I often wonder why

pluginchambers
pluginchambers Posts: 21
edited January 1 in Chit-Chat
I never turned into a girly girl who is really into fashion, stilettos, being perfect, spending hours and so much time on hair, tanning, going to extremes to be 'skinny'.

I know a lot of girls like this, and I find it hard not to be pressured into trying to be 'skinny' too. Don't get me wrong, I am not fat, just a curvy size 10, but it is so hard not to be sucked into feeling bad about yourself seeing ladies I know who are squeezing into teeny size 6 clothes.

I've always myself been a bit of a geek. I'm a web dev, I love fantasy movies and I love to play video games and my clothes have always been a bit mis-matched. I myself would like to think I can be happy exercising a few times a week and eating sensibly just to stay curvy and try to keep toned. But why do I sometimes feel this pressure to be 'skinny'.

I'd just like to gather peoples opinions on what they find attractive in women, not on the exterior, but the interior too. Does a woman who is full on into being 'skinny' and glamorous float your boat?

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  • Ruger2506
    Ruger2506 Posts: 309 Member
    In my single days I would avoid the girls who take hours to get ready. To high maintenance for me.

    I'd take a girl who isn't afraid to get dirty while living life over a city girl who is afraid of dirt any day, even if the city girl was a drop dead gorgeous 10 and the country gal was a 6 at best.
  • Litlbeast
    Litlbeast Posts: 340 Member
    I'm more of a tomboy than a glam person, but to answer on the skinny topic.

    A long while back (heh) when I was in high school (I'm 42 now), I was anorexic and bulimic for three years. I was 5'4" and weighed 98 lbs. I lived on coffee and coca cola, and towards the end, I was making myself sick at least 3x per day. I saw blood (tmi sorry).

    My parents knew what was happening but did nothing, except insult me further, as did my younger brother who called me disgusting fairly often.

    I sat down one night and made a list of every food that came into my parents' home that didn't make me feel fat when I ate it. I called this the 'Pure Food Diet'. And after eating like that for a month, I stopped making myself binge and purge.

    Over the decades, it's come back once in a while. I always have to fight it. It also switched over to a new addiction - alcohol. Which, concerning that, I'm 3 days away from my big 30 days of sobriety. :) It's another battle that unlike the bulimia, I did not think I'd win, but finally I am winning.

    And what I found was, in my first week of sobriety, the urge to be 'skinny' came crashing BACK into my life like a tsunami. I started reading those skinny-girl websites, and my daily calories never got higher than 900. I remember one day where it was hard to walk up stairs because my thighs felt so week.

    A girl from the sobriety website I joined recommended I come to MyFitnessPal, and since then, I've steered away from the unhealthy version of the 'skinny' mentality, and lol - actually lost 4 lbs in the past week.

    So anyway, that was a novel - but there are these terms and lifestyles and I would even say 'childish' dreams - such as the skinny girl persona - that are so appealing to so many of us. But when you clear the misconceptions away and listen to people who are successful and healthy about it, like the ones here at MFP, the results and the impact on your life can be remarkable. :)

    You're a gorgeous woman, plugin - smart and glamorous, and I hope you can achieve your goals in a healthy way. Best of luck!
  • zachatta
    zachatta Posts: 1,340 Member
    The harsh reality of attraction, when it comes to males, is that it is primarily physical.

    While keep in mind, there are outliers to all sets of data, this is a general rule.

    Good news is, men vary in what they find attractive (gasp).

    If you are talking about you feeling attractive in general, without a male's perspective (which is a concept

    that isn't necessarily understood by men) then I don't know what to tell you.

    I find women are just as guilty perpetuating the "skinny is pretty" mentality.

    Anyways, live how you want. Just don't use this mentality as an excuse to blow up to 600 pounds,

    and then quote some Marilyn Monroe sayings that are out of context to justify bad habits.
  • IronmanPanda
    IronmanPanda Posts: 2,083 Member


    I've always myself been a bit of a geek. I'm a web dev, I love fantasy movies and I love to play video games and my clothes have always been a bit mis-matched. I myself would like to think I can be happy exercising a few times a week and eating sensibly just to stay curvy and try to keep toned. But why do I sometimes feel this pressure to be 'skinny'.
    You sound pretty awesome to me.
  • DamnImASexyBitch
    DamnImASexyBitch Posts: 740 Member
    The world takes all different kinds. There is nothing wrong with you and who you are. Just as I am the girly girl ( though I have my routine down to an hour tops ) and there is nothing wrong with me. I can also be the tom boy ( I grew up the only girl out of all boys ) and get into sports, video games, ect. I think the pressure you feel are the restrictions you're placing on yourself. You're trying to fit into what you think others view as the ideal. Just be happy with you. If you're not, no one else can be either.
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