kissed me, and then just sitting up and talking all night about our lives, then turns out... his step brother is the guy I had a big crush on from middle school through part of high school, it was just funny (no I have no feeligns for that guy now, he was a jerk) but yea... I'd say, 2 weeks. Haha.

    2. How long did it take to declare it to him/her?

    I told him flat out. I'm not afraid to admit that kind of stuff. It was a bit hard for him at the time because I was one of three girls he was talking to. But he picked me in the end because I was the least crazy and he actually enjoyed the time he spent with me, oh and I didn't call him crying and cussing him out all the time.

    3. How did you know (describe the feeling inside of you that made you realize--man, this is it)?

    I dunno. It kinda felt like a plummit feeling. Like, this rush and excitement at the same time as fear. Honestly, the way I KNEW was when I was able to tell him whatever, even if it was just like "hey, I gotta poop. I'll be back" Oh, and when I could just laugh and joke and be me, even when I'm in a quiet non talkitive phase.

    4. If applicable, how long till you were engaged?

    We're not engaged technically. No ring. But about 2 years down the road we've been talking about it. He has to talk to my dad still, our plans are to get married before anything happens to my terminally ill grandmother who is major in my life and I want at my wedding.

    5. How long after were you married?

    Not applicable yet, we want to get married next year, so about 3 years?

    6. Did anyone oppose your union/relationship?

    Umm, well, besides his psycho ex who after a small fight over whose house we were going to hang out at, she tried to say "hey, I can make it work again, give me a chance" at first the one of the two girls who were tryign to get with him didn't like me, she does now. The other was instantly ok with me. She wasn't serious about him, just a crush, so she didn't have a lot of feelings invested. His mom loves me, my family likes him, so we're pretty good and fortunate there!
  • vbrent07
    vbrent07 Posts: 115
    1. How long after meeting your SO did you knew he/she was the one? about 6 months, I knew I wanted to be with him after he kind of saw right through my attitude ( I got taken advantage of a lot before him and that kind of made me a huge b**** for a while because I was just tired of it) and told me that I was actually a really nice person and I should stop trying to hide it

    2. How long did it take to declare it to him/her? 2 1/2 years

    3. How did you know (describe the feeling inside of you that made you realize--man, this is it)? Walking down the isle and crying because I was happy to be with him because he accepts me for who I am

    4. If applicable, how long till you were engaged? 4 1/2 years

    5. How long after were you married? 1 year

    6. Did anyone oppose your union/relationship? My sister doesn't like him but didn't tell me till after we got married

    We've been together for 8 years, married for 2, with 1 kid. It's hard at times and he drives me crazy but it is worth it!
  • lmarshel
    lmarshel Posts: 674 Member
    Long story short.. i got divorced. We were best friends. I couldnt afford a house alone with my 2 kids. He moved in to help me with bills... 11 months later we were drunk & partying while my kids were at their dads, the next morning we woke up married. Been married almost 8 years now & its been the best 8 years of my life. :heart:

    That's a helluva story! Love it :flowerforyou:

    1. How long after meeting your SO did you knew he/she was the one? I think my heart knew right away, but it took my head a while to catch up.

    2. How long did it take to declare it to him/her? It's been so long now I cannot even remember

    3. How did you know (describe the feeling inside of you that made you realize--man, this is it)? First, I let him take me out again after he stood me up on our first date. And I realized I had slowly dropped all my other "boyfriends" and was dating him exclusively.

    4. If applicable, how long till you were engaged? 2 months

    5. How long after were you married? 1 year and 9 days after we met

    6. Did anyone oppose your union/relationship? My mother did NOT want me to get married. It wasn't him, she just thought I was too young. But I was adamant, so she eventually went along with it.

    We celebrated our 25th anniversary in July. My heart still does a little flip when I see him across a crowded room. :love:
  • jflint86
    jflint86 Posts: 74 Member
    1. How long after meeting your SO did you knew he/she was the one? - Immediately. We were 15, sitting at the same lunch table at school, talking, and kept finishing each others' sentences (awwww!).

    2. How long did it take to declare it to him/her? - Not really sure, we both kind of knew immediately, don't remember talking about it so much. Maybe a few months?

    3. How did you know (describe the feeling inside of you that made you realize--man, this is it)? - I could be myself and he loved me regardless. We just clicked. It felt right. Everyone could see it.

    4. If applicable, how long till you were engaged? - Dated for 3 years, got engaged at age 18.

    5. How long after were you married? - 8 month engagement

    6. Did anyone oppose your union/relationship? - My parents did at first, we were only 19 when we married, they thought we were crazy. But we knew we were supposed to be together, no point putting off the inevitable. :) They came around, though. Everyone else KNEW we were going to get married after we'd only been dating 2-3 weeks. It was glaringly obvious.

    Been married 6 crazy, incredible, hard, wonderful, rewarding years now! (together 10 years total)
  • bella_babe_86
    bella_babe_86 Posts: 503 Member
    1. How long after meeting your SO did you knew he/she was the one? Immediately lol I was 5, and told his dad I was gonna marry him someday...15 years later we went out on a real date and hit it off. I still thought he was the one.

    2. How long did it take to declare it to him/her? Jokingly, a few weeks, he said it first though, shocked me!

    3. How did you know (describe the feeling inside of you that made you realize--man, this is it)? He had every single quality I had ever imagined I would want in one person, the perfect southern gentleman, again I was pretty biased about this guy because of my little girl crush, but he proved to be even more amazing than I could have ever imagined.

    4. If applicable, how long till you were engaged? About 8 months after our first date.

    5. How long after were you married? Almost a year after the engagement.

    6. Did anyone oppose your union/relationship? Absolutely not, everyone loves him and Ive always been like a part of his family even before we were together, everyone was very accepting.
  • lilawolf
    lilawolf Posts: 1,690 Member
    1. How long after meeting your SO did you knew he/she was the one?
    I knew we would be great friends within a couple days. I knew we would be great together after a couple of weeks. We are the kind of couple that are best friends who happen to have great sex.

    2. How long did it take to declare it to him/her?
    A month or a little more

    3. How did you know (describe the feeling inside of you that made you realize--man, this is it)?
    Comfortable warm and fuzzies. The smile that you can't keep off your face when you think about them or see them. Again we are a slow burning romance rather than one of the spectacular, fiery types.

    4. If applicable, how long till you were engaged?
    A year and a half

    5. How long after were you married?
    A year to the day after the engagement. We've been married almost 2 years now.

    6. Did anyone oppose your union/relationship?
    Nope. He was grandma approved when I met him. He was actually renting a room from her, when my mom and I moved in (after my mom's divorce). I met him by moving in with him. We spent time together every day, so our year and a half of dating, would be like someone else's 3-4 years...

    7. The quote that expresses your relationship the best? We met, we clicked, we went with it. He is still my very best friend. .:flowerforyou:
  • sevsmom
    sevsmom Posts: 1,172 Member
    1. How long after meeting your SO did you knew he/she was the one?

    I went home from our first date, phoned my mother and told her I was going to marry the guy I just had a date with (4 months after my divorce was complete).


    2. How long did it take to declare it to him/her?

    about 10 days.


    3. How did you know (describe the feeling inside of you that made you realize--man, this is it)?

    Utterly confident. Otherwise indescribable.


    4. If applicable, how long till you were engaged?

    He bought the ring after 3 weeks. But didn't give it to me for another 3 months (had to win over the family!! LOL).

    5. How long after were you married?

    We married 8.5 months after our first dates.

    6. Did anyone oppose your union/relationship?

    My big sister was ADAMANT that I postpone the wedding. Didn't happen!!

    :-)

  • mkedward
    mkedward Posts: 3 Member
    1. How long after meeting your SO did you knew he/she was the one?
    I'd say it took me 2 months, the feelings were there immediately but I wasn't completely sure until then.

    2. How long did it take to declare it to him/her?
    He declared it after ~ 3 months (on new years) and I needed a little longer. I declared it a month after that (valentine's day)

    3. How did you know (describe the feeling inside of you that made you realize--man, this is it)?
    Idk, it's hard to explain. I think there were a couple times. The first, a friend was talking about losing their significant other and I realized that I couldn't sympathize because I couldn't even fathom what life would be like without him. I honestly could not even think of the scenario where he wouldn't be in my life. Another big moment happened when we were hanging out in my dorm, just being goofy, and he did something that unintentionally made me laugh. He got kind of embarassed, and then really bashful. My heart melted at that moment, getting to see that innocent, soft side of him.

    4. If applicable, how long till you were engaged?
    N/A- not yet anyways.

    5. How long after were you married?
    N/A- We know we want to get married, it's just too expensive to even think about right now.

    6. Did anyone oppose your union/relationship?
    I think my dog gets a little jealous... but other than that, nope!
  • Corryn78
    Corryn78 Posts: 215
    1. How long after meeting your SO did you knew he/she was the one? I started thinking it a couple months after meeting.

    2. How long did it take to declare it to him/her? around 6 months I think

    3. How did you know (describe the feeling inside of you that made you realize--man, this is it)? He is the first man I ever felt truly happy to be with. No questions, no worries. No...what ifs.

    4. If applicable, how long till you were engaged? we aren't

    5. How long after were you married? might not ever...neither of us are really worried about it.

    6. Did anyone oppose your union/relationship? After we first met, my friends thought we were not a great fit, but after seeing us together, they knew better :)
  • hollyk57
    hollyk57 Posts: 520 Member
    Wow... it's like an interrogation (squinting in the light now)... but I love my honey so I'll reply

    1. How long after meeting your SO did you knew he/she was the one? Immediately - I know it sounds corny but I think when you're soul mates, something just clicks

    2. How long did it take to declare it to him/her? Not very long - we both declared it...he did first, within about a week of meeting

    3. How did you know (describe the feeling inside of you that made you realize--man, this is it)? Everything felt right - perfect - he seemed to good to be true, but 12 years later, he still is THAT perfect.

    4. If applicable, how long till you were engaged? We were in a long distance relationship for years unfortunately, but we were engaged very early on.

    5. How long after were you married? Shortly after getting to move in together, after being kept apart for so long in a long-distance relationship. Been happily married ever since.

    6. Did anyone oppose your union/relationship? Yes - my family because he is older than me, so they never gave him a chance. I didn't care though - I left the state, moved to CO and married him.
  • Kat5343
    Kat5343 Posts: 451 Member
    1. How long after meeting your SO did you knew he/she was the one?

    After a couple of months I fell in love, but I knew in my heart after about 6 months that he was the one I wanted to spend the rest of my life with.

    2. How long did it take to declare it to him/her?

    I told him I loved him after about 3-4 months. Unfortunately I was the one to say it first but now he says it all the time... no harm no foul.

    3. How did you know (describe the feeling inside of you that made you realize--man, this is it)?

    He makes me feel those butterflies in my stomach when he walks into the room. Whenever anything happens he is the first person I want to tell about it. I miss him when he is gone.

    4. If applicable, how long till you were engaged?

    We are not engaged. We have been together a year and are discussing moving in together in about 6 months.

    5. How long after were you married?
    NA

    6. Did anyone oppose your union/relationship?
    No, Actually, my parents love him and his mom loves me. :love:
  • Lize11e
    Lize11e Posts: 419
    1. How long after meeting your SO did you knew he/she was the one? ABOUT 6 MONTHS

    2. How long did it take to declare it to him/her? TOOK ME LONGER THAN IT DID HIM. HE SAID IT TO ME WITHIN A WEEK. I WASN'T READY YET.

    3. How did you know (describe the feeling inside of you that made you realize--man, this is it)? HE IS THE SMARTEST MAN I'VE EVER MET. HE'S FUNNY, HANDSOME AND A GENIUS (literally). HE HAS AN EXCELLENT WORK ETHIC. THE WHOLE PICTURE JUST SPREAD OUT IN FRONT OF ME AND I WAS HOOKED.

    4. If applicable, how long till you were engaged? ABOUT 9 MONTHS

    5. How long after were you married? 17 MONTHS

    6. Did anyone oppose your union/relationship? SOME OF MY FAMILY DIDN'T LIKE HIM AT FIRST. THEY WARMED UP ONCE THEY GOT TO KNOW HIM THOUGH AND THEY ALL LOVE HIM NOW.

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